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Mandynews:
A lady from America, took to Instagram to narrate her heartbreaking story to diaryofanaijagirl how shocked she was after she caught her brother finger in her daughter's vagina.
HERE IS A LIST OF THINGS U NEED 2 TEACH UR CHILD(REN) AT EARLY AGE:♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles.

2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my wife' or 'my husband'

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.

10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).

12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the
crowd.

13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don't keep quiet about it.

Take up the case and show them you can defend them.

Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be.
and remember "THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME"
See the heartbreaking story below.

https://www.instagram.com/p/Bc6j3DOBzje

More via http://mandynews.com/2017/12/20/lady-narrates-story-of-how-she-caught-her-brother-sexually-abusing-her-daughter-pics/

mosho2good:
can someone please say Alhamdulilahi

betafuture:
I am very sorry, it seems like anytime I post on Nairaland is actually the time I have great challenges in my life, however, my posts also reflect the chronicle of my life. You may wish to check out my last posting about how I was sacked in the Bank with a debt that was guaranteed by a junior staff, whose job was threatened by the loan I obtained and she guaranteed for me. please find the link https://www.nairaland.com/2282140/loan-incured-before-termination-appointment Like I mentioned in that post, I got a job as with a Rep member and he appointed me as the Special assistant on a salary of 80k monthly and my boss paid my rent, of which I engage with my lender to take 50k with me monthly and right off the excess interest and stop disturbing the junior colleague, an arrangement they agreed to and everybody was fine, save that I had to struggle to cope with 30k monthly as a family man, working in Abuja. My wife never complained. I just gave her 25k from the salary, once received, to buy food for the family why I tried to manage with the remaining 5k. It was tough! Luckily, a junior lady cousin who works in a bank was posted to Abuja and we had to accommodate her. She was very kind and understood my plight. Sometimes, she drops up to 50k for my wife to augment the house expenses. She would tell me and sometimes, I would take additional 10k to ad to my pocket money.

The home was running, my son, my wife and my cousin, including myself were very happy. As a banker, I had learned the skill of marketing and networking and negotiation. In the course of my sojourn in the national assembly I met a head of a parastatal wjo needed me to do some strategic alliance between his organization and my boss. We later became great friends, and i realized I could access a scholarship to study in the UK through him. To cut the story short, I pursued this opportunity to the latter and I got a Federal government scholarship to pursue a Masters degree in the UK. I saw this as an opportunity to rewrite the story of my life. Two months in the UK, I began to look for means to bring my wife and son to join me in the UK. While I was in UK, I made it a point of duty to send 150k to my wife in Nigeria on monthly basis (Remember I was on scholarship) and I also do student work in the UK. Because we did not sell our car during the crisis, I also gave the custody of the car to her.

FIRST SUSPICION

When she was about coming to the UK with my 7 years old son, we decided to give out some of our home appliances and sell most of them including the car. Since I was not in Nigeria, she was to manage the transactions. Because I opened her e-mail address, i do see her mails, so i could see the alert on her GTB. The first thing that prompted me was that the amount she received for the sales of our car was 100k higher than what she declared to me. (The fund was meant to buy the flight tickets for her and my son). There were other expense transactions that were over declared, but the actual amount debited to her account were quite low. I did not confront her on these issues until she arrived UK with my son. When I did, I could see the way she manipulatively and professionally lied her way out of the whole issue. I did not pick an offense, hence i made her to understand that I was never convinced. Since then my instinct told me that if she could lie to me so much on finance, maybe there are other things going on in her life that I never known. However, I opened her Facebook account for her years ago in Nigeria, but I never bothered to check it. Out of curiosity, I tried login into her Facebook account and I discovered she has changed the password. My first reaction was to check it, but had I done that, she would have been conscious, then I used my skill as an trained IT security expert to crack her password and then access her Facebook. I ran through all her messenger message and everything was fine. Apart from a certain guy who always beg her for assistance and prayer, there was nothing really suspicious about her messanger and then, we continued with our normal life.

