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Wow! Jaybaby so you're still online!
You're the best. My girl is presently in Enugu doing her youth service. I know there are lots of internet cafes there. She doesn't just like going to a cafe and only gets there when we really need to chat. I think she is so reserved and decent. Remember she's s good christian.
Or what do you think?

Jaybaby be cool,
There is something you must know, Most men turn to love a lady more when she plays hard to get. I'm not exactly saying my baby is playing hard to get but if that's the case, then I can't imagine the kind of party I'll organise when she finally divulges the reason behind her difficult ways.
I've had girls before and dumped most of them because they were so easy going and submissive. This is a challenge for me now and I'm up to it.
What do you think?

Jaybaby, no be wah, na wahwahwah

Thanks a lot rv2ii, I will try that as well.
She can't read all your contributions here because I don't think she's registered here. She doesn't check the internet at all and I try all the time to get us to chat but she always turns me down. It's ridiculous but I will try all what you guys have adviced above.
Thanks.

Pmt4life, My girl has been playing hard to get since 11 months ago when i met her. It is a long distance relationship. I send her money all the time to make her happy but she won't even send me a text message or call me till I beg for one. Even when I beg for one, it comes after a long while. When I stay for a day without calling, she quickly calls and talks to me so softly.
I've studied the situation and I don't know what to do. Perhaps she just wants my money, The thing is, I love the girl so much and intend getting married to her soon. But she is playing hard to get and we have not even slept together. She once mentioned men are not to be trusted. Perhaps she's had some pretty bad relationships in the past.
Believe me my brother, a girl can paly hard to get because she really loves you and wants to be sure if you do love her as well. On the other hand she may just want your money or really does not care about you.

Thanks my Man Fabulous10, I will take my time and make a wise decision on whether to proceed. I am really thankful for all the advice am getting right here on nairaland.
Thanks to all of you.

Thanks a lot Ayenfe for the advice. I will pray strongly.
She actually does not yell at me all the time.
I also do yell at her and make her very angry sometimes.

Thanks my man Abdkabir.
She's actually been so soft-spoken these days.
I think she's beginning to realize she's treated me badly enough and perhaps has seen how much I love her.
But I go dey careful, i no wan go die because of love wan tin tin.

Thanks a lot Tunmininu, I will take my time to study her.
She also turns to abandon me totally when she's buzy and when I call she quickly does ask me to call back. When I call back, she'll ask me to call back again.
I know she's doing her Youth Service and they can be very buzy sometimes but what about me who works for a big and diciplined corporation. I still find time to call her or send text messages.
One thing I like about her is that when ever I get so annoyed and don't call for a day, she calls and talks with remorse. But I'm so confused.

Hi Man, Forgot to say I also have my own Nigerian girlfriend back home. Perhaps she is worse as she will only call when she wants money. I've actually spent three times what you've spent on yours within eight months. She actually yells at me while asking for money. Well, she's like a sister and I love her. I will marry her. A woman can be acting like yours or mine just naturally and she can change when she gets to a certain age and in her case perhaps at 40. Go for your girl if you love her, She will change. Aslo check my topic, MY GIRLFRIEND TALKS TO ME WITH ANGER BUT CAN BE FRIENDLY - IS THIS LOVE? What do you think, Plz reply

Hi Man, Forgot to say I also have my own Nigerian girlfriend back home. Perhaps she is worse as she will only call when she wants money. She actually yells at me while asking for money. Well, she's like a sister and I love her. I will marry her. A woman can be acting like yours or mine just naturally and she can change when she gets to a certain age and in her case perhaps at 40. Go for your girl if you love her, She will change. Aslo check my topic, MY GIRLFRIEND TALKS TO ME WITH ANGER BUT CAN BE FRIENDLY - IS THIS LOVE? What do you think, Plz reply.

My brother I'm Nigerian myself and I don't really like what BigSis above mentioned about our Nigerian sisters hanging around internet cafes trying to find someone to suck from.
We have decent girls here and there are lots of Europeans married to decent Nigerian girls they met on the internet.
Your girl is just a bad one and believe me any girl can be this way. I live in South Africa myself and tried dating a black South African but she sucked me so bad. Nigerian girls are the best because most of them only think about marriage and not just a relationship.
I can see you really are in love with this girl and the replies above will only break your heart more.
Take it from me, Talk one-on-one with this girl or even visit a counselor. This girl may change. Do this if you intend marrying her. Everyone at a certain age wants to get married though your girl is taking a little too long to do that. However there are women above 40 perhaps in America who are not yet married so its really not about being Nigerian.
Love is like a gamble, You can spend more on her if you love her but do not think she's yours until she accepts your ring and even thereafter she can be worse.
It's how life works, Again if you love this girl, do what ever you can do legitimately with you might to win her love and respect.
You'll be cool.

Nduleme is a genuis.

But you're male!!!

Yes I would but have a girlfriend currently.

Thanks so much Abdkabir, Free and Bluenubian, You see the issue is I met this girl during December 2005 when I was home for Christmas just six days before my return to Johannesburg.
I did not sleep with her. We've been talking on phone since then and I've been sending her money. There are times when she is really friendly and loving and I've promised to marry her. She is a Christian girl and according to her she talks to me with anger sometimes because she doesn't trust men any more especially what one other ninja guy living in London did to her. It seems I'm suffering for what i did not do. When ever I stay for a day without calling or say call in the morning and no call in the evening, she becomes frightened and calls me talking so softly. I send her lots of money because she is still at varsity and no parents to take care of her finances.
Please guys help me out, I want to marry this girl by end of this year. She may not be terrible. Remember as a man I also do shout at her and make her feel angry sometimes by saying terrible things.
What do you guys think?

My girfriend talks to me with anger but can be friendly.
Is this love?