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Hello, oyinsho, Senatorkelvo, TheWisest, Beety26 and chenor, I have followed, plese kindly follow back.

dhabeautyjas:
one of the problems we have mostly in this part of the world is associating everything to spiritual.
in life, we are suppose to try to solve things physically first, if it fails then add spirituality.

OP, let me ask you some questions.
1. Do you think too much?
2. Have you tried to identify when you assimilate most?
3. do you have any strength (as in.. your best subject)?


my opinions are from experience as a teacher.

Let me give u some scenarios.
a. i had a colleague then in science class, her grade were bad and she moved to art and became the best student in her class till we graduated.

b. had a student once that all teachers had lost hope on, i tried to get close to her and realised she thinks alot cos of family problems and it was affecting her psycologically, to God be the glory, i was able to work on her psyche and she improved

Even me i wanted to become a "doctor" like every science student, and i was so good and mathematics and horible at biology. it took God and my parents intervention and am now in the right field and i graduated with good grades. i can assure you if i had dabbled into medicine, i will surely be a medical wounded student.

so, first i need to know what course you are studying and how good you are in it,
also it is not everybody that has reading ability, i dont read much, my strength is in listening and i dont miss lectures.

if you are putting too much pressure on your self, am afraid, you may not get it right.


Finally " Everybody is great but most people do not know where their strength lies"

Please answer the Qs then i will know what else to say

i try to reduce my thinking, but my family's issue is enough to think of.
before exam, i understand things very well, during exams, i am still good to go, but when results comes out. its sad.

SunnyBlaze1:
I agree with you sir. i am very good in computer, so when i got admission earlier this year some people were like;
you are studying computer science right? why didnt u go for computer related field? etc. but i always smile at them saying "that would be a waste of resources (to go and study what i already know)".

WHY DID I MAKE THIS DECISION;
1. am not good with maths
2. a first class in any field is better than 2nd class in other fields.
3. i noticed that when i talk, people get inspired (right from my sec. sch. days)
so i decided to go for Bsc. Peace studies and Conflict Resolution instead of computer science.
AFTER FIRST SEMESTER, my result was, A,A,A,B,A,A,A,A,A. I just finished my second semester and also optimistic about the outcome.

so @ AmNotADullard dont allow anything or anybody push you into what you cant do...i doesnt matter what you study all that matter is your grade, thats why you see someone that studies Agric get job in bank before those who studied Accounting. Am also your age-mate and am from S/E too but i stay in PH hustling to make a better life. infact am sponsoring myself just with N18,000 job but am happy because i know tomorrow will be brighter. so gear-up brother and make that life-changing decision today.


once again mr gunpoint, i appreciate you and i wish to have a mentor/friend like you. God bless

Hmm, my brother, thanks for this.
I wish I could be very independent, and also can make some very daring decisions.

Tellemall:
You need prayers. I once knew a girl who was, like you, the top of her class in her secondary school days. By the time she was in year 1 she couldn't even string together coherent sentences, let alone do simple fractions. It got to the point that people were mocking her. It turns out her step mother was envious of her. Her step mother hated that she was more brilliant than her own children. She discovered this after serious soul-searching prayers.

Also, another thing responsible is if you stepped on somebody's toes and now they are out for you. Might sound unbelievable, but it actually happens. Maybe somebody felt you bragged too much with your admission. Etc.

But all in all, what I'm emphasizing on is: pray and whatever you graduate with, accept it. Perhaps this trial is there to make the best out of you. Not all first class graduates get jobs . If you commit suicide now you'll grieve your parents and still go to hell with bad results. Why not wait and see what the future has in store for you, rather than focusing on what you can see?

About bragging of me being admitted, I spent 4+ years at home, I don't think I would be bold enough to brag about it.
About me stepping on someone's toe, I have thought deep about that, but nothing.
Thanks A lot sir.

EFEJU:
Bro all will be well with U IJN but let me ask do u have a good hand writing? Is legible enough? it may to u but can ur friends read it easily without straining their eyes reason y failure Occurs is sometimes due to bad hand writing most lecturers donnt like stressing themself when they are marking scripts and they come accross bad writing scripts they get fed up and give low scores to them check ur handwriting bro

I have a fair handwriting, though improving on it, but for now, most of my exams are computer based.

ChappyChase:
Am 22 years(turning 23 by February 2016) old,I spent 4 years in senior secondary school(two years each on both science and art), I wrote WAEC twice had C's on the first siting which was on science subject and B's on second sitting on Art subject.. I have written jamb thrice and I had 230(2013),247(2014),and 293(2015) aspiring for UNN and yet I haven't gotten admission.... Here you are at 22 and you're in 200level, So bro,between you and me who need help? Guy you need no ones advice except yours...

hmm, bro... can i follow you?

