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Suicideboy:
Drop off your children at any orphanage then drop yourself off at Yaba Left

Thank you

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Please please please help me! Go through my story and see why it is especially very important now. For the sake of my child and my sanity.
I do not have much secular experience, but I'm more than willing to be trained.
Sirs and madams, PLEASE HELP ME.
PS: I live at ALAKUKO

Please please please help me! Go through my story and see why it is especially very important now.
I do not have much secular experience, but I'm more than willing to be trained.
Sirs and madams, PLEASE HELP ME.
PS: I live at ALAKUKO

I'm having suicidal thoughts

Panic Attacks. Suicidal thoughts crossing my mind everyday

Mindlog:
You will be your daughter's lifelong hero knowing you fought for her, don't allow yourself to be bullied by your husband and his relatives, being away from that family is best for the overall mental wellbeing of yourself and your daughter.

Get plain sheets of paper (like the ones used for photocopying) and crayons, give them to your daughter to be regularly drawing whatever comes to her mind, leave her to do it alone. Keep filing those drawings in a file, it will be useful in the future.

Ok

Sirmwill:
I thought as much


Ma'am
Still pray for him even if you are done with him.

He is still and will always be the father of your daughter
And most importantly, it would attract God's favour and grace.
Don't make things hard for yourself 🙏
Don't give the devil something to hold on to 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I hear

Mindlog:
It is in Nigeria that it is okay to let a child molestation slide and perpetrator go scot free.

Sexual molestation is not only evidenced by the physical.

OP, since you are out of that family physically, go ahead and take he child molestation case up with the relevant agency or ministry in the state where the molestation happened as that teenager who sexually molested your daughter needs to be picked up and taken out of circulation for some years and placed in a remand home for juvenile delinquents in order to protect other children from sexual molestation.

I'll do that. Take up the case I mean. Thanks

Gbadugbakun:
The incident happened in Nigeria which you and I know is lawless as compared to the UK.

The families tried to settle the matter by telling her to forget about it. Even her own husband told her to forget about it. She didn't. Now that she has been throw out of the house, has she gotten the justice she wanted?

What I expected her to do when the incident occurred was to take her daughter to the hospital first for medical examination. They would run her series of tests, then she would discuss the matter with her husband, her husband would go and face his own people.

This is Nigeria, and we know how things are done in Nigeria. No parent would admit that their 16 year old daughter is a lesbian. They'll try to defend her.

Please it's ok.

Sirmwill:
Hmmm

Wow

Just wow.

Firstly, you should know your husband very well. If he has never acted like this before then just know that there has been a spiritual involvement from his parents side.

If he has acted similarly before like shouting on you or threatening to throw you out before your daughter's incidence then, he has always been the wrong person all this while.It was only a matter of time before it showed fully.He may have been having extramarital affairs without your knowledge cos, for any spiritual involvement to work to make a husband hate his wife, adultery must be involved.

Experiences like yours can always be changed for better if you hold onto God solely. Only God can help you to pass through this and with this experience leading to your elevation.

I am sure this experience will have a happy ending.
Also, in everything you do, pray for your husband. That's the surest way to bring him back to his senses. If you truly love him before you got married. Don't hate him now. He needs you now more than before irrespective of anything that has happened or is happening right now.

Yes I confirmed the adultery part from my next compound neighbour, a very young girl you confessed that he has been trying to date her for years and also told her of his escapades with women over the years. I trusted him all this while.
And this is not the first time he has been wicked to me or thrown my load out, always with the backing of his parents.
He even told some elderly people who came to intercede for me that he has got a new wife, they were amazed.
What am I praying for him for? It's done.
I'm all about the future now, holding onto God for strength and willpower.
Thanks for the advice.

Yes I confirmed the adultery part from my next compound neighbour, a very young girl you confessed that he has been trying to date her for years and also told her of his escapades with women over the years. I trusted him all this while.
And this is not the first time he has been wicked to me or thrown my load out, always with the backing of his parents

Hello house. This below is me, with a new account. I left with all my things finally yesterday.
I'm starting a new life at 40.
Any suggestions on what to expect, how to surmount this phase and how to succeed?

This is in reference to this my story
https://www.nairaland.com/7508796/sexual-molestation-minor