After a week in UK, she started to work as a carer (her visa permitted her to work fully), and she began to make money. I know how much enters her account and we decide how to spend. My son also start schooling and life began to have meaning again. I finished my masters with a distinction and the best graduating student in my department and my University offered me automatic admission for PhD, with part scholarship.l To remain, we needed to source funds to show evidence that my family can stay with me in the UK and show evidence of the balance of school fees. We sourced for money everywhere. She brought all she had and we had to borrow both from UK and Nigeria. My boss was very supportive and I commenced the PhD this September. As a family, we have a problem. My son is now 8 years and we have been trying to make another baby but it does not seem to be forthcoming. We have been to hospitals in the UK, we were both tested and once told my sperm motility was low, treated, but later we were considered both ok.

Since her arrival in the UK, I noticed that my wife suddenly repel sexxx. Sometimes, we had sexxxx just once in a month, she would find a way of brushing away by advances. At a level, i had to ask if there was any problem, but she said it was because of the new environment, her jobs and what have you. This further told me that all was not well in my marriage. She knows I love her and I would do anything for her. While we were yet trying to pay my tuition, her mum got a US visa and all the children were making contributions for her journey, I had to take from my school fees and send to Nigeria and manage my school to give us more time. I tried to ensure that we continually live like one happy family.

Do not let me sound like one perfect good guy. I had also lived a rough bad life in the past and she is aware. During my days in the bank, I had been sexually reckless and irresponsible. There was a time I left office to a gal house, fckked her and I never knew that the condom we used was stick to my shoe. I drove with it home, entered home very late at night, my wife was already angrily waiting for me in the house, only to see a used condom with sperm inside attached to the soul of my shoe. It was an issue that we had to battle with for weeks, even though I never confess it was from, I told a story that it must have got gummed to me at the mechanic village where I had gone to pick my car in the evening (She was aware that someone has accused my mechanic of having sexxx in his car, leaving condom at the back seat). after few weeks, we resolved the issue and we continued leaving normal life. However, there was also a time I suspected her activities on Facebook and I realised a guy whom she has known in the past has been pestering her and she seems to be encouraging him (That was during our period of financial crisis). I had confronted her, she had denied they never had anything but the guy was just pestering her. I apologised and went sober. I called the guy (who was also married) and lived in another faraway city. The guy denied having anything to do with her that she just knew her while growing up. The guy originally blasted me, but later called back and apologized and promised never to disturb her again. I was hurting for months, after which I forgave, forgot and moved on. Let me also state that during the period of my financial crisis, I made a covenant with God, after listening to a message, that whatever the case maybe, I will remain faithful to my wife. This I have manage to keep despite advances from both married and single friends and acquaintances.

THE REAL ISSUE

Now, we are living in the UK and very happy, she is working full-time, while I pursue my PhD full-time, work part-time and my son schools full-time and we were all happy, save the issue of delayed pregnancy and (to me, the poor sex life from her). Let me also state that I bought her a Samsung phone (when she arrived last year), which I have full access to because I know her password. Few months ago, she told me she wanted a bigger phone that she would send the one I bought her to my younger brother in Nigeria who had been disturbing her for a phone. Even though, I thought we did not need to spend money on a new phone at that crucial time because of the looming school expenses, I consented just for her to be happy and she got herself a Samsung galaxy s8 plus for 700pounds, which she would repay of 2 years. The first thing that prompted me about the phone was that she changed her password, but I never mind because I thought she was preventing my son, who always loved to play game on her phone from accessing the phone. However, after few weeks, I began to feel very uncomfortable about the whole stuff. My instinct just told me all was not well. Whatever was it, I could not place my finger on it. But after reviewing my work with my supervisor in the University yesterday, I just felt like going home to rest, instead of studying in the school and then, I met wife in the house with my son. She was trying to order some items online for my son for Christmas and on arrival, she gave her phone to select what we should buy for him, and then, the FB message came into her phone and I could read...'it is not what you think, I have been very busy'

