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alutacontinua: What was you guy's agreement on finances or how do you guys run your finances? If you don't feel comfortable answering that question, you don't have to!
Every NORMAL family should have savings, I'm believing he also has his own savings. How does knowing that you have savings turn out to be bad for you. Everybody knows the meaning of savings is 'you don't touch it' or doesn't he know that? Funny how people use the line 'I trust you with my life' but can't trust their partners with money. If he gets to know, how do you think he would feel? Your reason doesn't come across as genuine. If he gets to know, he'll just know for knowing's sake, i'm sure he's not gonna wake up and say go and bring the money in your savings account (from how you've painted him)...so, what's the big deal? I really don't understand your reason, I must be sincere.

I think you're trying to save for 'if something happens to you two'...but even at that, i believe the account is in your name, so, how does it still affect you? Please, explain to me, I DON'T GET IT!

Ok, I get wot u r saying, it hasn't bn too long we got married I jst dnt wnt money 2 cause any issue dts y am sayin dis out. Bt u r right, u'v got gud points. Thnk u I rily appreciate u takin out of ur time 2 write dis, am kind of releived.

alutacontinua: Why don't you tell him?
Is he the type that'll make sure the money gets drained before his eyes would clear?
I don't think there's anything bad in making him know that you have your savings, he doesn't even need to pry into how much or where it's kept, he doesn't expect you not to have savings, does he?
When it comes to finances in the family, one cap doesn't fit for all and we don't know the kind of relationship or agreement you had with your husband, neither do we know the kind of person he is, but i'll say it's not ideal to hide it from him.

Besides, if it's disturbing you so much that you had to come open a thread for it here, then, there might be a chance that what you're doing is wrong!

Well u r right, am only disturbed coz its d only thing I kip 4rm him. He doesn't ask me 4 money o, I jst feel its 4 our own gud.

[quote author=Risky_mallam]Well, there are things to consider. Has he asked you? If he has, and you refuse to let him know how much you earn then that's not too good.

If he hasn't, it might not be a bad idea to let him know how much you earn.

He might not be interested in your money, but telling him how much you earn puts you in good stead.

Thats my take on this.[/quote]He as neva askd, am nt saying he is interested in my money, d tin is der r tyms he spend on some stuffs d r nt dt important, though I do try 2 talk 2 him bt u knw I can only advice. So der was a tym we needed money urgently bt we didn't hv enuf bt d ones I hv in my account solved 40% of it. Dts y I decided nt 2 let him knw hw mch I hv, in case of emergency.

henryblaze25: But do u assist him when he needs financial assistance?

Always even b4 we gt married

austushi1: offcourse ur doing d best thing! U tell him all u hv, he collects(borrow I mean) and story go enter, and u won't do anything cos he's ur husband, and when u guys starts facing hardship, he unleashes his anger on u, for his own faults!(God forbids)

I'm not saying u shouldn't be supportive, but u need to have a separate savings where u save d part he doesn't kw! Remember u'll have kids and u won't expect him to buy all d stuffs for d kids!

My mama no dey slack 4dis level @all, when dad was alive!

Yea I get it, thnx

Is it good to hide money from your husband? I mean for instance I don't tell my husband how much I have on me, not becos I dnt wnt 2 tel him but I do save most of it incase we r in need of money. He doesn't knw hw mch I receive as salary and I dnt wish 2 tell him, not becos of any oda thing bt 2 assist incase we need it. So am I doing the right thing or is it wrong? because I dnt kip secret 4rm him except dis.