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You inquired about her husband and family before what you did so why feel awkward after?? You knew what you were doing. REPENT

I have invited him over so i can put it to his face. Because i wasn't sounding like me he has decided to come. Am asking, If he flares up (definitely) and apologizes, should i forgive? should i not break up? Apparently he's still hung over a girl and he's yet to grow up.

FYI he's not rich.

Please Nairalanders i need your advice before i make a big mistake.

I started dating this guy since mid 2013 but at that time he was studying outside the country. I have known the guy growing up, we talked about marriage over the phone and he decided to send his parents over for introduction at my house which my dad objected to and after much pleading he agreed . this was in October 2013. he was supposed to have been back to conclude the marriage but because of some issues he couldn't make it back till September 2014.

Before the Intro we practically dissolved every relationship we were into and he told me he has become celibate and i did likewise. Since he got back i believed in him, trying to understand him even thou we don't live in the same state. A few days ago i told him to apply the breaks on the traditional rites thing till he settles down that i want it to be done at once. When he came back he gave me access to his email to reply a job email which he ended up getting, he also insisted that i keep checking his mails to see if there are anymore replies.

At one point, i stumbled on an email with a girl saying how much they miss each other, i confronted him and he got upset and told me he was just pulling my legs that he knew i would check the mail. When i decided to shut down the mailbox, He insisted on me checking and replying his emails until he settles down in his new job. A few days back i was shutting down from the office and i don't no what prompted me to check his email especially the sent mails. I stumbled on one where he was telling his friend about girl A that he "would have been patient and that it hurts not marrying the girl he loves so much and understands".

For girl B he told him "that he wishes the could travel to some country with her" and the guy replies that "he knows shes his Achilles heels but that he will see white chics to have fun with". The trip in question is an all expense paid trip for him and he told me in passing that he would have wished he could go with me but that he doesn't have money.

For girl C, i saw a whole trail of mails he exchanged with her and this was during the period he said he was been "celibate". he met with this girl almost every Saturday even told her that when he returns back to that country that she will come and visit him in the hotel. I was supposed to also go with him to that trip which when he couldn't come back i got a visa and because i got the visa on the day of his event he said it was of no need coming again. A family friend wanted to sponsor me but he refused me coming. Even till September 2014 he was still sleeping with her and sending naughty messages till he came back.

Now, i don't trust him anymore and cant live with someone i cant trust. He couldn't even compromise and come to spend val with me. on my birthday last year, my sister asked me a question "so that your fiance cannot ask his friends to buy a cake for you? I had family issues, spoke to him and for over a month he hasn't asked what's up. Lest i forget he is yet to put a ring on my finger, still saying he doesnt have money but that he will surprise me.

The truth is i want to hear your thoughts. No insults