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Please I need help interpreting this dream.

I used to dream I'm still living in a house proposed to be the family house of mums generation. Anytime I sleep I will find myself in that house. We left the house couple of years ago. And since the I still dream of living in that house.

Please what's the interpretation and Solution to the dream

ObalendeCMS:
Wèrè!

You go learn!

Btw, how many of your guys you don help?

I wish I fit knock sense into that your monkey head.

😂😂 I won't count my achievements on here.

Lucifyre:
If u had prioritized half the time you spent being a m.oron of a simp on ur education, you wouldn't say "don't mind my English" for a language u've spoken all ur life. Dumb fvcks everywhere.

at a point in life I think you have to give love a chance at the age of 26 going to 27 is not a crime. but I realize it doesn't worth it. (I won't abuse you but I know you have been there too and let me just say you will still be there )

Allenmuller:
Senior bra ,you say you break your savings for a girl? In this nigeria wey we de ,i think that'll be the last thing i'll do for my g.f ,besides b4 i start saving i have a plan b4 doing so .


The passage wey sweet me pass na the area wey you say you came to realization an started spending on your self .

That really makes you a man ,apart frum unserious responsibilties like hers .


Don't lost focus senior bra ,you still have nothing to lose

Yes brother I actually did break my bank for her when she needed money and it was very crucial. I was so stupid to do that, because she can't do that for me.

And I can't repeat the past.

Thanks so much brother.

Gadafii:
Welcome to the fold my brr

Don't make that mistake ever again.

If she's not adding value to your life, you have no business commuting to her, keep her on a fukkk level alone, transactional shiit.. why you go dey buy wig, tampon, nails etc for a girl that hadn't bought you anything

As a guy man, my philosophy is that your girl must have more stake in the relationship than you, sex is not enough


If she can't come thru for you financially, encourage you, water you, recharge you, pray for you, grow you, pour into you, pray for you etc.. she's not worth your commitment.

Lazy entitled girls always have luck with simps who would break their backs, necks and bank accounts satisfying them.

Imagine you bought dogs and breed them with those money you spent on her or bought a piece of land and cultivate water melon, or other vegetables on it.

Despite all you have done for her, she still dumped you for flimsy excuses

Thanks so much brother, I learnt my lesson in hard way. I wasn't serious in all my past relationships before I met her because I was building myself and trying to elevate my family when all that is done. I said to myself I should give love a chance and I got roasted.

BeyondCertainty:
You are and still a SIMP.

You were DUMPED.

If the girl calls tomorrow, you will still take her back.

You clearly do not know how to say NO.

Don't be a nice guy.

You shouldn't put a woman on a pedestal, you should be your number 1 priority.

Henceforth, please focus on you and your purpose.

A lot of these women will chase you when the time comes.

Yes then I clearly don't know how to say NO to her. I have been the lover boy and the nice guy to her.

She made me realize women doesn't deserve it unless they earn it.

I realized I have been so simp for her that's why I created the first thread and I needed help then. I make use of some of the advice and she broke up.

She doesn't love me, she was just there because I'm a provider and she left because I stopped providing.

I deserve better and I'm not going back to her.

udomonday:
with the way you sound, there's a 99% probability that you will run back to her whenever she decides to start pressing your mumu button.

That's the last thing I will do on this earth. I'm moving forward.

Dollarmind001:
The truth is that she will still come back to you and you will accept her back.

I'm waiting for your next thread on reconciliation and breakup again

I promise to always give feedback, I will never accept her back. I know my worth and what I deserve right now.

She's not the one for me unless, I want to die young because she will eventually kill me slowly.

She's not my first gf but she was just the one that mealt my heart, I realized my fault and all the red flags I ignored from the start.

It's not going to happen twice.

Sonnobax15:

So when you were busy helping the native hen,she didn't realize her father would disagree to your marriage due to religious differences?

Well, that's how bannies are naturally wired.....If you like,do heaven and earth fro Dem,the day you'll fail to kill an ant for her, she'll automatically tag you to be a bad and stingy person...

At least, you've learned your lesson....Now it's time to move on with your life.......

