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Thanks for all your comments, PS keep them coming. For those who asked:

We both had tried so many times to work things out, but we were still loosing the plot. It started all happy happy, (Like it usually is shey be , but this one was different. Anyway, down the line, I felt he was not doing what I wanted to make me happy, kinda felt like I was doing all the compromises. Slowly I changed? Things that felt natural for me to do for him, I was not doing anymore. Trust started to be eroded. We were holding back. Then frustration took over. Like I said we started quarrelling ALOT!! He became abusive (Verbally). Like that, like that, it was just going one way, DOWN HILL. Oh yeah and throw distance in there, (we had to be separated half way into the relationship), The whole phone thing and not seeing each other probably heightened the insecurities and we felt we were bringing the worst out of each other. Being a woman and thinking with my heart, I was like we could work through it. But it was obvious to us that we are going to end up hating each other if we continued,


I don't know if we will ever get back together, I don't want to be thinking that way. At this point I just cant see my self being with anyone else!!

I probably should come up with a list of things I want to accomplish during my singledom!!

Its so hard the whole keeping busy thing. But I know I have to, its for the best and for my well being. The pain is raw. One min am like yes, be strong girl!! and the next, am missing him so much that tears stream down my eyes. I always thought no matter what, we would always work through the problems. But it got so bad we started resenting each other, even though we still profess love for each other, we realised we were no longer moving forward, there was too much quarrel and bad words were said against each other, so I guess a break up was the next best thing

Help cheer me up ps