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justwise:
Then you need to apply as a student and meet student visa requirements. it's not difficult though, pretty straight forward. If the training is offered by university or college pay your training fees and get a CAS, you need £820 per month for maximum of 9 months....if your school is outside London..that money covers all your expenses including rent and bills

Okies,thank you so much,I'll do just that..is it ok to apply for the visa online??

justwise:
Are you going for Msc course or a training course sponsored by your company?

Its a training course and it will be sponsored my mum and I..

Hello vicjustice/justwise,please I need your help,I have never traveled before and I'm preparing to go for an extensive course in the uk on events/wedding planning and management..I've been on this for almost a year,people have being asking me to get an agent and all that but I don't want to,at the same time I don't want to make any mistake or even lie about any information they might need..I'll be spending about 18months,how much(range) will I need to take with me?do I need to make that money lodgement that people do??do I need a letter from the school?or my friend who I'll be staying with??And what type of visa should I apply for??please help me answer..thanks

it took me God's grace to survive,if i never took that step,i won't be alive..i would rather be alone for good than find myself in that situation..it scares me that much..i'm talking about a man that locks me indoor when he goes out,that stalks me whenever i get the chance to go out,gets insane when my siblings call me..everything has changed me..

malaika: This is the first time I'm reading a post by a woman who chose to 'disappear'. I've read so many abuse stories on NL and I've often wondered why the disappearing act was not considered as an alternative to a tedious divorce or mediation (which would likely end up in the man's favour anyway). I applaud your incredible willpower, and I'm very interested in knowing how you planned your great escape and how you managed to stay undiscovered since July 2011 - how did you survive? I do understand that you had the 'advantage' of not having kids to cater for.

As for your question about going back, DON'T! In fact you can now start formal divorce proceedings, now that you are settled in your new life.

It took strength and courage for me to leave..i had to survive.

mark joshua: U rush to him because he is rich now u are runing for it,u must go back Α̣̣̥и̣̣̣̥d̶̲̥̅̊ continue copin Α̣̣̥и̣̣̣̥d̶̲̥̅̊ endurin.also teach Ɣ☺ΰ‎‎​r dauther how critical is it to rush into marriage just because of money.if u refuse to go back u may not ba ĦαƔ again in Ɣ☺ΰ‎‎​r life.u have tasted marriage don't go back to singleness bacause u won't beable to cope with it

Please,if you do not know what to say..just keep your mouth shut,you don't know me or my history.,he did not have a job when we got married,i got him a job through a friend's dad..too bad that he wasn't appreciated but i never used that to disrespect him..so pls shove it.

The truth is that i don't have a clue on what to do..i'm a private person and this is the first time i'm sharing this issue,each i think about it,i get mad,angry and devastated..right now,i love my job,my pets and myself..even the thoughts of being with another man scares my skin off me..

Before I start,please i only need advice from married persons..
I got married in june 2010..for my age,it was pretty early,no experience whatsoever,I never thought about the negative part of it,at one point before my introduction,I told my parents that I wasn't interested in the whole wedding anymore but my parents spat fire and brimstone on me,there was nothing they did not say to me,to cut the story short,I did get married but it was hell for me,I just could not cope,I felt that I wasn't matured enough to be married on the other hand,my supposedly husband was aggressive,he had a crazy temper..we had crazy issues,it got to a point where he would hit me but I would always play the submissive wife which I finally got sick and tired of,I got pregnant but due to the regular arguments and constant fights,I lost the the pregnancy,finally I opted for a divorce which my parents totally refused,I was so depressed and stressed that I was on the verge of suicide,I started starving myself..I wanted a good marriage and a beautiful home but I never for once knew it was going to be so hard,finally I left home and everyone without anyone knowing where I was,that 9months into the marriage..I needed to get myself back together again,I stopped talking to my parents for a year,changed my numbers.
Mid last year,the husband got my number and started calling me,sending apology sms and asking me to please come back,that he's a changed man etc..my parents and I on the other hand patched things up,and now they are also pleading with me to go back to him..
I have been on my own since july,2011 and I have totally forgiven him for everything even though I can't write some of his wrong deeds here..I don't want a situation whereby I go back to him and I am having regrets again...pls I do sincerely need your advice on what to do..truth is I am scared of going back.