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Does in anyboady know where nigerian or African women hangout in New York in terms of nightspots. I went to a spot in Manhattan and I met about 2 that blew me away compared to what offered in D.C. any help would be glady appreciated.

Thanks for the advice. Check my profile and we can chat on AIM. Your advice hit the mark and she is sucking up to me and coppin pleas.

She is also wondering who my mysterious nigerian friend is who gave this advice.

However I am not into games with people I see no future with I just want her to move on out of the apartment so I can live the bachelor life in NY.

P.S. I still got my plan tickets to Nigeria and I plan to come soon. Save a spot for me on the dance floor.

Peace and Good Looking.

She is here on a visitors Visa for 6 months and yes she does have people who can or may help her but not in New Jersey or New York. But she is use to having her own and very proud about that and although I know men in Nigeria who may have help her and probably still can. She wants to see if she can do it own her own.

She was a business development manager for an oil company contractor I checked and verified I have people in Lagos as well,

So in her mind she may be only use to the corporate environment with work and the security of income that provides.

Look I met a bougie women from Nigeria not the down to earth type I wanted. Any insight on how a bougie women acts would help


Her family is already dissapointed that she failed at relationship she is 30 years old. Not being married at 30 I am told in your culture the family starts to look at you funny.

Should I call her bluff and kick her out and make them help her regardless of the fact.



As you know renting an apartment without credit, getting a job without a social security number and tackling New York without having a family member is insane for a foreigner let alone an African. When they come here they are usually attached to organization or university not alone.

It took her 2 months for the bank to activate her debit card because it wasn't attached to a social security number. You don't want to know what I did to get them to finally activate it for her.

She was a business development manager for an oil company contractor I checked and verified I have people in Lagos as well,



Truth be told I just want her to move out so I can take over the apartment and go with whoever it is she chooses to be with. I actually want that apartment because of its closeness to manhattan. In regular circumstances I wouldn't be this kind. If this was a girl from the states or at least lived here for two years my sentiments would be far less.

However if the shoe was on the opposite foot and I was in Lagos would I want some to help me figure things out or maybe my hustla spirit would guide me.

Listen, I am not that cruel to kick someone out especially a sister from the Motherland. You can say all this stuff about doing this and that but you know that would be in bad taste.

I am an American and projecting an image just save face in front of my countrymen is not my biggest concern I think as an individual.

Although culturally people of African descent tend to think heavily on how they are viewed by their peers from an image standpoint and that can influence them to making decisions outside what they truly feel is the moral thing to do. Nigerians are no different.



But Dewdrop (the name even tells me your from New York) your suggestion to make her pay the rent a month in advance before she leaves is a good one.

I am going to make sure she meets that demand. I am thinking of letting a women be a liason between us in future matters to not skew my vision.

And once again I wish our stars had aligned Ma Ma. What part of New York or you from and where can I find them like you?

But seriously good Looking on the advice because you knowledge is from two points of view!

I forgot to mention that she paid her first months rent but I paid the secuirty deposit. Acutally she came here with 10,000 dollars. But spent about 7,000 thus far.

I am not as stupid as everyone thinks. There were reasons for my actions and I also contigencies for when thing won't work out.

But you are right she has no right making demands I guess that's what she was use to dealing with the men she did in Nigeria.

But she is women in a strange land trying to survive and when women are scared they do things outside of their character. She hasn't found a way to earn income and has some trouble understanding how things work in the US but I will help her come around.


Also she has decided to stay in the apartment and find a way to earn an living before going on to whatever is she decides.

Quiet as kept I was hoping she left in April so I can just take over the place and have a bachelor crib.

I mean the place is 15 minutes from manhattan by train and a 2 minute walk to the station. Oh well I guess I am stuck with her until she moves on. lol

To the people in this forrum thanks your input and opinions are appreciated.

I feel you sista. Naija girls are wonderful. One women won't spoil the show. I love you all thanks for the input. I should show her this thread.

Also Nationality does help influence I mean the whole reason we have a culture attributed to place. Especially women. But I feel you I shouldn't attach a nationality to women less desirable behavior.

I saw you pic as well my stars should have align with you. Holla

Thanks for the advice

I like women from Naija. I was thinking that maybe this lady represented a type of women that I should weary of when I hook up with another women from Nigeria or Ghana or wherever in Africa.

In my mind it don't get no better than the mother land.

Spoken like a true person. Kind of harsh but yes she does have bitch tendicies. Thank you for your advice. I thought it maybe some sort of courtesy nigerian men show their women even if they are acting like a bitch concerning possesions and matters of the house,

and yes we met management together

Why would you ask about the management of the building.


Her wanting me to pay 1500 is side issue that doesn't concern management,

my name is on the lease as well as hers but I am the one who has the social security number. And the US the one who is a citizen runs the show.

I am asking you is whether her demands are fair or not. Not If can take advantadge of her situation.

I know I can but it might not be equitable from a Nigerian point of view. She is a Ora women maybe they are special in that regard.

thank you bro that what I thought she has since back down from her demands and plans to keep the apartment until I rent it in april

yes I am heartbroken but hey these things happen.

I am asking advice as to how you would handle her. No money has exchange hands yet except for me paying to move her in etc etc.

Also rent gets paid to management not her. lol but that other 1500 gets paid to her. My question is based on your reading the scenario would you submit to her demands.

