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begwong:
Yes of course why not. My brother married a Muslim lady and they are happily married. Unlike some parents/families that will choose to kill the lady or declare a fatwa on both couples.

Nukualofa:
But I've been having good sex with them since time immemorial

jamislaw:
I have to marry this year by God's grace.

Nukualofa:
I can marry a muslim girl as far as she doesn't rub her religion in my face

akeenalee:
Lovely post. My hitch is maybe am not seeing the right ones. The last muslim lady i met lied she's a virgin but pretty as she lost it since 13yrs old and she's 26 now. Muslim ladies that are worth a wife material are just 30 out of 100. She dated sum1 for 7yrs saying she never had sex with d person and with her level of romance it sure she as been into this long time. What is wrong with our muslim sis. Despite i was honest and never hide any of my past relationship with her. It complicated

farouk0403:
Op I get so many problems,
1. I spend almost all of my years studying, I dont have any skill nor job I depend solemnly on my parents for my financial problem, now I am at my peak of graduation without a penny in my bank account, I dont even know whether I will get a job or not after my Nysc.
So tell me how will I marry in this situation?
you should nt even think that my dad will support me, he will not.

2) I am a shy type I dont talk to girls, apart from shyness I always think that girls can easily disgrace you in public without given much thought. So to avoid this I stayed away from girls totally, I always frown at them and this made them to be more scared of me.

3) I always have this mentality that I shall make money first before dating, because every girl likes gift and surprises.

4) I have ego, therefore my rapport with people is very very low.
I know is a bad thing in islam but I cant help it, I tried to control it once but I failed.
Hello honoured bro, may Allah assist you, and forgive all our foibles as to your shyness, let me tell you, it's a good thing and ayah (bashfulness) is part of our Deen but we just have to be smart and remove the shyness when need be especially in the case of seeking for what really want. I have been in that shoe before too.and also you can inform some brothers close to you that are outspoken or at the helm of affairs to initiate a talk with a sister for you, not that they would help you talk to the lady but like prepare a greener ground for the lady to hear what you wanna say.islam encourages that,
And as for lady being disgracing you if you walk up to them, am sure our honoured muslimahs don't do that and won't do that..they want to hear what you want to say too.. And the funnest part is that they might have been expecting you to make the move all this while. So don't dull yourself bro
And as for ego, well every creature has their own inbuilt ego but in as much as we have known that this trait isn't good for any kind of relationship, Islam encourages us to stay clear from this attitude especily as you are a intending husband and father. Ego spoilt our good deeds and Allah detest such act. But there is an ego that is apparent to we men in marriage and our muslimahs have to acknowledge that.. That is our self respect. We men love it so much and we ain't gonna trade anything with that and it don't necessarily mean the men have to use that to oppress their partners too.
May Allah assist us
And finally,as for you not having a source of income or skill. It isn't late for you to acquire marketable skill or learn a trade it isn't late.. Although Islam urge us to get married if we have the means and for those that don't have the means yet,nabbiy Muhammad'(pbuh)urged us to fast as fasting diminish sexual power, WA laakin no matter how long one fast, there would be a time when we feel we need to get married and then we ought to have had something doing, a work or trade, even when Allah says He would enrich those seeking to get married for his sake and fearing poverty out of HIS bounty, He is referring to us having something doing.an effort on our own part that HE would bless, so it is this our efforts no matter how small that Allah would bless and would turn to riches for us. So you can also meet with your parents, rich relatives talk to them that you need a start up capital for a business or a trade after you might have gotten your business idea straight or skill you want them to help you on.. They would assist you In sha Allah. Make them see reasons why you need it, why you want to be getting independent of them gradually, make them know you really want to start doing something that would make you extra cash while in school thereby making you responsible. Even tell them about marital plans, that you don't want to comit zina but you have no means to get married in the Islamic way even if you want to.they would be happy and assist you. Change their orientation that you only need a stable source of income no matter how small and Allah would enrich you with time..we have seen many parents that have done this for their children and they are living fine now. We have seen parents that sponsor their children marriage, even the child naming ceremony and even establish them so as to be financially stable m. Such parents understand the importance of marriage and when it is being done early and also know the implications when it is delayed and hard on looking for expensive marriage Ceremony that scares suitors away especially on the part of the female child.. So may Allah assist us. You can let me know If you need entrepreneur and good biz ideas .am an entrepreneur and a farmer. So you can always reach out to me in that regards in sha Allah if you need any help. So that you can start something as fast as possible. Asallam allaikum waramatulah

prettymina:
Am single bcus I have only a xtain suitor who is ready to marry me.duo he promised nt to disturb my religion but I don't blv him.i don't want to leave ISLAM

AishyWemsy:
May Allah lead and guide us. Marriage is a beautiful thing. I smell fp.