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Indianapolis, Indiana USA he followed me all the way to my car and almost got beat up Married a year later after he quit getting on my nerves..

It depends on how they say it.. I respond to mommie, mama.. If he says mom, I look around for my mother or mother in law.. lol

It's her boyfriend, let's just be honest... move on..

blaise26abj:
There is a very serious underlying problem and I think it is related to a past heartbreak. He loves you and is super scared that you will do the same thing d person did to him. Talk with him and try to dig up his past regarding heartbreaks. Let him talk and he will ultimately reveal why he lack so trust in you.

Then, from a position of understanding, you will be able help him to trust again.

Thank you

He already has a Green Card, through education. He doesn't need me for that.

Berbierklaus:
Them don use this one collect green card finish

#kontinue

He already has a Green Card, and if he didn't, yes I would make sure he did! What's wrong with people, seriously? We both work, he makes more than I do. Nobody is benefiting any more or less. Some people actually have problems other than worries about being used for a card that probably won't work for many regaurdless in the future.

Sanchez01 thank you.

HungarBad... Okay well, I said considered. My mother is West Indian. My father is West Indian. Both From St. Croix, since I wasn't born there, I'm not considered Crucian, but African American or Caribbean. I am a brown girl with what he calls "White people hair" so he calls me white because I'm light skinned? Just ridiculous. & yes he hasn't been here long this time, he came when we first met on a visitors pass a few years ago, he has been here for a little over a year now. So that doesn't really make since that he would just now start this control thing when he returned. I would think he would know how women act, but just because that's how other American women act that doesn't mean that's how I act. Which is why I looked at maybe it was my culture or his culture that gas him feeling this way. & it probably does. Idk I guess I will have to just talk to him again and again.... Ugh! Thank you for your help!

Is he a boy... We're both 27 you be the judge.

EmpereLee lol sorry taken by the controll freak

He's never put his hands on me, and I know he loves me, I just don't know what I can do to get him to trust me. It's driving me crazy to not be able to do all the things I did before. I'm in no way the type that just goes out and meets up with men. He is absolutely amazing and makes me very happy, it's just when I try to get space away from him. Or try to get out of the house. I have all brothers, if he ever did get abusive I can handle myself. Not worried about that.

That's the thing, I am very loyal. I do not cheat. I cook, clean, make sure everything is done and everything is fine until I want to go out with friends or anywhere without him. He gets angry checks my clothes, makes me change and then calls almost the whole time I'm out. But if I call him when he's out lol it's a problem. I'm just going to start turning my phone off. I just don't think he trust me, and it's really sad that he feels that way.

Yes, he keeps telling me about manners... I will try, But manners beside.. Are Yoruba men always controlling like this? Maybe it's just his personality and has nothing to do with where he's from. Idk just confused.

Okay, first off, I'm an American women. & I know my culture is in some ways very different, some ways not so much... Like dating, same thing I believe everywhere. My issue is why doesn't he want me to wear make up, leave the house without telling him where I'm going, why is he always checking my phone, and when he introduces me to his family here I always have to stay close to him?? I have to talk on the phone to his mother every time he calls her even though his mother doesn't speak English well so we say the same things. (Not that I have a problem with his mother, she is a wonderful woman) It's like he's scared I'm going to run away.. He also keeps telling me I'm a white woman, in which I'm biracial so it gets on my nerves, because here I'm considered African American, but he doesn't care. When I tell him about himself he just tries to throw in my face about all these women that want him. Then he gets mad when I tell him to call them and tell them I personally said they can all fucking have him. I guess I should be concerned about him leaving but, I could really care less, besides every time I try to leave he gets all emotional and begs me to just marry him... I don't get it!!! I love him but, I'm not the one to just beg a man to stay or not to have relations with other women.. I don't care if he does, but I tell him if I find out I will drop all his shit off wherever he is and they can deal with his controlling ass! I just don't understand why he thinks he can do whatever he wants and I'm just suppose to go to work and stay home. I can't wear makeup around others because he says I'm already pretty and he doesn't want others to get any ideas about me, whatever that means. Oh and when I wear makeup anyways he calls me a witch. Wtf is that about?? Should I stay with this man and marry him or will it only get worse? So confused.

She's not confused. She wants to be with you, for now. But more than likely it will happen again, in a few months.