While reading, I first sensed that you're an empath. But reading further, I realised you just have a people-pleasing trait (this is debatable tho).
You don't need a tough skin (this often is a coping mechanism), what you need is self-care.

And here are a few tips to go about that;
1. Have principles and boundaries and let those you relate with, even people you are meeting for the first time know this. People will try to test you, so you must be firm about it.

2. Let people earn anything (almost) they get from you. Respect, relationships, financial favours, and even loyalty.

3. Don't be a doormat. I mean the one everyone uses and dump.

4. With the exception of certain people, only do for people things that are convenient for you.

5. You need to reevaluate your self-esteem and self-worth. Back them up with positive affirmations.

6. You need to start seeing criticism differently. See it as a way to be better or projections of people, not as a way to give in to people whims and schemes.

A lot of criticism you will get will come from people who want you to play by their rules. It's just a way to make you bend, see yourself smaller, and aim to get their accolades.

I particularly, do not appreciate praises. It often plays out as criticism. People who dish it often just want you to play by their rules.

So, start seeing criticism differently and stop doing acts that you think will get no criticism.


However, Robert Greene books will help. They will help you uncover the power plays in every of your interaction and in the configuration of the world.

You can also go for The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**K by Mark Manson.

I hope these help.

I don't know if this would help. But, how about you present the solicitation for help differently. People already have burdens and are often unwillingly to add to it.

If you're asking for fees today, your uncle may feel like, you will show up another day for another pending fees.

But how about, you decide on starting a business that requires little capital and may be able to pay for your future needs. He may feel compelled to help this way, knowing you won't keep coming back.

One of the best ways to end an addiction is to seek an alternative.

Try making something, or other healthy alternatives like Hibiscus drink, tiger nut drink, yoghurt, and the likes. With time, you'll find out you enjoy the healthy alternatives. In addition, you'll feel healthier.

What do you mean in your brother's house?

It's not his house. It belongs to both your brother and his wife.

Meanwhile, it would have been best if the wife communicated why she feels bad. I can think of so many reasons, but it's very hard to tell which for her.

It's her house, and should be able to communicate clearly even to her in-laws without mincing words. Like I always say, health relationships are built by healthy boundaries and of course, clear communications.