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I hope he doesn't end the marriage with his wife because he's the one who told the whole world he beats her.

Lessons have been learnt. Las las you'll be fine

wediehere1:
beremx

werey provide proof and stop exhibiting idiocy on nairaland. .

wediehere1:
where is your proof where you cautioned your fellow Ibos saying so?

e be like say you no well. You said I accused Tinubu of sponsoring Simon Ekpa and I said you should prove it.

O da bi pe ori e gba le

Flood is a natural disaster. Nothing can be done to salvage the situation. It's so sad people die during the disaster.
May their souls rest in peace. Amen

wediehere1:
You always refer Tinubu to be sponsoring him

where's your proof I said so?

He knows he'll be useless once Nnamdi Kanu is released. His sponsors will be put to shame

Na wa o!!

Sapasenator:
One of the reasons a Muslim man may decide to avail himself of his Islamic, marital rights. If he is happy with his first wife, do you think he would need a second wife?

Atiku Abubakar loved his first wife Titi so much he decided to marry three women more. There's no justification for marrying more than one wife if not for flirting. Some will obey the Islamic rule of polygamy by marrying four wives and yet they'll have series of mistresses.

Man problem no dey finish I swear!

Sapasenator:
Honestly, I have heard the above statements parroted over and over again on this forum and, I find it hard to hold myself especially when the above statement is totally wrong and does not hold water in real life.

Dear lady, no polygamous man will ever tell you they would marry a second wife at the beginning of your relationship, it never happens and will never happen. Most men who go into a marriage do so with a great deal of love/infatuation, hoping the union will be forever and will never know what will happen in the marriage let's say ten(10) years down the lane.

Most will not even know they may need to marry a second wife from the beginning of the relationship. Hindsight, they say, is 20/20. Everyone marries to have a happy home with the hope the union will be for the lifetime and when the needs of the man are not being met by the wife or he grows unhappy in the marriage, he considers the option of a second wife. I am only making a religious basis for this argument, I can also argue from the Nigerian cultural standpoint.

Statements like " he should have told the wife of his intentions from the beginning" do not make any iota of sense from my standpoint. How exactly do you know early on in your relationship that you would divorce your wife in the future or marry a second wife? One of my acquaintances recently killed his wife in a domestic conflict, how was he supposed to know from the beginning of the relationship that he was going to kill his wife?

People evolve and change over time, and so do their needs, desires, and quest for happiness. If you are married to a Muslim in a Nikkah ceremony for example, it is reasonable to infer that you would be ok with your husband marrying a second wife in the future, any other argument you make like, "he should have told the wife from the outset" will simply have no basis in logic. It is there in the Quran except you are not a Muslim woman as you are not allowed to pick and choose the parts of the holy scripture to adhere to.

If you are married in a church ceremony and a Christian, discussing the Idea of a second wife will be totally absurd, flies in the face of logic and the husband will clearly be in the wrong.

My position above is based solely on the assumption that the couples are based in Nigeria and subject to the laws and customs in Nigeria. I know some commenters are trying to conflate Nigeria's socio-marital situations with that of the western countries.

When we address issues, let's be pragmatic and real instead of conflating our personal ideologies with realities and facts.

To summarize my rants above, a Muslim man, married to a Muslim woman, is allowed by the Muslim holy scripture to marry more than one wife, and nowhere in the Quran is the permission of the first wife required for him to do so. Also, It is illogical for you to expect a man to give you polygamous notice in advance of the relationship.

I do not encourage domestic violence and as a strong adherent of stoic philosophy believe strongly in self-control and non-violence means in the resolution of conflicts.

Is the bolded the reason why Islam permits polygamy?
So if after how many years the man is no longer happy in the marriage, the man should marry another woman and the woman should suffer the consequences? What's the assurance that he'll be happy in his second marriage?

ItisWell22:
People dey write oh.

But, did he really hit his wife? 🫣

he did beat his wife. He said it himself on Twitter. Na im open im basket mouth talk am. Now he's been arrested

Ishilove:
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Kobojunkie:
This is probably not the first time he has violently assaulted her too.

she's very stupid for still staying in the marriage. She should better go for brain check to know if dem shift her brain for her.
Women don't learn

He should ask VDM. I no trust people wey no spray money at all. 😐😐😐

And she will still remain in the marriage o!
Madam leave the toxic marriage and save your life. Una no dey hear

1Sharon:
🤣 You're right. I'm surprised Ja.rus met her on twitter sha. Who would have thought?

Notice the nose rings. I thought our pious jarus would have kicked against such kinds of women.

the babe na Twitter baddie according to people that dug her information out. She's been advertising herself for second wife position. Na so our Oga Jayrus pick interest asking her if she's single.

Gen Z Twitter baddie. Jayrus don enter one chance.

1Sharon:
This is her.

dem don marry her sef. See ring on her finger. First wife is prettier than second wife. O ga o!

PrinceofAgoAre:
swear no dey follow am. . na mumu woman no get sense..

You go marry Muslim wetin she dey expect ..

He help you open business, give you car and other luxurious, still promise you more make you take that one do no vex even when he has every right to bring a second wife without even trying to appease her .. abi you think say another go give am those things because say him wan Carry Another woman enter house.. e fit be say na the new wife wey him wan marry e fit dey do all those things for ..

But jarus here still acted gentlemanly, told her about it, seeing the she'll be possible against it , he appeased her with the luxuries he gave to her which he's not obligated too .

Instead of her to live with it and adapt .. she went to herbalist trying to harm the same husband that still has a lot to give you .. The father of her child .. if she harm an nw, who go dey take care of pikin ..

She only got beaten be cause she attempted and intending to harm him .To me she deserves a brain resetting beating ..

so if Jarus's wife were to be your mother, would you advise her to stick to polygamy or you'll fight Jarus who if he was your father?

yarimo:
I am just waiting for tomorrow which tribe yarimo will come from

you're yet to provide proof. You'll just open your mouth and talk gibberish without proof.

yarimo:
Yesterday yarimo is Yoruba, today yarimo is ebira . I am waiting for tomorrow which tribe yarimo will come from again 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I never said you're Yoruba. At least I have confirmed from nairaland you're Ebira. But why you com dey behave like aboki wey dey polish shoe ehn Yarimo? 😆😆😆
Provide your evidence that Peter Obi is sponsor of IPOB. I'm waiting

The polygamy thing really pain Seun. I see his tweets and I must say I agree with him. J.arus really fuccked up. You met a 21yrs old Gen Z baddie on Twitter advertising herself that she doesn't mind becoming a second wife and boom, you got interested.

I feel for his first wife sha.

yarimo:
OBI is one of the biggest sponsors of IPOB activities, he has never condemn IPOB warning or killings

you're the Ebira version of Reno Omokri. Where's your proof that Peter Obi is sponsor of IPOB?

seunmsg:
I admire the men that have the patience and capacity to marry two ladies. One wife is more than enough trouble to last a lifetime. Why marry two or more?

Marriage is gradually getting out of fashion. In the next 100 years, barely 10% of adult will be married. Why some people want more than one at a time is just amusing.

If you’re married and you have the means, keep as many side chicks as you can. Keeping a side chick is still better than marrying more than one wife. When you marry a second wife, you will eventually get tired of her and still want a third wife. If you’re tired of your side chick, you can easily move on to another without any complications.

you have spoken well. Jarus over to you

This is more of bullying than basket ball. This is also a clear case of ojoro at it's finest.

Ahn ahn!! Kilode gan?