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1. when did it start
2. is your c.p time and date correct
3. if you can answer the question i will give you the medicine for it, you can also call it the cure. in a layman language.

I'm sitting in my room with a head full of hair dye.

What a pain in the ass.

It smells, it stings, and I gotta wait 30 minutes before I
wash it out. The lengths we go to to stay pretty.

Anyway. Might as well use this time wisely and bang out a
fresh newsletter for y'all.

You know the drill by now, I read some emails, answer some,
read some more, and so on.

But today's a little special.

Today I'm going to respond to some letters that I'd typically
overlook.

We'll start with a letter from a high school kid who's got
some questions about "this one special girl",

*** QUESTION ***

Hi

I'm 17 and there's a girl in my school I really like.

I do band and every class she puts her back-pack right next
to my trombone and I've caught her looking at me from far
away but up close she only looked at me once for a long
moment then she looked away.That was only once.

Also just recently I was waiting for my parents to pick me
up and she was waiting by the wall across from me then she
came over and stood really close to me.I was going to say
something but I didn't know.

Does she like me or not?

-Chris

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Okay, Chris, I hope you're not too thin-skinned, because I'm
gonna have to rip you a new one here.

Since I've been doing these newsletters, I get approximately
50 emails a day.

A small percentage is hate mail, like 2%. Chicks and/or
frustrated chumps getting all apoplectic. I love these. Send
more of this stuff, me and my friends laugh at it, it's
great!

About 10% are scam artists from Africa trying to get me to
send them large sums of money.

20% are guys from third-world countries looking for mail-
order brides. Don't ask, I don't know.

The remaining percentage consists of the real questions and
success stories.

Out of these, I'd say 50% are questions from dudes asking me
how to get "this one special girl."

Like, it will be five pages of the guy saying, "So there's this
girl and I said this and then she said that, and this guy told me
this that she thinks I think she said this, which made me look like
this way and her friend is so and so's neighbor and what do
I do?"

I don't even read this crap, I just delete it.

It's like, say I was a chess teacher, and you came to me as
a student. I've got the board all set up to begin a game,
and I'm going to teach you how to play.

But you all of a sudden pull out this other board, where
you've already made a bunch of bad moves, and you want me to
teach you how to recover and win that particular game.

Do you understand how difficult that is going to be,
especially if you don't even know how to play in the first
place?!

Attraction is something that happens FAST, not through
planning and pining. It's much easier to just go in, flip the
switches and spark attraction in a new girl than it is to
backpedal and try to fix things when you've already dropped
the ball.

So, why did I decide to answer your letter?

Because I want to settle this once and for all. Maybe then
these guys will stop sending me this nonsense.

Dude, Chris, there's no point in me trying to tell you
whether this girl "likes you" or not.

Whether she likes you or not is IRRELEVANT.

It is your JOB as a pick-up artist to MAKE HER "like you."

Like, you're sitting there micro-analyzing stuff like "she is
by the wall and looking for 5 point 8 seconds and is twelve
and three-quarter inches away from my elbow now."

Do you realize how RETARDED this sounds?

DO YOU?!!

If I sat around and waited to determine whether a chick
liked me before I made a move, I'd still be a mild-mannered
chode who thought threesomes were something that only
happened in porn movies.

By sitting and waiting to see if she likes you before you
engage her, you're coming from a real screwed-up frame.

It's a frame of desperation and outcome-dependence. You're
so scared that you'll get rejected that it is paralyzing you.

The thing is, this ends up sub communicating a lot of very
bad things.

It says you are not someone who is desired by women.

It says you are not someone of high status.

It says you are not someone with a whole lot of intrinsic
value.

Would somebody who possessed the above attributes be
concerned about what some chick thought about him?

No. In fact, they wouldn't even be able to FATHOM the idea
that social interaction would be something having
potentially negative consequences.

You have to LET GO of all concerns about the outcome, and
JUST DO IT. To hell with the consequences.

Do you want to get the "one special girl"? Then you have to
be able to get THEM ALL.

It is that simple.

If you were to ask any girl whether she wants a guy who is
successful with all women, she'll probably say no.

But it's ironic, because this is the guy she'll respond to
emotionally.