I selected the item I thought was ok, gave returned her phone, picked my laptop and logged in to her Facebook. My wife pretended she was enganging me in discussion, but was responding to the message from a guy, who obviously was her lover and she wrote (I was reading from my computer without her knowledge) 'You know I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU'. and the other guy responded 'I love you more baby' (By this time, I was already burning on the seat, but I somehow managed to keep my calm). She wrote 'But you don't call me' ...and she stood up and went to the kitchen (I wanted to gather enough evidence before I reacted), but immediately she got to the kitchen, she deleted the conversation. At this time, I could not take it. My son was in the sitting room, watching cartoon. I went to her in the kitchen and aggressively confronted her. She originally pretended she did not know what I was saying, but when she say the aggression and seriousness in me she started begging and crying. I lost control of my emotion. I was angry and shouting. My son was there. He was too young, but very intelligent. he understood everything and began to blame his mum, at the same time asking me ti give mum a second chance. I was bitterly hurting. I felt like tearing her into pieces, but if I tried that in UK, it will be straight to jail. She could not state the reason behind her action. She was still trying to lie. She said the guy was her ex and they recently became friends on Facebook and the guy is trying to rekindle the old relationship. The guy is based in Nigeria, they do not even see. Everything she said was incoherently sense. All she wanted was that I should forgive her. I should not tell anybody. She cried, wept and what have you. I was hurting. If it were to by Nigeria, she would have left my house yesetrday, but in UK, it is difficult. The love turned to hatred. She managed to convince me to enter room with her, so that she will discuss the issue with me, without getting our son involved. In the room, it was the same crying and plea for forgiveness and a promise it would never happen again. I told her i was ok, but she would not let me out. I had to angrily shove her away from the door and she hit her head against the wardrobe. i was too angry, too sad, and too hateful to care. i called her all manners of unprintable names. I cursed her, I was just too angry. She kept begging. I left for the sitting room and she came back, knelt down before me and kept begging. My son was crying that two of us were making him sad. The young boy even threatened to tell his teacher in the school on monday. I was too angry to listen. I just told her to let me be. She stood up with tears in her eyes to enter the toilet, I checked her Facebook account again and realised that the lover had sent another message thus: "My dear I don't call you always to protect your home, but I always check your pictures every night before I go to bed" As I was reading, she stupidly deleted that again in the toilet. (Please note that my wife always post our family pictures on facebook, stating how I am the best husband in the world).

My anger erupted again and I rushed to meet her in the bathroom and asked her why she deleted the last message of the guy and she tearfully answered that she did not want me to see anything that could aggravate my anger the more. I angrily snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She knelt down at my feet and continued to cry and beg for forgiveness, but I was hurting so badly. I left for sitting room again and my son was confusedly crying. She came back and knelt before me and continued begging and weeping and begged we should go back to the room to discuss, at least to protect our son. After a while, i followed her. There was nothing to say; the same weeping, crying and promises to not do it again and swearing that they never had anything together. I told her I needed to talk to the guy and she pleaded I should not. I told her she is giving me an impression that she is protecting the guy so that she could continue her illicit affairs with him and told her it would not work. The can change tactics, but its is only a matter of time. I told her, I would forgive her, but I cannot trust her again and when there is no trust in marriage, the marriage is gone. I also told her I must engage that guy that she should give me his number, but she said her phone is no longer working. I made her feel comfortable that I have forgiven her, but honestly I am hurting. I went back to my laptop, continued chat with the guy on her messenger, but he was now online. We both slept on the same bed, i realised she could not sleep. In the middle of the night she woke me up to beg again, she was offering a make-up sexxx, but I was not interested. I told her i had forgiven her, but I am still hurting and there is no way i could have erection with her. In the morning, I checked her messanger, i discovered the iddiot has responded, still claiming to love her. I checked his profile, I realised he is a muslim, who has a wife with two kids. His location was not shown, but most of his pics her in Nigeria apart from two which have foreign background. I also realize he has limited posts on FB, but the phone number on his FB page is US phone number.

From my wife's FB account, I sent a message thus:

Hi, Mr Farouq, my name is Adams, I am Grace husband
I just wish to inform you that all the rubbish you have been doing with my wife are now exposed to me
I advise you in the name of whatever thing you believe, STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

I also realize you are a married man. If you have any moral integrity and respect for family values, you will know that
responsible men do not run after married women or break homes.

I do not care whatever you claim you think of her, just heed this warning STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

He read it an never respond. I went to her facebook setting and unfriended him.

