therealdeal10:
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therealdeal10:
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aknopic:
MR SEUN, MODERATORS PLS CN U INTERVENE. I AM SOO SO CONFUSED :-

Cc.lalastica

adeadex2006:
gud day, am also suffering from the same problem. am shy and find it difficult to talk with people I don't no. I find it difficult to find a girl talk less of approaching them. while am in school I had girls as friends buh have never think of woo them.

UniqueGem:
Do you school in lagos?

cowleg:
My short but concise advice. You are the only one to take a vow and break your self from the shackles of severe introvercy, low self esteem, shyness. I rather say read missclasssy comment three times, write it out and recite it every morning.

missclasssy:
Op, one thing you have to understand is that you are an introvert and as an introvert you find it hard being around people and engaging in conversations especially when it's people you haven't met before.
As an introvert you are more energized by being alone. You would rather think and watch than talk.

But guess what, you are not alone. I am an introvert too and there are a lot of people out there like us.
The first thing you have to do is come to terms with your personality. Know that it's not a bad thing and be happy knowing that you have a distinctive personality that also has it's advantages.
Read up books about introvertion. I would recommend "Quite" by Susan Cain. It would help you in understanding a lot about your personality.

That being said I understand what you are going through and I would tell you, I have been I your shoes.
I would advise you just try to spend a little more time around people. Introverts don't like talking in the public but if there is a conversation about something we are into, or something we like, I bet you we would itch to say something.
So try socializing with people you share a thing or two with, or people with like passions. probably a book club/ reading group, a sports group, a musical group or just anything you re into. This would help in releasing those inhibitions a bit.
It's not going to be easy but I bet you would get used to it.
You could also spend time In public areas, like parks, you could learn a few social skills, gestures etc. This also helps.

It's not inherent in introverts to thrive in this kind of environments so always know when to retreat to energize so you don't over work yourself.

The world we live in could also be termed an "Extroverts world" and we introverts can only try to blend.

I wish you all the best.

RickRichards:

You best ask your doctor for a referral.

RickRichards:
Forget Nairaland. You need to see an experienced therapist.

hadizadeezy:
Be prayerful, the Good Lord will deliver you.

oluamid:
Work on your self-esteem. Become your sister's or a female course mate's best friend and have her demystify the women folks for you. Tell her to give you some tips. Dress well (don't dress to kill), be good at your studies, don't go out of your way to talk to all the ladies you meet. Always put a smile on your face, start conversations with a little compliment or an observation.

As a matter of fact, I can't tell you all you need to do. Just be yourself, read books to refine your speech and add to your knowledge and the ladies will come.

aknopic:

This uve said is one of things pple say. But its not true

hadizadeezy:
I think he's one of those kind that feels they don't need others around them, and now he's finding it difficult to relate, try to be friendly my dear @op

aknopic:
My name is akinwunmi am a student studying law.
I ave a huge problem relating with people especially girls
This is how the problem goes
when a girl talks to me, I feel difficulty replying, I just mumble words like I don't know how to speak good eng.
When i talk I just feel sth restraining my vocal cord
My movement is also not leftout, I just feel like I am not the one moving and thereby becoming absent minded.


Also when am about to talk to someone I feel like sth is in my head, my eyes will get dry, I get a feeling of mouth of odour all these block me from passing info thereby leading to BLACKOUT.


My public speaking is not also leftout. I feel pressured all arnd my body wen I am about to speak
I don't know if there's any one here that can help please I don't want my life and career to be ruined just because of this.

aknopic:
u might wanna think there is enough comment
here but most of the comments here are mine.
I ve heard a lot of stories that nairaland is a
place for solutions.
This is a career threatening problem and I need
advise from those who have been in my shoes out
there or professionals in this course.
I appreciate some of the comments I have seen but
PLEASE I need more or the best.
We are in our first semester break in my skul and
I ave enough time to read the comments that
could change my life forever.
Cc: seun, isilove, lalastical
THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR MOVING THIS TO
THE
FRONT PAGE

aknopic:
u might wanna think there is enough comment
here but most of the comments here are mine.
I ve heard a lot of stories that nairaland is a
place for solutions.
This is a career threatening problem and I need
advise for those who have been in my shoes out
there or professionals in this course.
I appreciate some of the comments I be seen but
pls I need more or the best.
We are in our first semester break in my skul and
I ave enough time to read the comments that
could change my life forever.
Cc: seun, isilove, lalastical
THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR MOVING THIS TO THE
FRONT PAGE