His skill gives him OPTIONS, which in turn causes him to
project a NON-NEEDY vibe.

Remember, this game is all about value. Your perceived value
in relation to hers.

With that in mind, having the reek of scarcity and
desperation about you is gonna be THE KISS OF DEATH.

So Chris, here's what you gotta do. Stop focusing on this
one girl so damn much, and get out there and talk to a
LOT of girls. Get comfortable interacting with a wide
variety of different girls.

Then make your move on this band chick. At this point, it's
likely you'll end up hooking up with her.

And if you don't? Who cares, it's no skin off your back.
Because you've got OPTIONS.

Anyway, I hope you don't take this as some sort of personal
attack, because I'm truly attempting to help you out
here.

Seriously, take this advice to heart, I know what I'm
talking about, because I've been there.

Trust me man, I've BEEN THERE. lol

Anyways, take care. Let's go to our next letter.


*** SUCCESS STORY ***

"At 42, after 18 years of marriage, the bulk of my adult
life, my wife filed for divorce. Like most Silicon Valley
geeks, I spent my youth studying and avoiding social events.
So now, cut loose and kicked to the curb I had no skill and
nowhere to start.

Worse still, time and working 24/7 had left me overweight
and balding. I was like an old tame dog set loose to hunt
with Arctic wolves and I kept looking for my dog bowl and
wondering why I was hungry.

Then I found some promotional material about a company
Real Social Dynamics. They offered several levels of program
but the one that caught my eye was the Bootcamp individualized
instruction and critique.

I had a million reasons not to sign up. What pushed me over
the edge to sign up was my wife informed me she was going
to Costa Rica with her new boyfriend!

So I had taken the red pill and jumped headfirst into the
rabbit hole. What was apparent was that a lot of the barriers
of success are in one's own head and that the experience
should be reframed in the same way one thinks about any
other kind of game.

One's skill in mastery is dependent upon one playing, rather
than watching or preparing for the game.

Despite my worries, the instructors didn't try to make me
into a clone but rather concentrated on pushing and
challenging me along with healthy doses of critique and
praise. I could feel my spirits rise with their energy level.

The instructors were unflagging in their encouragement and
zeal throwing us back in time after time and helping us
when we stalled or got into trouble.

As I was driving home the whole weekend seemed like one intense
dream. I felt like I had been fed with a fire hose. The
change was subtle, but I now see opportunities where I once
saw fear-laden sitations I would avoid.

All in all I would recommend your company to others and I
will keep tabs on the forthcoming book, seminars and other.

Best of luck,

John M.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

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Cool, let's move on to the next letter.

*** QUESTION ***

Hey there Jeffy Man !!!

How are you today?

Tell me if you'd know how to go about this:

The thing I want the most is basically - how do I get girls
approach ME, how do I get them to talk to me first, or, in
other words, how do I get a girl to make the first move?

And what's more, in case there should be a young lady I'd be
particularly interested in, how could I "engineer" the
situation(s) so that SHE is the one to hit on me first?

As you've probably guessed by now, boldness may not be my
strongest point.

Have A Good One,
Cookie



>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Oh boy, another doozy. So, you want to make the girls
come running up to you, while you just sit there sipping
on a mai tai and looking cool, huh?

Okay, here's what you gotta do:

First, you need to grow to about 6'5" and change your facial
features so you appear like a romantic hero from a soap
opera. MAKE SURE you get RIPPED ABS.

Next, become a world-famous movie star.

Third, roll around with models and porn stars, and be sure
to buy bottles of Cristal and Belvedere for the entire bar
whenever you go out.

It's that simple.

Look, obviously I'm being facetious here, but let's get down
to brass tacks.

It is very rare for women to take the initiative and approach
a guy, even if they find him attractive.

Go ahead, ask any of your female friends what they'll
typically do when they encounter a guy they find attractive.

They'll probably say something along the lines of, "Oh, I'll
go stand near him and talk loudly and hope he opens me."

That's because society has conditioned women to avoid
approaching like the plague. They don't want to be viewed
as loose or licentious and get branded with the "slut" label.

It's just a fact. There's not much you can do, aside from
becoming a model with ripped abs. I have a friend like this,
and he gets approached fairly often.