It was all her planned, she wanted to use till she gets whatever she plan. Before she left my place when she broke up, she still told me to invest in her business that we will sign a paper agreement. Lol.

When she went to Bleep her ex, she told me she told her ex that they can't continue having sex because she doesn't want what she's enjoying from me stop.
Lol, not because she love me.

A man in love is a foolish man. I'm not sure I will be able to love like this again in my life. Because I'm not giving my heart so cheap anymore

Please don't mind my English.

I created this thread https://www.nairaland.com/8123588/she-cheated-give-second-chance about what my ex did to me when we were still dating.

I got some advice on here and I followed it.

We dated for eight months, it was the first girl I will ever loved deeply, she's 25 I'm 26. I gave her my time, money and sacrifice a lot for her, I even break my bank for her.

So after getting some advice from here, i pretended I was very broke that I didn't even have 5k in my account, this girl told me that I'm not prudent with spending money that i spend money lavishly. I was shocked because before I pretended I was broke, this girl has been my one of priority, she will bill me almost every day, if not for food it will be data apart from she want to make her hair, her nails etc. there was a time she told me she wants me to rest for a week from her billings lol.

I helped her making her business grow to the point that she's now stable and even paying for advanced course for her business. I literally spent 7 months pleasing her dancing to her tune because I got her almost everything she asked me, whenever she needs money if I can't give her the whole money I make sure I give her more than half.

I'm not sure I buy clothes for myself during that 7 months. And I did for her, even for her family functions lol. Help her sis with a phone worth more than 200k.

So the very last month we spent together, I started taking care of myself, got myself clothes, shoes I spent more on myself. She started ranting that I should invest in her business. I told her I can't invest in someone that's not my wife.

She started complaining that I'm taking care of myself without considering her that she needs to buy tampons virgin** wash she needs like 20k plus etc.

So a night before the day she broke up, we bleep, so in the middle of the night they brought light I wanted to help her to charge her phone she thought I was checking her phone she voltage that (have I not seen what I'm looking for on her phone) we fight and the next morning she broke up.

She used her Dad as an excuse. She told me her Dad can't allow her to get marry to me because of religion differences. Lol.


She still call me, she told me she wants to continue bleeping till it ends lol 😂

Thanks so much for all your advice I really appreciate. You guys safe my life.

I learnt my lesson..

Although I'm pained because of all the money and sacrifice I made.

Auxtan:
Second chances only makes things worst.

Your trust for her has already been broken and nothing can change that.

As it stands, you can't stop second guessing her every move and that's because you don't trust her.

And lastly, she might be materialistic, and it's just a matter of meeting another guy that will spend more on her before she's back to cheating on you again.

Move on for good. It will hurt but you will be fine las las.

I really appreciate your honest response.

drnoel:
Na wah for people. I mean with the way the exchange rate is right now, I find it impossible to believe that some people have time and expense to spare for an unfaithful partner.
That lady is just using you to spare time. Once what she wants comes, she will litter you. Am sure you know that. So for the time she is wth you cut your share but don't give your heart. Be nice, friendly and generous to her as much as you want for the time she stays with you. Use condom so she don't give you disease. Never give your heart.

If I didn't create that time to find out, I will still be in the dark right now eating her lies. I will not know the kind of girl I'm dating. I'm giving her space and also cutting my share right now and I'm not giving her my money.
And I believe the reason she's till with me is that she knows, she doesn't lack anything from me. And I know if I stop giving her money and caring for her she will go

Uchenna10:
Baba pls move on o,I've dated such girl before.... she already knows you're weak,and she's using you already..pls block her and move on pls.

Yes she knows im weak for her, now she's pressuring me to invest in her business, she dey give me billing everyday. She wanted me to buy a bag worth 50k her in exchange for sex (someone that said she doesn't want to have sex for now ) , that I can lodge her and Bleep her till dawn. Lol

Stenewiser:
Oboy you get energy oo, waking up by midnight to check a girl's phone, when she's comfortably sleeping.
All because you want to monopolise a pussy.
She wear your bone straight go collect dick, what else defines wickedness if not this, Why do I feel you're the cause of Nigeria's problem.

That's more than wickedness, she disrespected me, ah omoh, she will tell me I'm the first person that care so much about her, I'm this I'm that. She played her game so well.

