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RavenClaw:
I also suffer from anxiety and nervousness. Especially around the opposite sex. I once smoked cigarette mixed with a little codeine. It seemed to help me. And when I smoked two sticks of cigarettes it also helped. I do drink a little at home once in a while.

And right now I am not addicted to codeine, cigarettes nor alcohol.

No drugs just vodka for me

Sharonose:
u are still very young dear....I use 2 b like dis till I turned 25....

That doesn't make me feel better at all so I've to be like this for 7 more years ...
What did you do at 25/24 that changed you

LordLucifer:
Again, I want to warn you to refrain from alcohol at this stage. Maybe later, but not now.

You are obviously not ready 4 it.

You'll only end up doing fvcked up sh!t that you'll b regret the next morning which will only damage your nonexistent confidence.

Ignore this advise & learn d hard way.

I don't stay in the school hostel, I've outside accommodation a self contain, to seclude me self from others(parents will).
I just need people my age, I do well with elderlys

joshboo:
Alcohol would only worsen your case, u cant b high tipsy&high all the time.

Then what do I do I can't go to college and have no college friends

geneithpharm:
You should test your reaction to alcohol at home first, don't overdo it at the club and stay away from hard drinks if possible. In general it helps most people reduce their (social) anxiety, wich is the reason why enough anxiety sufferers have alcohol problems.
There's also a reason why alcohol is synonymous with social events. It makes people feel "loose".

Yeah, home test is vital

Onijagidijagan:
Doesn't matter but u people do have phone conversations, Skype e.t.c..just start mentoring him and try to do better than him (not only ur bf though)also read books widely and make use of what u've learnt for self development purposes.
all ur problem are coming frm ur minds, d treatment depends on what you feed ur minds too.

Alcohol will help a bit only if you have done your own share of development..but if u take alcohol with anxiety, it brings it out much worst. some alcohol even make someone more shy

Tried all those mind workouts, didn't do so good in all social functions..
Thanks for your input, I'll try vodka tommorow and see how I fare

LordLucifer:
Who'll give you "attention" in a club when you are with friends?

What "immoral" things happen in a club? People dance, drink & go home. What else?

So Hollywood Lies ,will give it a thought Thanks!

Onijagidijagan:
you are female, pls don't take alcohol, ur guys will not even like it.
Date a confident guy and learn his ways or look for a mentor that you like

I have a boyfriend, but not in Nigeria at the moment

LordLucifer:
Alcohol won't make you bolder at this stage, only more vulnerable.

You are extremely shy. This has nothing to do with your upbringing.

I suggest you go out more at night.

Find coursemates who club. Go clubbing with them.

Why club?

Cuz that's the no. 1 place I know one is permitted to wild out without people paying attention. No fear of being rejected or feeling eyes on you.

You need to let out that b!tch in you first.

Gradually, you'll get used to being around people & apply it to daytime.

Clubbing
I don't enjoy attention or immorality, I just want to be calm less sweaty and damn anxious and perturbed

Prinxxdave:
Don't take Alcohol.


Do you have friends

Yeah I do just one

fulaniHERDSman:
Ok.
Up your faith then. Also get to see a psychologist to evaluate your case and profer realistic remedies. Nairaland will only confuse and overwhelm you the more

I'm pretty spiritual, I'm even part of certain evangelism team, but anxiety doesn't kick in then,
A Psychologist and Therapist I've engaged myself with one before but wasn't a Physical Session, Online Web call, but that didn't help much

fulaniHERDSman:
Are you a christian?

I wrote home church
Of course I'm a Christian

NnamdiN:
Are you African This doesnt look like an african problem.

Yes oh I'm African -Nigerian

I'm 18, and I've been suffering from This For As Long As I can remember, I've never really had the opportunity to interact with other people since I was Homeschooled and Attended A HomeChurch(dont ask) , basically my Life Circle Is my Family. But it's weird that I'm the only one in the family with this issue.
This is my 3rd Year in The University and This Disorder has Hindered Me From Living optimally. I can't Make 3 steps in a room where at least 2family members aren't present, without wetting myself like I was Bathed (a little exaggeration).
Some guys think I'm giving them a green light ,
when I smile anxiously Even when I make deliveries.
I'm basically not Living Like A Normal Individual Should, I'm Done With being an Introvert.
If I take Chocolate Vodka Everyday In a Week, will that Harm me like Kidney and Addictions?
About 30ml of Vodka Everyday or 50ml Max!.
Or is there a specific Alcohol Type that can Aid With This ...
I've Tried Everything else, writing A Journal, pin pointing Weak points and all that Google Stuff, Alcohol Is the only Option Left.
I Just Don't want to Be That Bitch ,That smiles at Everything...
So Hit me With Tips Please

onwuakpachris:
blue eyes
like dias anything that it does better than black eyes...slave mentality indeed....common!!!swerve girl..other girls are running from white skin guys..infact a gal I no told me she can't even stand one..that she's allergic to white skin guys..that staying so close 2 a white skin guy makes her wanna throw up and u are here dieing over one..thinking that all other girls in naija crush over pale skin guys...mtcheeew

Fuvk off

biodunjazz:
a bolt is loosed from your brain box.. I have never sent u a pm before, just quote thats all.. u are a dude so fucking why would I wanna send u a pm.. screenshot my username if u see it in ur pm fool and let me see it...

U gat no life.. u are like a bin.. the only help I can do for u is advise u to take ur matter to Shiloh..

idiot

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