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Samantha123:
Well, I'm the last born of the family and I didn't have any younger siblings to worry about.

But in as much as you may feel like a third parent to your siblings, you're not their mother or their father and they're not your responsibility.

If the parents were no more, I'd understand.. but you're still young and have your entire future ahead of you, you still need to figure yourself since your parents never did gave you that opportunity to be you and do you.

You leaving your nest for a while will give them a chance to think of the kind of parents they've been to you.. But before you leave, let them know how you feel of their ways of parenting and how much it has affected you..

And I wish you all the best in your job hunting..

thanks a lot
I needed to hear this.
I'll start making plans

Samantha123:
I know what you're going through, I'm also from that kind of a family.

My family have also kept me away from the society since I was young to a point that depression became my best friend throughout my teens, but I made a decision not to return home after completing varsity.

I remember they threatened to take everything away from me and disown me after that if I didn't come back home, I had to leave the family car that I was using on campus since it had a tracker and I didn't want them to know where I was.. I called them and informed them to come and fetch it themselves... At that moment I didn't want to face them because I knew I was gonna receive insults after insults.

But family is family, as time went by, I missed them and I decided that I was gonna take a brave step and visit them one time and to my surprise, they welcomed me with both hands.

And they finally respected my decisions in the house and understood that all I wanted was to be heard and have a space of my own where I can make my own decisions and learn from my own mistakes.

I only have one challenge , leaving my siblings behind , like I said my parents don't provide for our needs , and we're all girls,they just j
keep a roof on our head and we eat whatever we see in the house , if I leave , my sisters won't be able to cope , I'm basically the third parent in the house and my man helped out a lot , I don't why know they were against that too , maybe coz he's from a different tribe

i think I'll just disappear for a year or two and try to get my hands on a job , but moving in with him is much worse ,coz its not far , it won't end well oh , I'll look for a job first before I go anywhere , I don't want to remain like this by next year

Enny2013:
U won't blame Dem if u ar deir only child.
Well,at 23, u shud know what to do.

I am first born , not the only child , we are 6

cooooooks:
What work COULD you do.

You are a graduate. Can you read & write? Are you computer literate? Could you teach? Be an admin assistant?

Are you seeing the man as your saviour?

Many men "save" women only to be betrayed when the woman settles outside her family home.

yes
I'm good at computer , using Microsoft office is not a problem , i can teach too there was a school nearby , maybe I'll apply there

no I am not seeing him as my savior which is why I want to be independent too and be free

Yukov:
You know what to do..

no I really don't

Yukov:
You know what to do..

no I really don't

tommy589:
You have no spirit of adventure in you at all. Elope with that caring man

to move in with him would be trouble oh , he's living very close to our house in port Harcourt , that would be the first place they would look

I'm 23 a girl and a graduate , spent most of my life in a boarding school , then straight to a private uni for college , I'm done with school now, I have no skill ,no job , very few friends that live far away from me and nothing else
my parents still won't let me go out or make friends but everyday I'm hearing marriage , marriage , marriage
I'm depressed , I wish they would just die and leave me alone
to think both of them eloped together against their parents wish and are now forming saints because they older is really annoying

no they do not provide for my needs, pads , toiletries , clothes ,my hair and money , every girl child needs money but my parents don't know that , if I tell them , they'll give me money to buy tissue which is unhygienic, I got lucky and found a man that covers those things for me and more but they were against that too , took my phone away and sent me back to our dry village , I live in their house and if there's food I eat but most times I lose my appetite coz I'm not happy , I wish they would disappear , one or both of them

I'm tired and I don't want to runaway , i just need advice on what to do