Namaster:
First of all, my advice is NOT for OP because he seems determined to be a WOMAN WRAPPER.

Listen guys:

A woman CONFESSED to OP that he was her second choice and he's still acting all confused and dazed.

The girl told literally told him that she thought her ex-BF wanted to rekindle their failed relationship. And that's she LIED to him and STOPPED having sex with him.

This EVIL girl used God to lie to the OP. That some pastor or prophet had a vision that she shouldn't have sex for now and the fOOL believed it.

Meanwhile, she was getting VIGOROUSLY dicked down by her ex-BF while confessing to OP that no one has ever loved her the way he did.

OP is a FOOL for love. Don't be like OP.

Another thing to take note is that whenever you feel jealous, NEVER let any useless girl convince you that you are insecure or immature.

Jealousy is an EVOLUTIONARY trait that evolved to help you detect infidelity and mate poachers. When you get jealous, know that something is WRONG.

Finally, men need to understand the concept of TRICKLE TRUTH.

That's what happened to OP here. Women will NEVER admit to the full extent of their infidelity. That's why they go crazy at the mention of DNA tests.

Instead, they'll feed you little bits of the truth. If you continue to push, they'll tell another truth that's not as bad as what they actually did.

Take OP situation for example:

Before she was caught, girl first admitted to helping a "male friend" to go to the market.

When she was caught, she admitted she went on a date with a guy.

Then she admitted that she went on a date with her ex.

Then she admitted to having sex with her ex.

Then she admitted to only having sex with her ex TWICE.

Then she admitted to FORCING him to use condoms.

Finally, she admitted to having sex with her ex because she was going to leave OP to be in a relationship with him.

You'll notice her admission comes in "trickles" with each successful trickle WORSE than the last.

The objective is to DOWNPLAY their unfaithfulness as something minor. And ALL of them do it.

I messed up I know and you people can call me a simp, but actually I think there's one time in once life that you will fall in love. I dated so many girls before her, I used to break up with any slight mistakes.

Although I allowed my emotions to control me because I fell in love with her, she spent on me and made me feel so loved that I haven't experienced before (lol) she will live in my apartment for months, without receiving any male calls, he phone will not be on dnd or airplane, she made me feel I found a priceless gem.

When I found about everything she's doing and got the fact she started begging and telling stories that she doesn't know what she was doing bla bla.

Thanks for your honest response, I learnt my lesson .

I met this girl on a app, we vibe, our talking stage does not last up to 3 weeks before we started dating, we were in the same school, she cook different dishes for me, send me her cooked food if she's not at my place. She gave me her phone password herself, she came clean and I fell deeply in love.

Afer one month of our relationship things was going smoothly until one day she asked me to do something on her phone and I saw a video of her on her gallery, she did the video in a guy car. I asked her she said it's her memory on snap, I told her to open her snap so I can confirm, immediately she confess and told me she went out with a friend that the guy ask her to help to buy something in the market. (And I confirmed the road, it's a market road). I believed her and I moved on. And since that day I always pretend that I forgot her password.
Fastward, after second month of our dating it was my birthday. She bought gift for me she spent almost 60k, (she was in her final year ) I was wowed because no girl has ever done that for me. But before my birthday I have spent more than x3 of that for her. In btw she call me a lover boy that no one has ever loved her the way I do.
Fastward to the next month, it was the month we will have a break on school, she started getting strict with her phone, I told her to open her phone, she insist and she told me she doesn't want me to get jealous that she had friends she used to call baby, I wasn't Cool with that and that got me thinking and overthinking. But I'm deeply in love. After some days she would not want to have sex with me, she later told me they had a vision to her that she should not have sex for now, i asked her till when she said when she get parent home she will know. Well I believed her and move on.
She went home and it was coming to the end of the month, and In our talking stage she told me her dad can't say no, because we have differences in religion and she made it clear to me that religion differences can't stop her from getting married to me.
So when she went home she called me and told me that " sometimes we don't always get what we want" that in my relationship with her, her dad might not approve it and she doesn't want to stop having me around her, that she's not breaking up but she's just letting me know. I felt a pain in my heart, I was like what is this. We talked and I moved on. But I started having mixed feelings, so I got a new number and I sent her a message as a customer so she can add the number up on Whatsapp.

