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Wat kinda wish is dat Women:enemies of demselves since d time of enoch.

^ so true, but if i was ur brother...would dat be ur advice?? I mean beyond d problem, which way forward?

^ sounds harsh but true.

@ all;tanx for ur advice. January makes our courtship or watsover name its called 10 yrs. She's had intimate male friends dat i now have dirty thoughts about. Our families know eachother very well. If i decide to leave her, it'll look unfair cos she's 28+. I'll find it hard to trust her again anyway!

Dis laplace na correct guy, infact u are there

Let me say dis is happening to me cos i see no reason why nairalanders's should advice an imaginary person.
I met a girl wen i was in my pre degree programme, like a month after dating i wanted to make love to her but she refused(claimed she was a virgin). She told me she will allow me disvirgin her right there if i will promise to marry her. She looked serious but i was too young to make such a commitment i tot so i stood up and told her we should just be friends... Annoyingly, she left, no phones then so we didnt see till 200l, we started friendship again and led to a relationship. Dis time, i asked if she was still a virgin and she said yes. She told me she dated a guy but not even a kiss was involved. I tot i was becomin a guy whom a serious relationship is not bad for so we started but d tot of sexing her just didnt come. Truth is i prefered going to sex my side chicks.
During IT year, cos of guys talks like never trust a girl no matter wat, i decided to now sex her, i found out she wasn't wat i expected thou tight if u understand wat i mean, i asked her about it but she said she was a virgin, after som persuasion, with tears she said she was molested as a child by an area uncle then. I forgave her but it put a whole in my heart.
Somtin happened , somtimes she chats on bb wit dat her ex boyf whose now married but recently during dia chat, d guy asked wen she was gettin married n she told him family introduction is soon so d guy accused her of not trying to invite him for her wedding and she said i must invite u now as per first love. Wen i saw it, i was not myself kinda, i put it up to her and she started cryin again withot saying anything concrete but dis time, it widened dat hole in my heart. I try to forget it but i wake up somtimes 3-4 a.m most days wit it as my first tot. The truth is it worries me. I av not spoken to her about it since 3weeks ago nor seen her.
Pls i dont want it on frontpage cos d persons involved could see it, just sensible advice from adults. Tanx!

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