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NaijaHotGuy: @OP if u search smarter, u will find someone better than her. your problem is not SHE ur problem is just FINDING (think outta the box). make sure u dont waste ur time chasing one person. its a numbers game: theres nothing wrong in trying to make a selection after which u b committed. theres someone from ur tribe (or another) that is smarter, more beautiful, neater yet more responsive (nicer) than her, somewhere in Naija. if u find this person you most likely will choose her over the yoruba girl u talk about. no need to be confused and heart-broken - beware of analysis paralysis...they kil time. JUST DO IT: THINK BEYOND

thanks bro all your advices are noted. I will work on those areas

Dubemkelly: It's quite obvious dat she doesn't luv, she only likes u n wud kip u as a frnd not lover...Well,to sum people tribalism is a big deal tho d xposed ones hu believe in luv,support inter-tribal marriages buh d ish here is d gurl, she doesnt feel anyfin cos if she does,she wud convince d parents afterall,d marriage is basically contracted btw d man n wman wheras d relation plays little or no role...Guy,move on n kip searching

hmmmn thanks, i pray i can be able to

Yield: Believe it or not, some people really are afraid of going against their parents' wishes. I know someone who broke up with a girl because she's igbo and his parents didn't want him going out and marrying an igbo girl. It's a good thing she told you. You don't want to start dating her now and then later find out her parents won't accept you because of your tribe.

hmmmn thanks i am learning something. I am sure to get matured advice that's why i opt to share it on NL

Amelian: She's not into u..... You are simply torturing yourself emotionally... Move on.... U will fall in love again with somoenlse who will love u back....just be patient, yur right babe will cross yur path.

Amen thanks for the encouragement

maxwello.yg:
Why are you too quick to judge?
Besides, he never said he was Yoruba? Also, he never said Igala was Yoruba.
I stand to be corrected.

thanks for that

Kingscee: Forget about her then. She is afraid because of the trash FAMI FANI KAYODE said about my IGBO sisters. But why do you go 2 dat TRIBE? You must make perfume your best friend.

i dont lay any emphasis about tribe. What is more important is to be happy with the person you love. I hate tribalism

xynerise: If she really wants to start a relationship with you, she wont bring in tribal issues. I have attended a lot of cross-tribal wedding

Does that me she can never love me? What can i do? I really love her with all my heart.

Thank you all, i am Igala by tribe. we are from the same state Kogi. I hardly speak my language fluently. I don't know why tribe should be an issue. Are we not all Nigerians?

Please nairalanders. I am confused and heart broken. I met her 8 months ago( last year December) we later became friends, i was so happy to know that she is on whatsap too. We used to chat via whatsap almost every day, i later fell in love with her. When i told her my intention, she was playing her to get ( which i believe it's normal with girls, hence i continue to press on) I showed her all the cares by calling, sending texts every morning, whasaping her with cute flowers, etc i even subscribe ber monthly data bundle.

This week, i invited her for a date which she accepted. I sat her down to express my feelings, having known how serious i am with her, she opened up that she can't go into a relationship with me, i asked why not? the response i got was that her parents won't approve our relationship because i am not from her tribe YORUBA. I tried all her could to convince her that her parents will change which she responded that she pray they do( note this should mean that she accepted) .
The following day i brought up the issue about her parents not agreeing to our relationship, that since the problem is not from her, then there shouldn't be a problem at all, i told her to leave the parent out of this for now until when the ryt time comes but to my surprise she said "you love me i appreciate it but i only like you that's where the problem comes in". She added "any relationship i enter now should get me settled down" i responded that i am more than serious with her, after all if i wanted to play and dump her later i won't have shown any concern about her parent. . Now i dont know what to do, does it mean that girls can never love a nice guy? I am really confused i even sent her a whatsap message about growing in love but she ignore the message. Please advise me on what to do. I am still doing my youth service. Thanks