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REB3L:
Maybe it will work,maybe it won't.
From your experience, you said you had a collection of videos. I'm saying just one video.
And I believe not having any video at all would make you masturbate to anything faintly erotic.
A lady twerking. A lady with a skimpy cloth. A semi nude photo. Anything faintly nude and Bam! The spirit is set in.
If you have JUST 1 video.
No excuses to look online for any faintly nude or porn scenes.
Your mind wouldn't see anything with regards porn. You wouldn't be erect or even if you're erect it'll take way longer for you to cu.m.

i hope it helps sha

Well, it might work for someone out there, but as for me and my joystick, this won't work for us(based on experience),
one of the reasons why my own recovery is taking longer as I have discovered, is complacency and over confidence.
I would normally say 'lemme check if I can stand watching a porn video without fapping' only to succumb, or maybe after I have managed to stay away from it for a while, complacency sets in, I start feeling invincible only to be humbled when the time comes, so based on my personal experience, avoiding it all together is much safer than what you proffered.

do you mind me asking if your suggestion is based on experience? Cos, ain't nothing like experience, it is indeed the best tutor

REB3L:
Here's my own solution to this problem.
You have an addiction. U download a porn video,self-service off to it. And delete it because of the guilt that follows after wards.
A few days later,you have the urge to do it and once again. You download a new one and self-service again.
Here's what I suggest.
Have a porn video on yourphone,one of maybe 5-7 minutes.
Now the first time you would be tempted to self-service. Try to hold your resolve. You woukd definately not last. And would self-service off to this.
Now after youve done that and were not successful,dont delete this video. Keep it.
Now anytime you get the urge. Check the video. Even when you dont have the urge,check the video.
After sometime you would see that the video holds no interest to you.
You woukdnt even get erect.
.
Keep doing this till like 2 weeks and youll notice the urge isnt there no more. After like a month delete the video.
The key is not to download videos.
And how do you not download videos is by having a steady video .
This i feel is the best solution.

Thanks for your suggestion, but believe me it's a time bomb, especially for chronic masturbators.
I have tried something similar some time ago, you will definitely get bored of watching the same video and the crave for other videos would set in, you will end up feeding this crave. For instance, I remember when I had collections of bbw videos and they would arouse me any time I watched any of them, overtime, I got used to them and eventually fed up with them, I then diverted into POV, teen just like that, I was switching genres just to get one that will trigger me

SamzackD:
You still talking about a fictional movie and book, with no fact or evidence,

as for those people that died masturbating theirs is a clear case of coincidence not because of the masturbation in it self, that's like saying someone got struck by lightening while walking, so we all should stop walking cause it kills

Search up 'autoerotic asphyxiation'
autoerotic asphyxiation is by far the most common cause of death by masturbation, fapping also causes Peyronie’s disease, a buildup of plaque when the penis is injured causing it to bend. There have been reported cases of stroke, Cardiac arrest, etc due to excessive masturbation

So I will kick off the no Fapping challenge, I haven't fapped today, and I don't intend doing so today, so...

I am in 1/7

aibikhay:
I think @ this juncture I'd have to recommend a book, "chastity for men". If you can't get a hold of it, feel free to reach me on WhatsApp 08065610840. @op I was just thinking, if probably we can create a special group for this on WhatsApp and if a dose could come up every morning it would be of help to a handful,perhaps even more. Something like
#AntiMasturbationChallenge
#JustMyOpinion

That's a nice suggestion, however I don't think everyone has access to a smartphone, and as such I think for the sake of those who don't have a smartphone, let's keep our activities here on this thread, I could be wrong though.

Speaking of an Antimasturbation challenge, there is one I would suggest.