I stayed away from the family. I went to spend sometime with my mum around December of 2022. I returned from work one day and got my ears full when my mum told me that my daughter talked about the molestation case all day. Mum advised me to take her to my in-laws place for the matter to be resolved, but that I should call hubby to take permission. He granted it.
Only for me to get there and my father in-law was accusing me of cooking up the story in my daughter's mind. I refused to be wrongly accused. My father in-law said after all the girl that molested my daughter isn't a boy and that after all she didn't finger my daughter. Because I defended myself and my daughter, my parents inlaw chased me and my baby out of their house like a common criminal. I cried all the way to my mum's place. Called my husband, he told me he knows the kind of parents he had, and that I should try forget the issue.
I tried forgetting it and stayed away from them. I cut them off totally. That was the only way I could heal. It's not like any of my in-laws ever reached out to me even before and after my daughter was molested, I was always doing all the calling. After this incident, I locked up.
Now my husband threw my load out on January 13th. My offense? His mother sent us food and I failed to call her to say thank you.
That's my offense. I've been squatting with my daughter from one place to another. His father even called to warn their tenant not to allow me spend another night at their house, because me and my daughter spent one night with the only tenant in the compound when I had no place to go. The tenant consist of a father, mother and their daughter, nice people.
Me and hubby live in their family house, although hubby's parents don't live there, only us and one tenant.
I've cried and cried. Elders in my church have begged and begged. He is adamant, with the backing of his father. He even locked up the remaining of my property in the very dusty store close to the gate, including my molested daughter's clothes. I even met my laptop on the floor, he had removed it from his worn-out bag I was using to house the laptop. I was so livid and was shouting that why wasn't he patient enough to give me some days to gather some money at least to rent a room, but he was so adamant that he and his family wanted me out on the street immediately. Because I was shouting out of anger and frustration, he took a wood with nail on it to hit my hand. It took the intervention of these same tenant to avert beating I would have received. This is a man I've sacrificed alot for, 10 years gone, just like that. My daughter and I are out on the street, squatting with a church member, without a dime.
And I have just heard from a neighbour that a new girl is coming to spend time in my own home, even helping him to rearrange it. I'm still in total shock and don't know what to do.
PLEASE I NEED A JOB before I lose my sanity. I live around OTA, but I'm willing to relocate to anywhere in Lagos, preferably closer to anywhere I'm able to secure a job.

Please anyone that can help me get a job to keep me busy, would be saving a life. Thanks

Stevenbright:
Take it easy on yourself. At the beginning, it is not going to be easy but in the long run, if you apply the right mental attitude, you will overcome.

Also learn your lessons and be strong for yourself and child.

Okay thank you.

MONEY247:
Really tough, I pray that the almighty finds way to get you on your feet back..

It's well

Amen, thank you sir

Gbadugbakun:
You were Warned to let it slide since there wasn't any evidence of bruise or bleeding on her vagina meaning her hymen is still intact. Yet you kept on fighting and fighting now your husband and his people have turned against you and you're here begging us for assistance. What do you want us to do?

Please you do not have to respond if you have no idea on what to say. If you read very well, I didn't respond but kept my distance, how is that also a crime ? The pain is out of this world. May you never have a daughter that gets molested, then you will know it's not all about a hymen.
My daughter comes first.
Thank you.

Hello house. This below is me, with a new account. I left with all my things finally yesterday.
I'm starting a new life at 40.
Any suggestions on what to expect, how to surmount this phase and how to succeed?

This is in reference to this my story
https://www.nairaland.com/7508796/sexual-molestation-minor

I stayed away from the family. I went to spend sometime with my mum around December of 2022. I returned from work one day and got my ears full when my mum told me that my daughter talked about the molestation case all day. Mum advised me to take her to my in-laws place for the matter to be resolved, but that I should call hubby to take permission. He granted it.
Only for me to get there and my father in-law was accusing me of cooking up the story in my daughter's mind. I refused to be wrongly accused. My father in-law said after all the girl that molested my daughter isn't a boy and that after all she didn't finger my daughter. Because I defended myself and my daughter, my parents inlaw chased me and my baby out of their house like a common criminal. I cried all the way to my mum's place. Called my husband, he told me he knows the kind of parents he had, and that I should try forget the issue.
I tried forgetting it and stayed away from them. I cut them off totally. That was the only way I could heal. It's not like any of my in-laws ever reached out to me even before and after my daughter was molested, I was always doing all the calling. After this incident, I locked up.
Now my husband threw my load out on January 13th. My offense? His mother sent us food and I failed to call her to say thank you.
That's my offense. I've been squatting with my daughter from one place to another. His father even called to warn their tenant not to allow me spend another night at their house, because me and my daughter spent one night with the only tenant in the compound when I had no place to go. The tenant consist of a father, mother and their daughter, nice people.
Me and hubby live in their family house, although hubby's parents don't live there, only us and one tenant.
I've cried and cried. Elders in my church have begged and begged. He is adamant, with the backing of his father. He even locked up the remaining of my property in the very dusty store close to the gate, including my molested daughter's clothes. I even met my laptop on the floor, he had removed it from his worn-out bag I was using to house the laptop. I was so livid and was shouting that why wasn't he patient enough to give me some days to gather some money at least to rent a room, but he was so adamant that he and his family wanted me out on the street immediately. Because I was shouting out of anger and frustration, he took a wood with nail on it to hit my hand. It took the intervention of these same tenant to avert beating I would have received. This is a man I've sacrificed alot for, 10 years gone, just like that. My daughter and I are out on the street, squatting with a church member, without a dime.
And I have just heard from a neighbour that a new girl is coming to spend time in my own home, even helping him to rearrange it. I'm still in total shock and don't know what to do.
PLEASE I NEED A JOB before I lose my sanity. I live around Sango OTA.