₦airaland Forum

optm:
In the old society, the major responsibility of the man was to protect and to provide the basic for his family's survival and this didn't demand so much. Today's society is way more complex and desires so much; not just the basics for survival but comfort and pleasure.
[2]>It would be so much burden for majority of the modern man to meet these alone hence the need for both partners to put hands together in building that structure that allows for meeting comfort and pleasure.
Many modern men can meet the basic needs for survival just like the men of old times but are struggling in meeting the required comfort and pleasure needed in today's world

“didn’t demand so much” isn’t true. When people talk about “the old society” they leave out the fact that status has always been a thing from the onset of time, even in the Stone Age I believe some people lived better than others, in every ancient story of any civilization there has always been the rich and the not so rich…it’s all the same with now, not harder, just slight changes in pattern through which to achieve that goal. Choose the life you want as a man, map out the way to that goal and work towards it, no matter how big, as long as someone has done that before you can do it 100% but the way it’s designed is, the more you desire the harder the journey is but the same law states that if you can persevere till the end the universe will give you all you ask for.

@[2]> if you don’t want the burden to conquer as a man then live within your means without sharing your responsibilities with a woman or else you shouldn’t complain about the chaos that comes with it because you’re disrupting the flow of nature by doing just that… you don’t have to be rich, if you feeling you need to get married asap with 100thousand naira in your name then you should probably go to the village to pick a wife, live in a hut, make babies, send them to the government funded school around there, your little income will be enough to take care of that family without any conflict, but if you want more, you have to go though the very painful and difficult process of increasing your value as a man so that you can have a better life. This is how life was designed to be.
The life of a man is not easy but if he can conquer, the world is his to gain.

…and how much you can conquer is how much you can have. This why man in the general sense is placed above woman. Your life is about conquering through pain and toiling. Break the code and suffer the consequences, just as if women break the feminine code they suffer the consequences too.

optm:
Your perspective on this is quite interesting . Are you of the opinion that women should not be empowered to thrive economically ? How much does a man need to have to be ready for marriage in your opinion ?

as humans we are mostly moved/motivated by our current situations or agitations, but the wiser humans are moved by the past and the future, this type of thinking is not found much in the female space because of an overwhelming dose of emotions as wisdom is more synonymous to men than women. Men have the ability to suppress emotions regardless of the situation and use logic of reality instead, and this is why it is men who have “built the world”.
Now, I said all that just to be able to state a clear realistic point that women have no business being “empowered economically”.this point never seat well with women hence they try to prove the logic wrong by “empowering” themselves by competing with men in the corporate hierarchy which cannot be done alongside being a submissive wife and a mother .
They do all that, go ahead and become a “boss lady” only to realize in their older days that all that didn’t matter to them, that they would’ve traded their whole “empowerment” career for a motherly role at home nurturing a family in their youth instead of pursuing a career that requires a large dose of masculinity which they trade their feminine nature for.
If you think I’m wrong make a research on feminists in their older years.

As for the man,

The life of a man is similar to a corporation. It is very important to build an empire and be ready to accommodate every responsibility that he will be entrusted with, how big that is or how far he wants to be in the building process before he gets married depends on him given that he mustn’t leave any responsibility unattended or complain.
And this is why the early days of a man is very important, it’s not supposed to be comfortable, (if his father failed at building an empire that should have his own life planned out by grooming him with the necessary knowledge, orientation and resources to start building his life early enough which in turn strengthens his linage from generation to generation).
A man that didn’t get that privilege should consider the far future before making decisions on marrying or having children.

…so, know what you’re trying to create before thinking of marriage, if you’re going to compromise then do so with the correct logic.

purples25:
So what then is the solution to financial abuse from men who earn it all in the marriage? Men who will insult and control women because they don't have anything doing? Is it not best for a woman to have a job to avoid all these?