The one week no Fapping challenge

As the name suggests it's going to last for a week(that is, it will end next week Tuesday).
For those who would want to embark on this porn and masturbation recovery journey with me, you would comment on this thread with this phrase " I am in 0/7"
0- indicates the number of days I have successfully managed to stay off porn and masturbation
7- The seven days that make up a week.

so technically, everyone that is joining would have to visit this thread everyday to update his/her comment with the appropriate numbers

SamzackD:
Op

Did you just say masturbation kills


please would you mind explaining that part,


I'm curious

Well, the easiest way to feed your curiosity is to recommend two articles for you,
1) A French movie titled the 'The day earth stopped masturbating' in response to the death of a Chinese student, Zheng, who died while masturbating, well, he died after donating to a sperm bank.
2)A book titled 'The Book with No Title' (Le livre sans titre) and it showed how masturbation can have fatal consequences. Yes, that's right, FATAL!

or you can google up people who died through masturbation

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sweeterman:
We will always love the Vaseline.. Tenk

Life outside Vaseline is much sweeter believe me

faruq37:
i used to think my prayers won't be answered cos of masturbation...I used to curse myself and promise God I won't try it again but...konji na bastard...one thing I notice is that whenever I need something from God...I used to abstain...I think I can forget this thing...if I want to let go, I regret it whenever I masturbate...
please if you have bro and sis that are reaching adolescent stage please guide them wella...adolescent is a very delicate stage, beware of friends they make...and don't say nasty things around them....adolescent mould me into a masturbator!

Regret, is one of the post-masturbation norms, another is hatred. You'll be filled with so much regret and hate just after doing it, you'll even vow never to do it again only to go back to your vomit at any slight provocation.

Speaking of prayers...
I noticed that I became extremely 'unlucky' with stuffs after fapping, I'm really serious.

giftedheart1:
very bad habit... mine started when my school was on strike!
it has reduced now because i told God to kill me the next time i masturbate!...
i pray it can go totally

I'm glad yours reduced, hopefully it will stop completely one day.

Another truth is that you can't stop masturbation abruptly, rather you stop gradually, maybe from daily to weekly then to monthly, yearly and so on till you stop completely.

If you really have vowed to stop, but after a long time you find your self back at it, don't give up, just know that you didn't turn into a chronic masturbator in a day, and as such you won't stop in day, rather gradually and hopefully, you'll stop completely one day.

heendrix:
From how the guy explained to me he said it's just like a spirit when he'd feel like doing it he just cant control himself. he could go as far as using #500 out of the 1000 he has to buy data to watch porn. one day like that we agreed to wake up in the Night and read so he told m he would like to go to the toilet first. and in our school. Mellanby's kitchen net is just beside the toilet so after 10 minutes, 15 I nor see this boy (for my mind I be like even if na you dey supply urine to people on ur block u for don finish since) so i'd decide to check him only to find my nigga balance on a chair watching porn, I was just quiet watching him, he then masturbated I guess coz it was dark in there so he'd was rushing to to come back to the room but ws shocked seeing me by the door like I was ready to pound on him like a zombie so I'd just put it up like a brother to brother talk from all I could gather he said he'd would just be restless until he watch n masturbate n when he's done he'd be like omg not again as he would come back to his normal senses when he's done.

mehn... this story is typical of any chronic masturbator which I once was, I could remember when I fapped immediately after reading the Bible, yes I was addicted to that extent, but believe me there is hope, he can overcome his addiction, you really need to educate him on the implications of porn and masturbation

Danielmoore:
How do I stop formication

If I get you correctly, you meant how you can stop fornication, right?

Sorry this thread is meant for those with masturbation issues but I believe someone here might have something for you, so exercise a little patience

heendrix:
my roommate own. i'm shy to share mine

lol... alright, we're waiting

Mnewton:
Masturbation is simply a habit that can be curbed only when you decide deep within you DAT you ain't gonna do it no more. It begins by avoiding certain website and videos. Believe me as soon as you stop masturbating you will start noticing some changes in your live generally. using myself as an example, I noticed d following;

1) I started thinking straight; before now, I discovered I easily forget things but as soon as I stopped masturbating, I felt a significant improvement in my mental agility and coordination.
2) I started feeling strong and energised.
3) my spiritual life was strengthened.
4) my social life and self esteem was boosted.
5) ! I discovered masturbation killed my love for women and sex but after i stopped masturbating,I started caring more for my girlfriend and started thinking more about a future with her!
6) I discovered a significant increase in d size of my penis.
I became a normal human being after I stopped masturbating !