Of course, if he sees a girl he likes and she DOESN'T
approach, he's screwed, but hey, that's where the pick
up artist has the advantage over the "natural."

That said, there are certain ways you can circumvent this
societal conditioning to get them to approach you.

It's called peacocking.

This is something I've discussed before in this newsletter,
and I don't really want to get into the subtle nuances of
peacocking right now, but let's do a quick review.

Peacocking is a term used to describe a style of dress that
is calculated to draw attention to the wearer. Some
examples of peacocking might include a brightly colored
cowboy hat, a feather boa, flashy jewelry, etc.

Now, what this does is it permits any woman that finds you
attractive to open YOU without violating the social norms.
It's a ready-made opener for her.

For example, when I go out, I typically wear this GIANT
iced-out pinky ring.

A couple of weeks ago, I'm standing at the bar getting a
drink when I hear a female voice to my left say, "Nice ring!"

A bell goes off in my head. I slowly turn to face her and
give her a smirk.

It's ON.

Within two days, she was pouring sweat and moaning my name
back at my place.

So, peacocking is one way that you can get the girls to
approach you.

Take note, however, that they must already find you attractive
as a prerequisite for this to work. Understand?

Now, I think you may have a deeper underlying problem
though.

It would seem that your desire to get them to approach you
stems from an inability on your part to do an approach.

You said you're not BOLD.

Well, in my opinion boldness is not necessarily a good
characteristic.

The word BOLD has a certain connotation that suggests taking
action without a whole lot of faith in the outcome. Like,
throwing yourself into the fray and crossing your fingers.

Instead of BOLDNESS, you want to develop CONFIDENCE.

Confidence in yourself, and confidence in your game. You need
to get to a place where you don't NEED it to work, because
you KNOW IT WILL work.

Your question made it seem as though you're looking for a
shortcut.

A shortcut does indeed exist, but perhaps not where you
thought it would.

Have you ever been totally 'in the zone?' Ever had times that women
are mesmerized by your presence, and throw their inhibitions to
the wind in their desire to get with you?

These are the times when you're clearly the man. You have presence.
Total domination of your internal and external environment.

Everything flows like greased silk, and you're suddenly a
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Okay, that took a little bit longer than I anticipated, and
this hair dye is really starting to sting and burn. This
can't be good, although I heard recently that they confirmed
the dye doesn't cause cancer, so at least I'm set on that.

No more roots, baby. Now I look like Elvis again.

Taking care of business. Talk to you soon.

Hey J,

Alright, so I subscribe to your newsletter and I would
love to someday be able to attend an in-field seminar. I am an
absolute believer in undeniable attraction and how anyone can
achieve this ultimate success with the right knowledge and
experience.

What you guys are doing at RSD is a Godsend and hopefully
you will be doing seminars in Chicago or somewhere close, soon!

So here's my dilemma- when I go out right now, I have no
problem gaining the attention of any girl that is within ear
distance of me. And typically, I don't give this girl my
attention until I can feel that she is "all ears" with everything
that comes out of my mouth.

This happens quite quickly and then I will start to bust
her balls to show I am not intimidated by her presence.

This level of comfort, confidence and aloof behavior puts all
eyes on me every time. Then, when I get one on one with her I
will do a lot of push and pulling. I am naturally charming
and that helps as well.

The problem I run into is when I have her in the moment. I want
to kiss her because from experience, once I get the kiss she will
be putty in my hand. But the time to kiss her never seems right.

It's crazy though, sometimes I'll just go for it anyway and even
though I'm met with resistance I often create a level of comfort
in her that gets her to kiss me later.

What's up with this? Why would she avoid the kiss or hesitate at
first but offer it of go after it later? And why does it always
seem awkward? Help a brother out, man!

Holding down the Midwest,

Travis
Madison, WI


>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Okay. First off, let me congratulate you on the success you're
having. It sounds like you have a solid game plan in effect and
you're sticking to the script. So props on that.

The reason it seems awkward when you go in for the kiss is
because you're MAKING it that way. Point blank period. I know
this sounds sort of flippant, but hear me out on this.