I left home in the morning to go study in the library, but honestly, I could not assimilate anything. I am so emotionally broken down, so psychologically disturbed. The whole event kept playing in my head. I found it difficult to rationalise it. I continued to find fault in my being and my personality. I know I am very attractive handsome young man. Despite showing I am married, ladies still flock around me. I am also a passionate lovemaker. I dress well and look neat. I don't seem to understand where I have failed. Sometimes I just close my eyes and i feel tears dripping, but I have got to be strong. As for her, she has remained in the room since morning, hiding her head in shame and crying profusely. I have cut off communication with her since I came back from school and I have enganged myself in drinking spirit maybe my spirit will be strenghtened.

This is my story, this is my ordeal. Please I need advice.

Thanks.



Hello sir, firstly, I really took time to read all you have said here and I must say, you are just indeed a man enough ".you have tried as man, a husband and a father. I am really sorry about this going on in your relationship. It's very sad. I understand those feelings of yours that would come rushing, where you have gotten it wrong, how else can you be caring, what else does the woman wants,,and all that... But the thing is that "what is meant to happen to you would not have e missed you and this you are going through currently in your marriage.. Two things are involved, it's either you summon the manly courage, face the reality, forgive your wife again like you have always done, and start the union again, remember, your son, let the words of your son always echoes in your ear whenever you think of doing something weird, that you guys were making him sad. Yes. That's it.. He is sad with the situations on ground, and sir you can either show this your young chap the values of forgiveness and moving on and how to handle crisis in a marriage or you make the power boy opened to a shaking home and making him to have a particular perception of how all women behaves.. So sir ..please doe God sake. Forgive this woman and move on.. For the sake of God. It,s nor just about you,about your son. Every of your actions against your wife is justified.yes .we know.. But you have to weigh your options this time .marriage would always come with a challenge and 60peecent of marriage this time, the first 5-10 years are always stormy and if care isn't taken, there would be divorce,and if chimdren are involved. It would affect them too.
So sir.. Please for God sake, don't let the stupidity of one useless and senseless man destroy your union. If God wills,He will punish the Man with similar fate or even worse.. One of the worst a d grave sin in the sight of God is separating a husband and his wife,breaking a home..it is so grave that God actually cursed people that does such. So as for the man, leave him to God. He would have his recompense. Please sir.. Forgive the woman, and cover her secret, ordinarily,i don't expect you to share it on here, different with weird opinions would say all sorts of things in the coment.some would even abuse your wife. All in the name of advising you.. It is wrong.. No matter what .she is the mother of your kid. And apart from that, if she sees you have put our her story on here, she would feel so down more. What she is going through currently is enough sorrow for her, this would only more salt to her injury..."how you caught your adulterous wife "the topic is harsh.. What of if you eventually settles all this nko,would you still like to see the thread. The title..
Anyways sir, I liked the fact that you have messaged the yeye man and he has seen it but ashamed to reply

UrWorstNightmare:
I'm sure I'll be devastated by that

let's hear it

the only way blasphemy can ruin me is if muslins get "peaceful" with me like they're peaceful in the north when they behead people and bomb them

bullshit! I'm as scared of your allah slapping me deaf as much as you're scared of Freddy Krueger killing you in your dreams Or Chucky or ghostface killing you

your allah and them have the same thing in common, they're all imaginary
keep your useless warning to yourself or serve it to other gullible homos

I'm talking fact, deal with it
allah did not create me, imaginary entities can't create real ones

its like saying Jack Bauer (not Kiefer Sutherland) is my father

False equivalence! my parents are real, allah isn't!

if your god is real and as powerful as you say, you won't need to get so worked up for him

NaijaTalkTown:
You could have asked without being rude and harsh. Peace.

ivolt:
This is for the gullible.

There are many egyptian pharaohs whose buddy was mummified.
There is nothing miraculous about a body being mummified.

Neither the bible nor the quran told us which pharaoh it was despite
their self-acclaimed historicity suggesting they are all made up and
patched up stories with no evidence.

It is just like writing an epsitle about "a Nigerian president", the right
question to ask in such instance is: "which one?"

ivolt:
Who are we talking about here?

Please post any evidence that whoever you reffered to was naturally preserved.

Finally, there are many examples of naturally-preserved corpses spread across
the world and it is as a result of the bodies being deposited in a suitable environments
and not the handiwork of a god.