SkinnyDude:
what are those that are hard to you? am in the same school with you, school of financial studies... am studying banking and finance... am not good in account, bus. maths and bus. statistics.. but i dont fail them.. secret: i do anything i can, to get a nice mark in assignment and quiz.. even if it requires cheating.... then when it comes to exam, i just try my best, and find someone who knows those courses and stay with him or her...

cost accounting is terrible bro, i have tried everything about it. In my school, assignment is not really given. and we have test just once in a semester. can i follow you?

Sunbellar:
Send me PM and I will give you the final solution. I had a worse case senario but I subsequently made 2:1 and gainfully employed

hello sir, i would follow you right away sir.

TechRez:
Send a message to me, I will offer you free consultancy

would follow you now sir.

400billionman:
y

You said you are business oriented but business is not an option because there is no capital.

Now, is suicide an option ? How can you say you are praying to God and at thesame same time contemplating to end your life ? Which means you dont read your BIBLE and you actually do not know God..

You need to approach a man of God to guide you. From your story, your issue is beyond natural. You need a SPIRITUAL solution..

But i believe that if you seek God in spirit and truth, he will answer you. Every human being you see in this life has a CHALLENGE. But what differs from one person to another is our APPROACH to our challenges.

What CHURCH you attend will help determine the type of pastor who will put you through. For me i do not believe in backwardness. If you were my brother, this issue nah MOI MOI. Demons dey hear word.

in school i attend MFM, but not much of a devoted member, but i know how to give praise to God.

Idrismusty97:
Since you know this then forge on! Pick something that will motivate you and keep moving forward. Do you want to see your dad disappointed face always? Do you want all the hundreds of thousands spent in sending you to school go down the drain? And you said your parents aren't really financially buoyant now, That's all the more reason to pick yourself up and keep moving forward. Unless you have a plan, Or a passion for something else. You know, School isn't always the route to success. If you really want to do something else explain it to your dad. I hope your dad is understanding and not the "my-son-must-go-to-school" type of dad.

yes, he is that type of dad,
and thats what scares me.

Fynestboi:
What's your course? I believe your problem started with the department you picked in your secondary school....

In Department Of Accounting.
Yes, I stated earlier, I had passion or rather Dream to study accounting, even though, my results in commercial class was not good enough.

Confessng:
Hello , how are you faring ?

Hello sir, Goodmorning.
Thanks for the check up.
I have just been down, some more issues keep coming up.
In all, I am trying to live. I didnt even know it hit frontpage.

I wouldn't deny it that one reason why I am trying to forge ahead is because of my Dad, seeing him "some things" to train us, in all aspect(morally, academically, spiritually). I can't imagine me telling him continuously about my 'F's' talk more of saying I want to leave school. I forbid and God forbid what would happen to him... That's what scares me most.

umehmj:
from your tone i noticed one thing - you see education as the only escape from hardship and poverty, hence you felt your world is coming to an end since it can't seem to be working out. don't get it twisted though, education is good but it's very wrong to see it as the only ticket to better life.

back to your issue. you made us understand you are pretty brainy in you tender years but with time your grades began to dwindle. well, i don't think this has to do with your study habits. it could be attributed to making wrong choices in your choice of course to study. but then, it has been proven that one can virtually take on any course if one puts their mind to it. so if you ask me, i will say your problem is more spiritual than physical. this also means you have been treating the ailment with the wrong medication. seek spiritual help. there is nothing God cannot do and no condition he cannot turn around, no matter how bad.

another option is tapping into your natural flare, which is business. isn't it funny we struggle to acquire certificates only to end up working for the uneducated but business oriented moguls?? schools are structured to groom and make us good employees. but there are no jobs out there. so if school no work, my brother try the other option instead to dey waste money pay for school fees, pay for texts and pay for hostel accommodation. it is as good as nothing if you come out with second class lower or third class. you can use your school fees to start up. and don't despise your little beginning! have a great day.

and please, no suicide. you can only rise when you hit the rock bottom.

I don't really see it as the only escape route, I just want to make my dad happy, I wasn't even pretty brainy, I was extremely brainy... More like a super kid, all of a sudden, all just went down.
I would start thinking of how to explore other options. Blessings sir.

Confessng:
Let me tell you a short story !
Steve Jobs was supposed to be....

I don't know how to thank you enough for dis...
I would totally erase any jazz like thought that seems to be growing in me, I am indeed very grateful sir.

ministerblessed:
Pray like u won't read and read like u won't pray...... Eat brain enhancing food,u can Google dem....... U can also see a Dr to ask questions..... God will definitely help u dear. It is well!

