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Thanks for all of the comments or advice this far!! There were a few questions that were asked and I would like to take this opporunity to answer a few of them. Firstly, I have had the chance to travel to Nigeria with him and to meet his family. To this day, I still speak to his sisters and whenever his mother comes to the city I speak with her as well. Secondly, I was born in Nigeria and came to the states when I was 19 years. Lastly, I need to make a correction to two other comments. I am not 2 months to the time that I am due to have the baby. I am only 5 months pregnant and also I didn't say that the brother of this girl is in Nigeria too, it was only my boyfriend that went. None the less, my main concern or goal now is to do what's best in order for me to take care of this baby. Whether he marries her or does not marry her is not my concern for now and I refuse to allow that to upset me to the point where I am unable to function or think about anything else. I don't see this as an end for me but I view it as something wonderful and amazing. I don't see it as me having a "baby daddy", I see it as me being blessed by God and having the ability to bring forth life. As far as child support is concerned, any man that has to be court ordered to take care of his child is not a man. I do not believe in the child support stuff and will do my best to care for my child on my own if he's not willing to do so. I firmly believe that karma is true and what goes around will eventually come around!!!

Hi hopefully someone here can offer some great advice!!

I am currently engaged to a Nigerian man and pregnant with his child. About 2 months ago I noticed that he was recieving calls from someone in Nigeria by the name of Chinedu, and found out that it was the sister of one of his friends here in the states. The name was programmed in the phone and I had used the phone many times before, so I knew that it was a new number. Also having met his sisters and mother, I knew that it was not any one of them. I asked my boyfriend about this girl calling all times of the day and he responded by saying "I just needed someone to talk to". After further questioning, he then told me that this is someone that he is considering marrying just so that he can help her to come over to the states. He claims that he still loves me and has made all these wonderful promises to me, and has refused to take back the ring that he gave me during our engagement, but I can't deal with the fact that he wants to marry another woman. We live together and we're both expecting our first child, but what do I do at this point? Do I walk away? Do I stay around and hope that things work out? I'm so confused, because this is the man that I love and if he says that he loves me too then why is he doing this to me. Everyone keeps saying to pray about it, but at the same time if he's hell bent on marrying this woman what is there to pray about? I am a very stable woman and can make it on my own, but truly I love him with all of my heart. This is a young girl and I really don't want her to be hurt by him. I don't know if it's really being done to help her come over or if it's real!!! The funny thing about it is the brother knows that he and I are living together and when my boyfriend left to go to Nigeria, the brother and I were the ones that took him to the airport. What type of brother would this be to allow something like this to happen to his sister? Should I call the girl and find out what the situation is? Is it really worth it to do that? I am stuck, confused and don't know what to do. He's currently in Nigeria and will be gone until October and I am thinking about moving out, do you think this would be a wise idea or should I just hang in there? Can things be worked out, because he keeps insisting that he doesn't want me to go anywhere.

Any advice or comments would be appreciated!!!