UrWorstNightmare:
Not allah, imaginary entities shouldn't be given such qualities

toltee4real:
I am deeply concern as regards the dictate of Christianity as a religion, the guides and procedures for burying our dead relatives. I found it necessary to bring it up here as the Muslims has a unique way of handling it. Does bible stipulates any guidance?

Newboss:
These backward people have carried their nonsense overseas?

I wonder what she will do when she sees 2 men kissing passionately.

Jaabioro:
You tell me how big you are,and l will dumbfolded if we eventually met? You make me laughed! Honestly you are no where close to my age and standard of living,fortunately my smatphone is with your mate my biological son...therefore if you are still willing to see me indicate your interest...Ko bi ase se agbe kale oro!

Jaabioro:
You tell me how big you are,and l will dumbfolded if we eventually met? You make me laughed! Honestly you are no where close to my age and standard of living,fortunately my smatphone is with your mate my biological son...therefore if you are still willing to see me indicate your interest...Ko bi ase se agbe kale oro!

Jaabioro:
Ori re buru ni,abi were ko bata re..who sent you to teach your mother on how to give birth...is your head paining you.? Afo fun gbemu!

Jaabioro:
Ori re buru ni,abi were ko bata re..who sent you to teach your mother on how to give birth...is your head paining you.? Afo fun gbemu!

Jaabioro:
Thank God it was in Saudi Arabia,the city founder of jihad.

Basic123:
Not as much as islam gives Christians mare.Have you ever seen Muslims shouting christianization agenda on slight issues like Christians shout islamzation agenda?

Barrywilly:
I have no doubt that's why it will be. No wonder thousands perish there annually

QueenOfNepal:
Hope they have 72 virgins for the brainwashed Mohammedans

Stanleyelege:
No wonder d country is hot like an oven

mansakhalifa:
@pweeryambre too bad. And after marriage what next? Multiple Pregnancies? Babies? Wallow in abject poverty with their spouses? All because of what? A bloody government sponsored marriage. That explains why we remain bloody stagnant in this part of the world! All we think about is marriage and making babies instead of opening new frontiers and creating wealth. We will go nowhere this way. We have to start thinking.

biobio111:
This people behaviour and their mentality is the problem we have in Nigeria Foolish tribe with their poor thinking. Always depend on government to do everything for you. Government go help you put aboki penis to your pussy even the 12 or 14 years old girl sitting in the right.

ThinkSmarter:
Frankly Speaking; Polygamy Seems To Be God's Original Marriage Plan For Mankind.
Monogamy Seems To Be Throwing Many Ladies Out Of Marriage.
Honestly, No Lady Z Happy Being Single At 28+.
U Can Choose 2 Marry As Many As U Can Cater For.
Forget D Church Doctrine, It Z Manmade.
God Hv Not Sent David, Abraham, Jacob, Solomon To Hell.

Note: I Am Entitled To My Opinion.

komododragons:
did Muhammed did any miracle while on earth



you need the holy spirit to understand the bible so I suggest you give your life to Christ Jesus.

komododragons:
at least we can hear what redeem are singing!

can you hear what there are reciting?

dominique:
Ordinary Quran recitation competition in far away Saudi, you're already wailing of Islamization. So when Redeem organized music competition, it was a way of Christianizing the country abi? E no go better for the person wey do you this kain thing

shevchenko:
It is a shame that inspite of boko harem people are still embracing the religion

pmc01:
Anyone can claim that, including Shekau and his boys.





Not characteristic of a Muslim




Of what use is your existence to Islam and the world in extension?

Egein:
I'm actually Muslim. So you see how stupid you are?
Of what use is a recitation/cramming to the world, and to even Islam itself?

BiafranBushBoy:
SMH!!!

Your mates are looking for how to make money without working so hard,

You are here explaining how to woo a girl without money!!

You need spiritual help!!

voiceofthetruth:
Rubbish

Tolexander:
"aye n se o" (life is doing you)

asuustrike2009:
There are dress code in most churches but not all churches follow suit. Churches like Deeper life, mountain of fire,Lord's Chosen, Watchman,Bride Assembly just to mention a few have dress code. They don't allow women to wear trousers, make up,open their hairs when praying.
They have biblically backing to that effect so most members comply.They carry such practices outside the church to their homes too.
The picture below give a description of what Mary wore.