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funnyDM:
You are at a point where delaying the decision is already becoming a decision on its own. Both women are asking you to meet their parents because they likely see the relationship as moving toward commitment. If you continue with both while unsure, the risk is that someone eventually gets deeply hurt — including you.
The confusion you feel is normal. Attraction, attachment, and compatibility are not always the same thing.
Here’s a practical way to think through it.

1. Stop asking, “Who do I love more?”
Instead ask:
Who gives me peace?
Who brings out discipline and purpose in me?
Who fits the kind of future I want in 5–10 years?
Who handles conflict maturely?
Who genuinely respects me?
Around who can I be fully honest?
If money became hard for two years, who would still stand well with me?
Which relationship feels stable instead of emotionally confusing?
Love alone is not enough for marriage. Stability, character, respect, and shared direction matter heavily.

2. Fear of making the wrong choice may actually mean you are avoiding pain
Part of your fear may not be “What if I choose wrong?” but also:
“What if I hurt one of them?”
“What if I lose someone valuable?”
“What if the one I leave later becomes more successful?”
“What if marriage changes everything?”
That fear can keep a man stuck between two lives for too long.
But maturity sometimes means accepting that clarity comes with sacrifice.

3. Observe who is truly compatible with your future
The nursing graduate and the polytechnic graduate may both be good women. But marriage is not a beauty contest or certificate competition.
Watch for:
Emotional maturity
Financial attitude
Respect during disagreements
Family values
Spiritual beliefs and lifestyle
Temperament
Loyalty
Ability to build with you
Ask yourself:
“If attraction reduced tomorrow, who would still make a strong life partner?”
That question reveals a lot.

4. Do not meet both parents if you already know you can only choose one
Meeting parents in many Nigerian families is seen as serious intention. If you are still uncertain, avoid giving both families strong expectations at the same time.
Instead:
Be honest with yourself first.
Take a short period to decide intentionally.
Reduce emotional juggling.
A man cannot think clearly while emotionally feeding two serious relationships equally.

5. Create a private comparison — not based on emotions alone
Take a notebook and divide it into sections:
Quality
Woman A
Woman B
Peace of mind


Trust


Respect


Communication


Shared future goals


Family compatibility


Emotional maturity


Supportiveness


Attraction


Ability to endure hardship together


Be brutally honest. Patterns will start appearing.

6. Ask yourself one uncomfortable question
If today both women suddenly disappeared from your life forever…
Which loss would truly break you the most — not because of ego, beauty, or benefits — but because you know that person genuinely fits your life?
Sometimes your heart already knows, but your fear keeps creating noise.

7. Once you decide, be clean and respectful
Do not keep one as a “backup option.” That creates long-term guilt and confusion.

When you decide:
Commit fully to one.
End the other relationship respectfully and clearly.

Avoid manipulation or false promises.
That is part of becoming serious in life.
You do not need a perfect choice. You need a wise, intentional, honest choice.

All of these write up just to provide an answer . You must be a prof in women matters

Substandard bed , this was a case in Ghana.

Good morning nairalander. I have asked my bank to put that amount in lien pending when we are able to figure out the sender. I am doing this I don't want to get into trouble. Thank you for all your concerns either good or bad.

Antoeni:
Go And Buy Food Stuff First,Buy Your Drugs if You Have Any Health Challenges, Buy Enough
Data, Fill Your Gen Tank With Fuel i, Settle All Your Utility Bills, Send Your Parents Something,
Help one or two Friends And Family members in Need, Then Wait For The Worst

Thank you , your idea is good.

RealityKings1:
Don't touch it, the banks will reverse it themselves. And don't answer anyone that calls you that they are the owner... Tell them to go to their bank and complain

Thank you but guy the thing is tempting

eepeepook:
Story from Tanzania.

it could be from Kenya . Not everyone comes up with cock and bull stories

I received a credit transfer of 500k into my account from an unknown person.
What should I do next. I don't want trouble, pls advise .

Eastcoastboy:
Lol. Where are you from?

Delta state

The number 4 got me. I remembered my days of nysc 2010. Enugu girls are beautiful. Make no mistake I married my girlfriend an enugu girl., come see fine fine children she gave me.

We have the same situation in my family this man has been with my sister for 25 years without paying for dowry. Our kinsman summoned him this Monday to tell why he hasn't . After much deliberations he promised to do before the end of the year.

That is the effect of repetitive abortion.

Lie lie, I smell lies, everyone wants to stir the honest nest...[/quote]

O boy nyash don tail for back

I have to see a pix of the penis to make prescription. Pls do well to send me pix

This is a confirmation that this man is a terrorist.

Not all kids made that mistake. My kids didn't.

The bondage of the first child. Read this book.

peleson1:
And wetin I wan use android apps dey do for my TV when I v a phone and I don't even play games ?

I need to know the major difference between smart TV and android TV

The difference is in the operating system. Its android operating system for some tv which is refered to as android tv or vida operating system for hisense tv , web operating system for lg tv and tizen operating system for samsung. But mind you all these are also called smart tv in general.

Azazyel:
You don't read and you really made it so obvious to us. You don't even understand that MediaTek (MTK) and Helio are related. Helio is a series from MediaTek that also has midrange processors. Infact I have used phones which have MediaTek Helio series chipsets e.g Helio G96 that didn't even lag for once. Go and learn the differences between low end SOCs, midrange SOCs and flagship SOCs. Qualcomm Snapdragon also has Chipsets that lag like crazy and those are low end Chipsets. The only processor type in this your list that is strictly flagship is Apple bionic

Pls school him. Good one there

He that have ear let him hear

Govt backed terrorist don talk.

This is good for you when he ned nwoko was busy locking up everyone from our village you didn't say a thing

What is happening in kwara state.
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Will the war end!
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Next will be no pant day.
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Hisense brand

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There are a lot of smart box from Google certified boxes to Chinese knockoff smart boxes.
For me I use the airtel smart android box router and a McCool km9 pro max box. both box are Google certified and their prices are cool. I can recommend them for you

My wife and children can unlock my phone any day any time.

Let him do the time . Judge knack am ten years

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