₦airaland Forum

Seun:
To protect her from being punched in the face by the love of her life every time she complains that his side chick is calling him for hours and hours in her presence. Imagine being in bed with your husband between 10pm and 12 midnight and he's on a call with another woman.

Kobojunkie:
That's what makes it all so very funny in the end. He outsted himself and even went on live radio for a shalaye session... Who does that.

Tapout:
What's his handle please?

Kentolo:
Pls what's his youtube and Instagram name?

Tapout:
What's his handle please?

wediehere1:
beremx

wediehere1:
where is your proof where you cautioned your fellow Ibos saying so?

wediehere1:
You always refer Tinubu to be sponsoring him

Sapasenator:
One of the reasons a Muslim man may decide to avail himself of his Islamic, marital rights. If he is happy with his first wife, do you think he would need a second wife?

Sapasenator:
Honestly, I have heard the above statements parroted over and over again on this forum and, I find it hard to hold myself especially when the above statement is totally wrong and does not hold water in real life.

Dear lady, no polygamous man will ever tell you they would marry a second wife at the beginning of your relationship, it never happens and will never happen. Most men who go into a marriage do so with a great deal of love/infatuation, hoping the union will be forever and will never know what will happen in the marriage let's say ten(10) years down the lane.

Most will not even know they may need to marry a second wife from the beginning of the relationship. Hindsight, they say, is 20/20. Everyone marries to have a happy home with the hope the union will be for the lifetime and when the needs of the man are not being met by the wife or he grows unhappy in the marriage, he considers the option of a second wife. I am only making a religious basis for this argument, I can also argue from the Nigerian cultural standpoint.

Statements like " he should have told the wife of his intentions from the beginning" do not make any iota of sense from my standpoint. How exactly do you know early on in your relationship that you would divorce your wife in the future or marry a second wife? One of my acquaintances recently killed his wife in a domestic conflict, how was he supposed to know from the beginning of the relationship that he was going to kill his wife?

People evolve and change over time, and so do their needs, desires, and quest for happiness. If you are married to a Muslim in a Nikkah ceremony for example, it is reasonable to infer that you would be ok with your husband marrying a second wife in the future, any other argument you make like, "he should have told the wife from the outset" will simply have no basis in logic. It is there in the Quran except you are not a Muslim woman as you are not allowed to pick and choose the parts of the holy scripture to adhere to.

If you are married in a church ceremony and a Christian, discussing the Idea of a second wife will be totally absurd, flies in the face of logic and the husband will clearly be in the wrong.

My position above is based solely on the assumption that the couples are based in Nigeria and subject to the laws and customs in Nigeria. I know some commenters are trying to conflate Nigeria's socio-marital situations with that of the western countries.

When we address issues, let's be pragmatic and real instead of conflating our personal ideologies with realities and facts.

To summarize my rants above, a Muslim man, married to a Muslim woman, is allowed by the Muslim holy scripture to marry more than one wife, and nowhere in the Quran is the permission of the first wife required for him to do so. Also, It is illogical for you to expect a man to give you polygamous notice in advance of the relationship.

I do not encourage domestic violence and as a strong adherent of stoic philosophy believe strongly in self-control and non-violence means in the resolution of conflicts.

ItisWell22:
People dey write oh.

But, did he really hit his wife? 🫣

Ishilove:
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Kobojunkie:
This is probably not the first time he has violently assaulted her too.

1Sharon:
🤣 You're right. I'm surprised Ja.rus met her on twitter sha. Who would have thought?

Notice the nose rings. I thought our pious jarus would have kicked against such kinds of women.