She came back to school early the next month and it was her birthday month. I bought her a bone straight hair ( she told me that was the first time a guy will buy her a bone straight). But I have bought her the hair few days to her birthday. She slept at my place a day before her birthday. On her birthday she went to her side and she told me she wanted to go out with her female friends, which I know them. (So that night before she left my place she straightened that bone straight I bought for her on my head. ) she left In the morning.
So i opened what'sapp number she added as a customer started monitoring her status and comparing it with my main WhatsApp account she knows. I started see differences in her post. She lied, she went out with a guy... She blocked me on my main WhatsApp from seeing all the sensitive pictures she posted. ( The guy gave her flower, she snapped in the guys car, and took her on a date). Around 7:30pm I called her pretending asking her how is her outing going with her friends, shey answer it's going well, I told her to flip the camera that I wanted to see her friends she hang up. I called her back she went to the restroom to pick the call, she gaslighted me, I ended the call.
Around 9pm I called her she won't pick, I called severally, she didn't pick. She later sent me a message on Whatsapp that her phone is about to die that we will talk the following day and she says goodnight.
The following morning, I called her and I asked her to meet me in school. I showed her a recording of her status, she was shocked and I broke up with her immediately. I left her and I went home. On my way home she started calling severally I picked and she said " did I come to disgrace her in front of her friends" I sweared for her, and hang up and she later call me that night telling me it was a male friend she knew before we met that theres nothing btw them, that since i said I'm not going to take her out on her birthday, that the guy offered and she can't tell me, that is just normal friend date and that she slept at her place that night.
The love I have for her was controlling me, I really do love her dearly, after like 5 relationships, I met her and everything changed I fell in love deeply, she's the only one that mealt my heart.
After a lot of begging I took her back, but my trust getting more deteriorate, I started checking her phone in the midnight whenever she was asleep. I did my findings very well and I deduce she went out with her ex..
Immediately I started feeling she's using me to get over the hearth break she got from her ex, (because she told me in taking stage how she cried almost 3 months when she broke up with her ex, and I asked her then and she said she's over it , that she moved on already )
I didn't confront her immediately I was playing along, so I went deep in my findings and I find out she has been talking to her ex before she went home for holiday and her ex was the one who she followed to the market. And towards the period she was at home they stated calling themselves on video call. (So I deduce the reason why she told me "we don't always get what we want something times" that her dad might not allow us to get married)
So after some days I confronted her and she confess that it was her ex she went out with. And she told me that the guy is traveling out of the country and he wanted to go on a last date with her that nothing happened btw them.
Fastward, I was still checking her phone in the midnight time to time. Her ex traveled, and she deleted his number from her phone. I was shocked when I saw that I didn't know the reason why she did that. For like 2 weeks she they won't talk, whenever they talk it's just hi how are you doing.
So I confronted her and I told her everything she has been doing, she told me she made that mistake of going out with her ex that I should forgive her, that she doesn't know what she was doing, that the guy really messed up with her.
So I wanted to know if she slept at her ex place on her birthday night, so I lied to her that I cheated on her with my ex, and she confess that she slept at her ex place and they had sex twice, and that he forced the guy to use condom (lol). And she begged that she made a terrible mistake that she thinks they will get back together. Because it's barely two months we started dating that she doesn't know if I'm serious with her. And that she's not a cheater that she's in a state of dilemma then. I asked her to block her ex she did immediately. The ex messaged her with another number after 3 days she blocked him, her ex told her to have a good life that he sees that he blocked him, she said she deleted the message with the number with no reply.
My whole findings and everything took up to 4 months now we are 7 months together.
I broke up with her last week she started begging and crying that I should give her a second chance and she promised I will not regret it that she really do love me. I told her the level of the trust I have for her has reduced. she asked me what can she do to amend things and she wants to prove herself.

Questions
1. If it was you can you forgive her and give her a second chance? If not, please give reasons.
2. And if you have ever given your gf a second chance, does it work out ? .

Thanks In advance for your honest response.