Hello People,

How are you? Maybe you can offer some advice as to how to handle this situation diplomatically and how would a Nigerian man deal with a women like this.

I have this girl I met from Nigeria on-line, Ikeja to be exact that came over to the states to see me or at least thats what i thought. She actually visited another man before me but that didn't work out so she came and saw me instead. I told her that I was a struggling professional but that we can combine our resources and make a fortune from the ground up. On line she was all for this but,

To make a long story short we have alot of difference and decided not to pursue the romantic route. I don't think we didn't pursue the romantic route its because she is Nigerian I think its because she is used to men kissing her ass sitting there while she criticizes them about this and that and do her bidding without an ounce of complaint on her part and I am not that kind of man.

Also she very materialistic I mean she would put American women to shame and she doesn't even put out to give you an incentive to put her with her BS. Please if any of you have lived in America the men here have ample choices to deal with sensible women why would you deal with one that caused you grief .


But anyway being the gentlemen I am I got her an apartment and let her use my credit to rent the place. I also paid sums for travel and whole bunch of other stuff moving her stuff from one state to the next.

I also paid a security deposit on the place and help her move her stuff in. Cool

Now its a been a month since she has been in the place and she wants to move I guess because she found a new hubbie candidate. The lease is for a year.

She has notified me of the fact only yesterday and told me that she wants me to take over the apartment and that she is leaving March 10th. Cool no problem anticipated this. The rent is due March 5th and its $900. I can pay that but I need to move in when I pay that because money is tight, Plus I pay rent elsewhere.

But here is kick she wants me to pay her 1500 to move in for the furniture she bought plus March rent. I told her no and that I give her $500 dollars for the furniture.

She had the nerve to tell me that if I didn't pay her for the furniture that I couldn't take over the apartment. She said would find someone to take over the apartment that I rented with my credit if I didn't abide by her terms.

I told her and actually went with her to rent furniture in my name again but she said that she doesn't like to use credit. i said welcome to America plus if safe guards you if you decide you don't like your arrangement because you can return the stuff. She said she buys to own and that the finance charges means she would pay nearly double what she could save in cash if she bought now.

I said have you ever heard of the time value of money.

She said to pay monthly for furniture is beneath her.

Legally I can have her ass on the street but my kindhearted self won't do that. However I won't be taken advantage of neither. I want to be fair for all parties sake.

I even told her that if she moves in April instead I'd pay the rent and for April and give her 1,000 toward the furniture. This give me ample time to make arrangements with my current situation to prepare to take over this situation.

She said I had to do it her way or no way.

Is she crazy? Or am I obligated to make sure this happens. Did this lady have malicious intent from the beginning. Is this how a Nigerian women dispose of things when they move on from a man.

I ask this from a cultural perspective . Please her fellow countrymen and women I ask your advice or i will dispose of the situation the American way.

How would a Nigerian man suppose to respond, and in all honesty is what she asking me to do common for the man to perform? I am curious and I don't want one Nigerian women to mess up my experience for the other ones I intend to date, but if they all respond in this fashion then I might look at dating Ghanaian women instead.

I meant to say get married as well i definitely for the institution of marriage if the love is authentic between the two parties

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You I would invest in affilate programs because you get money by directing people to somewhere else where they make the sale, Startup cost are 50 bucks and tey even let nigerians participate all you need is the internet and credi card and determination.

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Does nigeria have access to the captial markets like other emerging economies.

could you give me some examples this is a new perspective that i was never aware of this and its certaintly not express from the brothers in my experience.

If fact I was told by alot of brothers that if there is a reason to shy away from them its because we are held to higher expectation when having relationships to them because our frame of reference is that these women represents mother earth because they are from the motherland.

Like its weird I have seen brothers call their american counterparts bitches and hoes but shy away from that word when referring to african women

because she keeps the customs of the mother earth. Its like calling her that in a sense disrespects himself. You feel me.

She seems unattainable in his eyes whether because of her extreme beauty orher cultural differences to some mean so maybe they avoid her altogether.


Another reason a brother may avoid an african sister is because she holds you him to higher standard in terms of what she expects of him . But if you meet that standard it safe bet that you'll have the domestic stability that often escapes alot of brothers even when we are successful.

One reason I think african males meaning from africa are able to succeed is because they have a supportive female counterpart that caters to his needs ehy he focuses on making a living.

in america the black women caught in social advances economically sometimes neglects her domestic duites an this as result effects the entire home.

I am very jealous of this and I told brother that alot of their problems result from domestic strife. I have dated african women in the past and aside from a few negative views about men have been woderful partners emotionally and sexually.

They (african women) stress marriage alot for social purposes sometimes without the emotinal foundation needed to secure a good marriage because truthfully everyone you hookup with you are not going to marry but that person can teach you something about person you need to be when you marry.

why marry just procreate

But black american men marriage west african men would do wonders for the kids and future generations of africans and africa in general.

we have so much to learn about each other why not do it making whoopie

Do Black American Males and West African Women Make Good Couples

You would think so on the surface. I mean you have the exotic beautiful women from west africa and the handsome black man but what about culturally

and what is to be gain or loss by them hooking up. I see alot online about white men marrying african women but never her distant brother.

I think its an obvious good match that has been overlooked for long time but once one famous person embraces it will spread like wildfire what is your take on the matter