This whole idea of "waiting for the right moment" is a total
non-starter. The thing is, there IS NO RIGHT MOMENT when it comes
to escalating for the kiss.

I've kissed girls right off the opener and had no problem with it.
In other instances, I've waited DAYS before I kissed them. The
thing to understand is that, no matter when you do it, you have
to go in for the kiss with total confidence.

If you're feeling fear or apprehension about it, you are inevitably
going to end up subcommunicating that, and it's gonna screw things up.

In other words, when I say there is no right moment, what I mean
is that you MAKE THE RIGHT MOMENT.

It's your job.

See, that's why the girls will avoid the kiss, or hesitate at
first. In the "bushido code" of the secret society that is
woman, they must have no 'hard fault' for escalation in the
interaction.

This means that you have to take responsibility for escalation at
all stages. Think about it: YOU have to take the initiative to
open. YOU have to isolate. YOU have to extract her to the
seduction location. YOU have to start getting physical.

It doesn't matter how attracted to you the chick is, ultimately it
falls on you to escalate. She'll make it as obvious as she can,
but it's on you to pull the trigger.

This way, later on, they can say, "Wow, I don't know what happened.
He picked me up, and we had sex." In reality, she was just as
responsible as you were, but in chick world, she can't very well
run around saying, "Yeah, I banged some dude last night, he came
up and I just went with him" without looking like a "slut".

For certain girls, such as older women or party girls, this may
not be the case, but for a large majority of them, this is how
it is.

So that's why "waiting for the right moment" is wrong.

Listen. Once you've done your job and you've gotten her all
gamed up, there is a window of opportunity for you to strike. But
you have to pull the trigger. If you fail to do so within a
certain time period, the window closes, and it's game over.

These women are not STUPID, okay? Even though they are bound by
convention to sit back and let you escalate, this doesn't mean
they don't understand what's going on when you're running
your game. They have a reasonable expectation that you are going
to recognize the green lights, sack up and make that move.

Failure to do so isn't just dumb, it's also TACKY. Don't be
tacky. Give them what they want.

So, in summary: girls may initially avoid the kiss due to the
fact that they must give the APPEARANCE of not being complicit
in the process of getting picked up. Take this TOKEN avoidance
for what it is (and this is assuming that the rest of your game
is in order), take responsibility and MAKE IT THE RIGHT MOMENT.

Move in with total congruence and confidence, and kiss her.

Take your passion and make it happen. What a feeling.

Okay, the pills are taking effect and I'm hitting my stride. Let's
check out a success story.

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hey guys,

Now fully one week into the new paradigm, I'm compelled to tell
you of my success, my growth, and the man that I've become.

I have far exceeded the suggested, "open 20 women in the next
week," thing. I stopped counting after 25 approach/openings,
because this is no longer something that I do. It is mine at the
cellular level and it really is something that I am! Total
success here!

I own the frame which says that I cannot fail if I treat it
all as course-correcting data to improve the success of future
interactions. This stuff is cool!

As importantly, I have adopted this to my new business endeavor
and am opening couples with the intent of hiring the husband
into my company for the purpose of teaching him the skills to
make enough coin to allow his wife the option to stay at home
and raise her own kids! This is so awesome.

My job is going even better, my own business is starting to grow
like crazy, and my skill with women is dramatically increased.
Fact is, I am one radically happy and successful dude!

Thanks guys, for being so pivotal in teaching me the beginnings
of this new way of walking through this world. I'm really
diggin' it.

I will be back to RSD for more later on this year; to keep my saw
sharp and to learn things that I can't even dream about yet,
there is always more room to grow.

Blessings to you guys. I hope to keep in touch with you
throughout the years and throughout my adventure.

Later,

ds

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

One thing really stuck out to me when I read this letter:

There is always more room to grow.

That's something that I really believe. I'll always consider
myself a student of the game, and I learn something from every
guy who comes through the program.

It's an incredibly fulfillingjob, and I feel honored to be a part
of this organization, and lucky to have the opportunity to work
with a group of some of the most dedicated, intelligent and motivated
guys and gals I've ever met.

Here at RSD, our Executive Coaching staff has, collectively,
DECADES of real-life field experience under their belts.