…you speak of these things like it’s the norm when it’s in-fact just a very small percentage of marriages/men that end up or “might” end up being that way. And this is as a result of the error of marrying the wrong person, this marriage you speak of, I’m sure it wasn’t or is not always like that before they get married. These are things that must not be overlooked by women before marrying to avoid single hood as most women marry for the wrong reasons thereby facing the consequences in diverse ways… marry who truly loves you and on your part as a woman DO NOT CHANGE after marriage!!! Cos that’s another leading factor for issues in marriages.
No man would get married to the love of his life and bear to make her uncomfortable in any way.

purples25:
For your own respect as a woman, you really should have a job and some money in your account before marriage. This way you avoid financial abuse where you cannot have any rights because you depend on the man. You avoid verbal abuse coming all because you cannot make the same money the guy does. You avoid being controlled because you yourself don't have a dime. You even give yourself some dignity by having some money and a job or business. No man will rubbish you anyhow when you enter marriage with your money you made yourself, business or job that you got for yourself.

That's why I wasn't impressed by the other thread where the guy said he gives the girl 2k. Why the hell is a girl that earns 2k even in a relationship? What will she do when she starts having kids and she can only depend on the man? Then it's whatever the man wants, she can't give her child what she likes as she has no money. Anybody dating without a stable financial background, male or female, is on a road to disgrace. The financially stable partner will abuse the helpless one, or their issues will be open to family, family will start 'helping'.

Well, if anyone enters a relationship without money or business, be ready for what you will see. Dating is not actually meant to be had simply for sex and fun. You people are supposed to plan your futures and make sure you're both ready.

this is the exact logic that has crumbled marriages and will do worse. When a larger percentage of women tend to come up with solutions to issues like this the end results are always chaotic.
Normally, a woman’s fundamental expenses should be catered for by her father and mother till she gets married. But people get married before they’re ready for reasons I consider very stupid, only to struggle all their lives and cause disruption to the alignment of nature, having females take on masculine traits because they have to cater for themselves as adults which is wrong.
Women cannot fend for their needs in society without letting go of a part of their femininity replaced with masculinity which becomes a problem when it comes to pairing with the opposite gender…these are the traits men find disgusting or just can’t deal with, and it’s the same reason “self made” women find it very difficult to stick to a partner.
On the other hand it’s just so sad that a young woman has no choice but to de-feminize herself just to be able to do what her parents couldn’t do for her because they got married without being ready for the journey…it’s really sad.

To the men especially, never get married until you’re ready no matter how long it takes. The journey is not about you or your mother that wants a grandchild but about the future of your linage. Look ahead!

Firefly2017:
When I saw your name I smiled and said no wonderful. Very well said my brother.

Some people will just think of an idea from only one angle, and decide to go public with it.
The reason why there is so much broken marriages/homes is because the world has decided to go against the natural order of things, like the almighty Creator intended.

Men have become lazy and so afraid of hard work and ambitiousness, constantly worrying about why they should cater financially for their wives and family, and are continually demanding for the so called nonsensical 50/50
idealogy. Forgetting the role each gender has
to play in the family. Men have only ONE job, Provide/protect!! The hulkulian task of raising decent human beings and being a soul supporter for both the Man and the rest of the family has been so minimized that women don't pioritize it anymore cuz they are out in the jungle chasing money to bring to the table.

What a wretched state of affairs. We live in a failing world I tell you

…Hence the rising conflict between both genders, all leading to the continuous deterioration of society at large. The only way to make corrections is to instill the right orientation in the up coming generations or else there will untold chaos.

He should not be trusted…he’s a very dangerous man.

Started off good but ended with self destructive solution…
This is typical “woman logic”.
Don’t move that way…you’ll hurt nobody but yourself in the end and blame it on the world for having “only bad men” just so you can feel good about the miserable situation you must have ended up in.

It’s just an advise 💜

siofra:
Oh yes!

As man, you can't cook, clean the kitchen, wash your clothes…

I smell sarcasm… but I get the message.

Dear men, she’s trying to tell y’all to stop projecting your responsibilities on women as a criteria for marriage.
Man=Provide resources,
Woman=Manage the resources
= A proper home

Everything shouldn’t result in gender wars…none of the roles are easier. Don’t complain. Instead face life head on!