All you've written here are nothing but the truth, I can attest to them

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heendrix:
my own or my room mate own?

Both will be preferable, thanks

Don't be ashamed to talk to people about it if you genuinely want to stop. Well, it's okay to be ashamed, let that shame not consume you rather, let it be a motivating factor
to stop, if you can't talk to people face to face about it, you can comment on forums or threads about your addiction, you can create anonymous monikers for it, remember a problem shared is nearly solved

heendrix:
yeah that true it once happened to me and my room mate is going through same he'd seem helpless even after reading books, advice etc

do you mind sharing the story, so others can get encouraged

Another step to recovery is avoiding Pornographic materials be it videos, magazines, songs(you read that right), and sensual and sensitive pictures like all those rubbish we have on Romance section e.g 'instagram model with the largest hips, oranges' topics, or posts like '12 year old with the biggest ukwu on earth' trash, avoid sexual videos of pastors caught digging a member or 'two secondary school students caught pants down'

The point here is, avoiding anything that will 'trigger' you, cos that's the main problem, once you get triggered, all those 'self control' talks may not save you at this point, so avoid anything that will arouse you.

The last time I fapped, it started with me 'harmlessly' googling the name of one instagram model like that, then her pictures came up, from checking out her pictures, I landed on a complete porn site, the rest became history

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This is really sad..
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do you want to quit porn/masturbation
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I remember when I couldn't go half-days without wanking, I used to do it EVERYDAY, I'm not exaggerating. But now I do it once or twice in a month. Don't be surprised, I haven't stopped totally, I'm still on the path of recovery, and I'm being honest with it. That's the first step to recovery... HONESTY,
you have to be honest with yourself, you have to admit that you have a problem, cos the problem a lot of people have is that they don't admit that they have a problem

Homeboiy:
stop masturbation?


u joking

Yes Sir, you can stop masturbation, that's the aim of this thread, just like you can stop other addictions, I have testimonies

heendrix:
to me I believe porn is spirit. when the urge comes you'd cant really control yourself. I think a better idea is prayers

Not really, Masturbation is just like any other addiction, smoking, drinking etc, you can actually stop addictions, right?

Hello guys...
So, I woke up this morning with this urge of creating a thread here on Nairaland with the sole aim of reaching out to and bringing together those of us that are addicted to watching pornography and masturbation but are willing to Stop.

I believe everyone knows what Pornography and masturbation are, at least anyone that has access to internet should know.
Porn is rampant these days, you see them virtually everywhere, on billboards, social media platforms, downloading sites, TV adverts, TV series and Reality shows etc. Porn is primarily the main reason for masturbation.

Masturbation is the real issue here, it's not exclusive to a particular gender, girls fap as much as guys, it has assorted nicks like wanking, fapping, jerking off, shooting and the rest. Which ever you Choose to call it, the main point of this thread is to stop it for good.

People who have tried stopping it but didn't succeed, results to preaching the 'health benefits of it' which I once did in order to clear my conscience at one point in time... lol, they give lame excuses why fapping is good for you, they even have a crew which they are well proud of(the one here is Vaseline crew, I assume), funny indeed.

The truth is that Porn and Masturbation does much more harm than any delusional good to you, physically, emotionally or otherwise.

If you are among those that really want to stop, you probably must have typed this cliche on google search bar 'how to stop masturbation' I have done it severally, especially after I just finished 'doing it'. Various blogs would give you various reasons to stop, but the reoccurring points there are summarized below :

1) Porn/Masturbation drains your energy(physical and mental energy)

2) Porn/Masturbation can lead to erection dysfunction or premature climax.

3) Porn/Masturbation reduces your testosterone and your creativity too.

4) Porn/Masturbation drains your Resources, your precious time, money for subscription and the rest.


5) Porn/Masturbation kills you, believe it or not.


Let's share our Challenges here, and for those who were able to overcome this addiction(s), you can share your success stories with us that are still battling in order to encourage us