Hmm
Pray like u won't read and read like u won't pray
I just googled them, they are not so rare, I would work on getting them.
I have as well seen my schools counsellor, she did the best she could...

Uchan4u:
You have to understand the reading and learning method that best work for you. Stop following others. For me I am not a marathon reader, but my friends will read for hours to understand. At a time I felt I wasn't doing enough, I joined them to go to night classes but it didn't pay at all. After reading for about an hour, I will get tired. So I have to stop and assess my performance, I always do better than them in discussion classes, quizzes, and even in exams.
So the high point is understanding hour you are wired.

Plenty of thanks to you sir,
Intellectually, I am far of better than so many of my peers, I read lots of things, articles, whereas they limit themselves to just 'chatting', but then, if in exams things still get awful, what use is my intellect, I figured my reading technique long long ago, and have been 'upgrading' poco a poco it, but still...nothing seems to be happening. My last semester, I have never deprived myself of such amount of sleep in my life, but still people that didn't read in my own view are performing better.

gunpoint:
Look young man, a degree is a degree is a degree.
50% of all graduates end up in banking anyways, and banks take anything, and i mean anything. Back when i was in the country, i worked with medical doctors and soil science graduates in these banks, all of us doing operations or marketing.
Don't stress yourself, if accounting is stressing you, change your dreams, what course unit did you make an A in for example? It will help us know your strengths

The course is so irrelevant, "philosophy".
I wish I was strong enough to do so many things.
Since the new session started, it is so hard to even concentrate, low self esteem is creeping in already, I am in a way 'introverted' also, I don't watch ball, I don't play ball, I don't do females, I don't listen to music, nothing I know is distracting me, but still.
At attimes I take example of people around me, that are jobless, try to console my self with it, but then, who knows tomorrow.

kayboy4y:
You need Counselling.
Pray and fast.
Thank me later.

Have u discussed it with your parents?

But never attempt suicide or else u will rot in hell fire.

I have prayed, though I know prayer can never be enough, just like how reading can never be enough, but sir... I have prayed a lot. Fast? everyday is like am fasting.
Partially, they are aware(told them my problem, when I was still writing Jamb)... But my 100level first semster resort, I had to lie a bit, my 2nd semester, I don't want to lie again, I don't want my dad to hate me, I don't want to cause any sickness in him.

Confessng:
Don't drink that chemical, nothing is ever as bad as we think it is .
What do you enjoy doing ?
And a degree may aid you to have a better life but it isn't the ultimate.
Start looking for alternate means of earning some form of income.
Start learning about something you love....

The problem with the world is the bandwagon syndrome everyone wants to be a graduate yet we all have our different callings.

i remember growing up two guys brothers ooh dropped out one in JSs3 went ahead to be a carpenter today he is married to a graduate and drives a clean RAV4

His younger bro waited till ss2 dropped out and went ahead to be an Electrician trust me he is doing very very well......

If not passing courses can make you suicidal then what will happen if you get into the job market and can't find a job for years as it happens in the Nigerian labor market ?

I think God is just trying to open your eyes to other possibilities that you should pay attention to , do not let grades determine how far you will go in life Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates , Steve Jobs and if that is going to far our own Seun Osewa aren't graduates, they are all self taught geniuses ......

Find what you love doing and if it means leaving the 4walls of a university or attending courses you enjoy like Steve Jobs not for marks but for learning by all means go for it

Don't commit suicide there is greatness inside you crying for expression, go and pour away that chemical

Very grateful sir,
My dad who is uneducated, but told me he wanted to be an accountant at my age, I don't want to be a disappointment to him, he has struggled enough to see us go to school, how do I tell him semester in semester out that it is 'F' I have in box for him as a reward for his struggles over me, how do I tell him that the saying he has made to be constant in our ears "education is the best legacy" I have decided to drop out or back out from it. Left to me, I would have loved to go into what I love doing but were is the money, I collect a little above 1500naira per week with my only provision been garri. All ways lead to nowhere in my case, it gets so bad I start thinking spiritually, family issues Sir, life can be so unfair.

Bambless1:
Good Morning.

All You Keep Saying Is "I Worked Very Hard, I do this i do that" What About "PRAYER" Include it and see the difference. Don't Forget It Is "WORK AND PRAY" not only work.

My parents are pure christians, my dad a deacon, my mum a chorister, I myself was/is a strong member in my campus fellowship, I don't know the type of prayer I ought to offer again, at a point I started to think der was no God. But I got back up and became more prayerful, its sad but even if I read the bible and jot down, with constant revision, I would most likely forgt tht which I read the next week.

