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My deductions though nobody knows her side of the story, and this is purely based on what you have said;

The Child is likely not yours, - secretly do a DNA, secretly oh.

Upon confirmation the child is yours, Then you are hooked with her till you decide what your next action is aa you suspect she is cheating you must gather evidence which as you said seems likely. but I will advice you as someone with a very similar case and now separated;

Your wife's attitude will never change, Counselor or not. it will even get worse off. The reason is that she's come from a toxic place, and lacks manners or proper upbringing she doesn't understand the value of a healthy and peaceful feeling in a relationship or even respect parents as courteous people should.

A healthy relationship without insults, nagging becomes boring for her and she will keep pushing you till you lose your peace and become out of control, it's a high for her and she's enjoying it and she will hand you with a high blood pressure, I recommend a medical check up because she's putting you through can have you collapse especially as you work straight 24-48hrs.

One of the reasons she maybe acting up is because she isnt understanding you and your plans which may be your fault as it seems you aren't too financially buoyant taking care of a family and you haven't discussed your action plans to give her a life she wants and most women will insult and nag at you once there's low cash flow and this will affect your sex life which may be the reason she's in touch with her ex, even if cheating is a choice. I can tell you for a fact based on your post that she maybe enjoying being physical with the ex hence the comparisons.

Truth is nobody can advise you especially if you still love her, you will do what your emotions tell you especially because she's your wife.

if you want to go the states with her it will give the (your) kid a better life but na there una go divorce finally.

I feel sorry for the kid because alot of ladies that lack proper parental upbringing make this mistake taking the emotional garbage they carry from their childhood and bring it into marriage expecting the men to be rehabs and manage their crass nature, only the kid suffers. Nobody likes quarrels, nagging, insults and fights it's going to affect your child negatively which my lead to low moral standards as expressed by your wife.

I wish you could speak with her to fix up her problems because for your family to be happy she has to bring her happiness and you bring yours together ti have a happy family. If she's not a happy person even if you treat her like Miss world, you won't make any headway in your relationship. That's were I would advice you to run if not,well, Life na brain brain. Use am well and hustle for money with a side business if you intend to go forward probably get her a job too or start a business for her to keep her busy like I said Life na brain brain. Place premium value on your peace of mind

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