₦airaland Forum

would you be willing to scan the c of o for search, if i send my email address to you?

i feel you man. its really a source of embarrasment for those nigerians who dont believe in cheating.

Mrs.Chima:
You going to get me in trouble with Mr. Chima.

well i wont tell, if you dont.

Mrs.Chima:
You sure you are not friends with my husband? I swear that sound like something Mr. Chima would say.

i think i'd rather be friends with you.

nikkykay:
where were all these be4 they tied the knot?
The issue is all these were in place then but they overlooked it cos they were carried away with lust and not true love. Few marriages break up due to ds reasons and something might have led to it,

that is exactly the basis of my curiousity.

Mrs.Chima:
If my husband ever was to sample some meat that is not from my toto factory.  He will be victoriously single.

that factory must be an interesting one to work in.

Atreides:
@bayleaf,yes,she should. She should run as fast as her legs can carry her. Life has no substitute. He could kill her one day 'by mistake'. She shouldn't have married him in the first place sef.

that is what i am talking about. she knew he was abusive, she went ahead to marry him. now you are saying she should run. what was she thinking in da first place?

Atreides:
Erm this is a hypothetical situation oh. . I don't have any kind of husband,much less an abusive one,and i don't see that in my future. I agree with you that there re usually signs during dating/courtship,and that some women choose to be blind to said signs and go ahead with the marriage anyway. Or it could be that they hope to change the man after marriage. Thinking like that is wrong,yes,but abuse is wrong as well. Two wrongs do not make a right Whether the man showed signs before the marriage or not,i believe NO WOMAN should remain in an abusive relationship because of the vows she took. In any case,by abusing her the man has already broken and nullified the vows. Divorcing him wouldn't really be breaking any vows because he did that in the first place.

i wasn't referring to you in my previous explanation.i was just trying to describe a general situation.
i actually have a friend whose husband beats her black and blue. but he was that way b4 marriage, so should they divorce for that reason now that they are married and have 3 children?

Atreides:
What kind of useless working it out is that? How will i 'work it out' if he's abusive? Is it when i'm dead that i will 'work it out'? Or should i let him be physically/emotionally abusing my children because i took vows? There are things you work out and there are things you don't. Things like compatibility/changes that occur over the years,those are what you can work out. You could even try to work through infidelity in some instances. If you can work through it,fine. If not,fine. Even the bible gives infidelity as the only grounds for divorce. At least you tried. But abuse? That's a no-go area.

well if you say abuse, was your partner not doing that b4 u got married?how come you went ahead to marry he/her?what really is the basis for courtship then if fundamental issues like physical/emotional abuse cannot be discovered b4 marriage. or are you saying he just woke overnight and start being abusive?

Atreides:
As for me,the only reasonable grounds for divorce are Infidelity and Abuse,whether it's physical/emotional/whatever,as long as my life/the lives of my children are in danger.

but the vows you must have taken would read ''for better for worse''. if that be the case, then are you not expected to work things out?

ZIM DRILL:
besides the abuse infidelity etc

people just change am sure you aint the same person you where 20 ago, the change make many things drift apart to the extend that you no longer compatible

being compatible, what does it really mean, given that we are all from different backgrounds and there aint no way we gonna be the same.

I sometimes wonder, what makes marriages crash. Are marriages not for better for worse? so what could possibly make a man/woman decide he/she has had enough and want to leave?

the typical nigerian is intimidated by everything and tends to show it by trying to be "macho", whatever that means in the first place. i would prefer an independent woman who can take care of herself, than one who depends solely on her man.

just like i have seen girls/guys been dumped after struggling with their partners, i have also seen the other side whereby they get married after arriving at the good times. it actually cuts both ways so in answer to your question, yes decent,faithful and honest can be found in nigeria, just like decent, faithful and honest men can also be found in nigeria.

i think it depends on the character of the person you are dating and the trust you have for each other.

Good luck Promised us 6,000 megawatts of power by end of 2010. it dropped from 3,500 to just under 3,000 megawatts. now he is promising 6,000 megawats by 2012. Really PDP has nothing to offer Nigerians.

hmm, the war of words getting hotter.