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AYODEJI4LOVE: exactly my point exactly my point
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do you think it's easy to be a single mom ma...........are you really ready for all it takes to be a single mom...have you considered the children.... what it involves raising them alone..... can't you wait and save your marriage ma......have you prayed about it...... tell it to God in prayer ma.....and consider the post I just quoted....

Every woman wants to save her marriage. I want to but it's not easy. I want to be happy too. I know I shouldn't check my husband's phone but wen I do I wish not find wat will hurt me. I don't do things that will hurt him I deserve that in return. Wat is wrong is wrong once man is married stay committed nd if not then remain single. Rather than hurting our feelings

Baddestguyp: I'll tell you one thing...men hate nagging wives. u need to learn to trust him, explain to him dat u don't like wat he did, but don't nag

I won't call it nagging cos I didn't nag him. But I questioned him. Is questioning a man nagging?

AYODEJI4LOVE: don't you think it will be better to wait and be sure of things before working out ma........and I think working out is an opportunity for the other lady to have him.......
my own view ma......

Another lady having him shouldn't be a problem to me after I av walked away. Women deserve to be happy rather than bin emotional salves just Becos it's a man's world. He invited a female Frnd to the party didn't invite me his wife, and then offers to deliver barbecue to her house. And then call me names after I tried to raise the issue with him just Becos i said he should humble himself nd accept his wrongs Abeg!!! I feel he will be free, no more questioning or nagging him. cos he says not making him free.
Don't u think bin a single mom is way better than emotional suffering.

Ain't a serious story tho, just wants few opinions,It's bin two yrs now, nd my husband hasn't cheated on me, I feel really glad, peaceful and grateful, tho we av had Plenty women issues but it always get sorted. But just yesterday around 1am after he got back from a barbecue party he and his friends planned, I got a little fussy about d party. The fact I av two kids doesn't mean we shouldn't be able to attend parties with our husbands, I can always ask mum Inlaw to baby sit, but since it seems he didn't want me to come I didn't force it. He came back around 1am, nd I decided to check his phone. (Sorry I did but dat d only way to get my clue, so pls no crucifixion on dat cos I know NL) I saws girl's number he called around 11:30pm nd there was my clue. I took her number, and I sent her a text, asking her wats up with her nd my husband dat why he called her so much dat day till 11pm. I pleaded nd ask her to promise not to tell my husband, kip it strictly btw us ladies as my husband might vex for me if he finds out , dat might av bin wrong tho. Am not saying he can't call a girl. But I could tell it's either she was with him at the party or Smtin.
Immediately my husband got a PING, it was d girl. She narrated everything I asked her in the chat, unfortunately I still had his phone with me, so I impersonated my husband. Lol. Didn't get much details tho.
Hubby woke up nd I confessed wat I had done then he said he invited her for d party but she couldn't mk it, so he promised to take some barbecue to her at homebut couldn't mk it due to the time that was why he called her at that time. The girl is an agent o nd just wants to buy travel ticket from her but they both av obviously taken it to d next level of bin friends.
Na my fear be this o, cos I might not want to wait for a man to cheat on me b4 I take a walk, I might nagg him to much nd dat irritates men, so I might just leave b4 it happens. Cos if it happens I av no clue on how to handle issues like that. I have seen my mum bin cheated on by my dad, trust me it's too tough, too tough, she never caught him ontop of a woman but it started exactly like this inviting each other to parties.
Hubby has invited her to this night party, leaving wife nd kids at home, then pls wat will they be doing together at dat time, dancing nd flirting with each other. But hubby feels am only obsessed but I feel this is d beginning of cheating tho he hasn't.
I also av so much fears on bin cheated on which is on a scale of 90/10, should I just walk away from d marriage so I won't nagg him to frustration, or am just overly obsessed with hubby.
Dear ladies that av bin cheated on or has experienced such as this and has handled it WELL shout out to you.