What's more, this experience came before they even began the
rigorous, six-month training program required to become a
certified Real Social Dynamics instructor.

The bottom line? These guys are the REAL DEAL. And they're
willing to pass their hard-earned knowledge on to you.

They've walked through the fire, so you don't have to.

Isn't it about time you took care of this once and for all?

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Cool.

*** QUESTION ***

Really impressed with your writing/informational/RSD promotional
material. The info is very useful. I was in your last NYC
seminar and really enjoyed the experience. I have been winging
with someone who was also at the seminar for the last few months.

I do walk ups and sets easily anywhere any time and actually
have fun doing them. Getting numbers is also easy.

I am working on follow-ups, day twos and sealing the deals. Right
or wrong I am going for the look and quality of women that I want
and making good progress.

Jlaix here is a question that I hope you'll help me with. I am
in better shape than even 4 months ago and have an up to date
style (RSD ideas +). A new co-worker today guessed my age at
<34 and I am more than 10 years plus.

I met this great girl and did a coffee date with her and have lined
up another more involved meeting this week. She is early thirties
and smoking hot in the looks and personality depts. She has already
tried to find out how old I am by asking me how many years I've worked,
which I avoided.

Is there a good way to answer this question if she gets direct.
Usually with younger women once things have escalated, I don't
need to worry on this anymore.

First thing I'm doing is that I'm OK with the age difference. I
have to go first and be congruent with it. I also see it as
naturally part of my identity.

Thanks

Dan P., NYC

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

If I were you, I'd just be totally up-front about the age thing.
There's no use pussyfooting around and all this nonsense. This
is something we'll all have to face eventually, because we all
get older.

And I've thought about it a lot, because I'm starting to get up there
in years, slowly but surely. The conclusion I came to was the same I always
come to: in the long run, being honest is going to cause you less headaches
than being deceitful.

Truth be told, about half the guys we train at the RSD programs
are your age or around there. Am I gonna sit here and blow
sunshine up your ass and tell you that age doesn't play any
factor whatsoever in the game? No. The good part is, it's really
not THAT big a deal.

One of the tightest players I know, this guy named Buzzard, is 39
years old. When he told me this, I thought he was pulling my leg,
because the entire time I'd known him, I thought he was like 22!
It was only AFTER he told me this that I noticed the signs of age
in his face.

His ATTITUDE and DEMEANOR were such that I just didn't see him as someone
that old.

That's a problem with many older men who want really young girls:
they put on this "persona" of someone that's younger, and it's
totally incongruent. Like, they get the wacky hair and dress in
all this peacocky clothing, and it's totally transparent.

A guy like you, on the other hand, is not putting on some show.
You said that you don't have a problem with the age difference.
You're congruent with it, so it won't be questioned by anyone.

Remember that: with congruence you can get away with anything.

That's not to say that it won't ever be brought up by your
targets. I'm almost 30, so I'm starting to hear these comments
from girls (I prefer the same age group as you, 18-20, although
I've done up to 40, doesn't really matter as long as she's got
it goin on). "You're THIRTY!"

You've just gotta take this for what it is, just one of the many
tests of your frame that girls throw up to screen out the
insecure losers and wimps. A test easily passed using the simple
methods we outline in our live, in-field bootcamps and workshops.

While I can't really go into those methods in detail here, I'll
give you a little tip that should serve you well if you get any
tests on your age:

IGNORE AND PLOW.

That's right, simply disacknowledge the comment as though it never
even came out of her mouth, and continue to lead the conversation
in the direction you want it to go. Cut off the thread, change
the subject.

This is basic frame control, and you should be doing this anyway, but
it's typically the most handy tool for dealing with tests like this.

Now having said all that, in the end it is really more a problem
with YOUR mindset than anything else. In fact, many MANY girls
are what you might call "Daddy's girls" that harbor fantasies
about older men, many more than you might expect.

Take care, Dan.

And for something different,

It's been requested for years now,

So finally we're giving it to you: The Jeffy DVD set.

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It was so important for me to get my PERSONALITY into this product to
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That means HOLDING NOTHING BACK, even if it might offend some people,
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I was nervous on this one, because I really put myself out there --
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It was important for me to truly smoke it, and luckily my absolute best
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