😂 200million dollar cake

Really? 😂😂😂🫡🫡🫡

They shouldn’t be addressed as “stars” in this context… address them as “players” or “footballers”.

It’s sad actually, but the men didn’t make it that way…

Zonefree:
He gave the girl N5M and gave the Church N105M.

Moral of the story;
We don't value education in Nigeria.

you’re just looking for somewhere “opposite” to stand on.

zeusdgrt:
People like u are the reason men day on time due to depression

well, if the responsibilities of being a man will lead men to depression they can either talk to God about it, face it head on or kill themselves.

siofra:
Fools everywhere.

Is it not your useless gender that's bringing shame, hate, ridicule, suffering and hardship upon our country? Is it not your gender that's making South Africans hate on us?

Are you people any better? Don't you guys feel entitled to white people's money by trying to scam them and calling it "yahoo"?

Are these women holding guns to your head or extorting the money from you? Yet all your vitriol and hate is on them as if Nigerian men are not worse thieves. Rubbish.

you don’t have to reply hate with hate, especially on genders. It’s not good for you or anyone.

This is invalid in a realistic assessment.

Women don’t need to be worth a dime in riches or bank account to get married to anyone they would, the criteria for a woman is how well-groomed they are from the onset, which would result in how well she can cohabit with a provider male to build/take care of a home and ensure a completely orderly and serene environment for her children, husband and every other person who enters her space to thrive in…

Smartcitizen:
Well maybe this one will,

FAVOR HER AND HER VILLAGE PEOPLE.(Like those who rig last election in Nigeria were saying)


😥😥😥😥

the deed is done already… I just wouldn’t act like I didn’t know.

redcliff:
You see God eh, get as he dey do things. E fit be say na him make southafricans harden like pharoah so she fit win something. There is def hand of God in it.

🤦🏽‍♂️ “hand of God”….

What a movie…

Smartcitizen:
By the last count we saw her having more votes than all other contestants.

I wonder why you don't like that or you want us to invite Yakubu for you to accept it?

if there weren’t any physical evidence of her winning they wouldn’t be able to give it to her. Same way all riggings work.

Smartcitizen:
Can you tell us any other person that gather more votes than her according to the votes recorded?

lol… how else could they give it to her?
Who controls what goes on in the competition?
What a question.

ecolime:
I feel for the other contestants too but Life is never fair. Life is a game. Just pray you are on the winning side always.

I am sure the mature ones amongst them understands.

Meanwhile, shame on the Xenophobic morons.

Anything to pass a message to them is welcomed.

“This crown is not just for beauty; it’s a call for unity,” she said. -- I piss on all Xenophobes once again

The people that liked and shared your post (and you) have no right whatsoever to complain about Tinubu stealing a mandate that wasn’t his…

ecolime:
The fact says she is the Miss Universe Nigeria 2024.

the fact says she was given the crown not by merit but out of pity

ecolime:
That's your opinion.

not an opinion… it’s a fact!

The crown wasn’t hers

ShoeGetSize:
You talk like this and yet you're named after a criminal women trafficker

can you prove these allegations?

Starz825:
I understand...but no be all of them...

Some just fine normal normal and their head correct...

My fiancé is just like her...

When I met her.....she has this killer looks too...but once we started dating....I realised na normal babe...wey fear God to a reasonable extent sef

if you say so… you’re a lucky man then🫡

Starz825:
Omo....why the dead ass girl picture....

My kind of girl

be careful what you wish for my friend… These are some of the most dangerous type of women to deal with.( I mean the girl in the photo). More deadly than playing with a python.

Faber:
Try this just for this September:
No simping
No forcing issues
No sending money to ladies
No double texting

Only hitting the gym, eat, sleep and grind

I guarantee you...you will never lose

“For September alone”… what the fcc do you do with your life for you to consider these things as some sort of challenge to overcome in just one month?? WTF?