Bambless1:
Nairalanders Come And Help A "Biafralander" Oh just kidding oh if any Ipob e-warlord Put Am For Head Like Gala Na Thunder Go,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Bros, my dad is Imo, my mum is Ekiti.

gunpoint:
You really want to die cos if nairalanders advise you finish, you will double the dose of that chemical.
On the flip side i think what happend to me happened to you. If you zoned out after JSS 3, then you got placed in the wrong area probably on the strength of you then result. You studied wrong in SS classes and are now studying something at undergraduate level you are very weak in. I know cos i spent 8years studying a five year course.
If you are bold about it, you can switch now. Or you can struggle like me and just finish the damn thing.
You 1st year results and mine are pretty similar but i still finished with a 2.2 and i eventually finished strongly and smashed at MSc level abroad. Don't drink that chemical lil bro, don't look at you unemployed siblings as a barometer. Tomorrow go always make more sense.
If someone told me this in 2001 when my CGPA was 1.5 i for no believe am, look at me now na

Thanks a lot sir, for the chip in, I have always dreamt of being an Accountant, Chartered one at that. Since my primary school days, and right now I am studying d course accounting, I would say I love the course, but what seems to be happening, I don't understand at all, even in senior secondary sch, I failed commerce, financial accounting, and science related courses, in fact I failed all subject in the 3main department back then in scondary school, the thing that keeps me going is 'hope', but that hope is dying, and it seems to be taking me along.

I am opened to answer any question

Good day Nairalanders, the time I started writing this is 3:22am, whether am a popular NLder or not doesn't matter, but I would like to Conceal my identity. These would be a bit long, because I would want to explain all what is happening and has been happening to me concerning my education.

I am from the eastern part of Nigeria, and school somewhere in the south, part of the top 10 universities in Nigeria.
Back in my, Primary and Junior secondary school, I was extremely brilliant, always part of first 3, a lot of times I was 1st in class and best overall. Even my junior waec, I was so happy, people were happy for me.

The problem started in my secondary school, I noticed I started dropping, my 2nd term in SS1, I was 21/23 in class, same school, same class mates.
I thought maybe I had started playing to much, so I stopped all what I figured out could be the problem, yet there was no solution, my parents got me private teachers for my core subjects. Once they are with me, I would understand what they teach me, when they leave, I don't slack, I continue reading and reading, when exam comes, it would seem like I wasn't the one who read. A day before the exam, it would be fresh in my head and when I even write the exam, my mind would be like "you have killed it"
My parents would ask how it was, my reply would be: "yes, it was perfect, expecting the perfect result".

When I see my result, I would as usual fail virtually everything.
Still, I managed to go/forge ahead, I was able to pass my WASSCE in one sitting, how I did that I don't know, not that I passed outstandingly, I only had 'credit' in all the subject I was expect to have grade 'C'.

Then the hustle for Jamb came, let it be known that I wrote jamb 5 times, and the 5th time was when I got admitted to my school of choice.


Currently in my 200level, we resumed a new session about 2months ago. Now to what caused dis write up.

My first semester of 100level result: C, F, A, D, D.

A terrible result for someone in 100level, yes, I know. I felt too relaxed first semester, played a lot.
I determined that 2nd semester would be better, not that I was expecting all A's but I didn't want any F.
So my whole 2nd semester was reading all through, I read to the extent that I started feeling sure I should have A's in at least 3 out of 6 courses.

But when the result came in, it was worse than my first semester without me playing or getting distracted,
My 2nd semester of 100level result: C, F, C, E, C,F

And now 200level has kicked off, but something is happening to me.

I don't think I can survive this anymore,
My parents don't have money, my dad is struggling to send us to school.
None of my siblings work,
I have been contemplating different means of ending my life,
I move about with shame, I don't sleep anymore, I can't get my head straight, I would stay awake all night crying and praying for a change in my academic life.

I have done all what I think I can humanly do, hence why the thought of taking my life,
I know I can't create a life, but of what use is one that doesn't seem to make people happy?
But then, I decided to come on here, to ask if there is something else in reading I am not doing apart from, reading.... I have applied all the reading techniques applicable, jot while reading, revise, ask myself questions, and all. But still after exam, I don't seem to have that desired result, I have prayed countless times.

By my side is a chemical I got when I discovered I had 2f's. Education, they say is the best legacy. But in my case it isn't sure if it would be, I am a business oriented person, but no money to even establish myself, so that's not an option, please Nairalanders, I don't wish to Take my life, please is there anything you can suggest to me other than suicide and constant reading and prayers. I am 22years of age.

God bless.