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voiceoftheupcom:
https://eyesoflagos.com/deji-adeyanju-shades-ola-of-lagos-says-he-only-rented-a-mini-office-but-claimed-full-ownership-of-car-stand/

naptu2:
Busola Kukoyi is the spokesperson of Mrs Tinubu.

Busola Kukoyi @KukoyiBusola

The Arrival of first batch of the buses donated to OAU by Her Excellency, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, CON. https://t.co/06nluZNZCB pic.twitter.com/XHg8Pl74s2

— Busola Kukoyi (@KukoyiBusola) October 14, 2025

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Busola Kukoyi @KukoyiBusola



https://x.com/KukoyiBusola/status/1978030811086455279?[/quote]Town Gboro no go like this one..hope una go accept 20naira from anglomoz carpark to campus gate.

Buharidgeneral:
Thought the guy deals in Bitcoin

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.” Brethren, I think I may have gotten this one wrong.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. I was 28 when we got married, and she was 22. In the beginning, things were fine, but along the line, the marriage became increasingly challenging. From early on, intimacy was an issue. She often refused sex, saying she was tired. To reduce tension, I limited my request to once a week — usually Saturday mornings — even though I would have liked more.
She also didn’t cook regularly. I complained several times, especially since I covered about 95% of food and household expenses. Eventually, I got tired of complaining. When we moved to lagos from portharcourt, She once told me she didn’t feel loved and wanted me to do more house chores and take her out more. I tried to adjust — suggested she hired a maid, helped around the house, and made an effort to take her out when possible. Lagos life can be very busy, but I did what I could. Every year for the past four years, I made sure we lodged in a 4- or 5-star hotel for a few days as a couple. She went on vacation to dubai 2 years ago. But she often said I was doing it “for the family (children), not for her.” That she wants her own treatment.


At one point, after a serious conflict, I took her to her father’s house and told him that we didn’t love each other anymore. During the mediation, she played the victim at first, crying. But when her father tried to correct her, she suddenly became defensive and started yelling — even at him. Her father was shocked and had to calm the situation. He later told us something that stuck with me: “You two talk, but you don’t communicate.” Since then, I’ve tried to improve our communication, but it feels like my wife has given up on the marriage.

In the past year, things have gotten worse. Any small thing I say seems to anger her. She interprets normal conversations as arguments and shuts down. I have become conscious of it and tell her not to raise her voice and try to match her voice tone. She’s not open to resolving conflicts. I honestly believe she no longer loves me — she resents me. She gets angry easily, often over nothing. We barely talk deeply anymore. Most of our conversations are shallow. I try to initiate discussions, but she’s either uninterested, on her phone, or just cold.

She no longer sleeps in the same bed with me, claiming back and neck pain. I’ve offered to buy a new mattress or switch beds, but she’s not interested. As a result, our sex life has deteriorated — we’re down to about once in three weeks, and even that comes with tension. Even to approach her now comes with alot of hesitation and fear of rejection. Recently, when I tried to be intimate, she got angry, accused me of hurting her breast, even though she was the one preventing me, she then walked away. That led to another quarrel. It’s extremely frustrating to feel rejected repeatedly, especially after weeks of restraint.

Even minor things turn into big arguments. For example, I once told her not to pour water into the griller after cooking because it could cause rust. Her reaction was explosive — she shouted that she’d never wash the oven again and that I should do it myself, going forward. I felt asked was she was yelling. I tried to calmly explain, but she kept escalating, I must wash it, if she cooks the food, i must wash the burner. It dawned on me that she no longer sees or appreciates what I do in the house. Despite being the main provider, I still handle more than 50% of household chores — I wash dishes, vacuum, clean toilets, take the boys to school, iron everyone cloth etc. She mainly cooks, bathes the kids, and does laundry. I told her I do as much chores and she is in no position to dictate to me, no big deal in washing the burner but she needs to be polite. And she should not take me doing chores for granted, I am just supporting her. We both work from home so there is no stress of commuting to work etc

She acts like she’s disgusted by me. She avoids sitting near me, doesn’t want me to touch her, and even turns her face away when I try to kiss her. If she is sitting on a chair, if i come sit on that chair she will use style and go to the room. It is either my mouth smells or my tummy is big. I am relative fit, not a 6 packs man o. I go just swallow these things. Nothing wrong in feedback, but the way and manner she gives it is not fine. Never ever body shamed her. One day she told me, sabi I was almost calling of the marriage while we were engaged, why did I marry her? I was shocked. It was something I didnt remember doing. It just shocks me to know how unforgiving a woman can be, and what goes through their mind.

When I try to talk things through, she ignores me or gives cold replies. I’ve even sent messages on WhatsApp just to get through to her — she either ignores them or replies with things like, “You win.” We don’t walk together anymore — she either walks ahead or rushes off.

One day I even begged her to forgive and forget whatever I might have done, even if I didn’t know what it was. But things only seem to get worse. We relocated to the UK last year, and I thank God I have a good job that helps me support the home. Honestly, I feel that’s the only reason she’s still around. My spirit tells me that if I ever lose this job, I might lose my home too. Or she is just waiting for the kids to be of age.

I’ve tried to make things better — bought her gifts (including a Samsung S24 for her birthday), taken her and the kids to the cinema, arcade, amusement park, and more. She enjoys these things, but there’s no real change. Even told her to tell me what she wants. The only area I think I need to still work on is the pray more with the family. She says she wants me to pray more with her and the children. I admit it an area I need to work on.

No one is perfect, neither am I or expecting my wife to be. I know I’m a good husband and a great father, But it feels like she’s emotionally checked out. Divorce is never in my mind because I come from a Christian home, and I care deeply about my kids and even her. I still believe any marriage can work if both partners are willing to try. But right now, I’m just tired. It’s painful when you want to communicate, but the other person refuses. She’s grown cold, distant, and resentful. When she cooks, I can see the resentment in her eyes, she is not happy doing it. It is like she went into the marriage with certain expectation and it doesnt look like I am meeting them. I have tried to ask, what can i do, teach me to love you. Tell me what you wants, for where? she will just lock up.

She has good qualities — she’s spiritual, beautiful, ambitious, serious-minded, she takes good care of the kids, she has introduced my children to God and prays with them. But emotionally, it feels like she’s no longer in the marriage. I’m just frustrated and honestly don’t know what else to do. I’m not perfect, but I’ve been faithful, responsible, and patient.

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

Chilipepper:
Lady signs out of EKSU as the only student in her department from 100lvl - 400lv

Nemere2020:
Nigeria’s Finance Minister Wale Edun Flown Abroad After Suffering Stroke, Tinubu Seeks Urgent Replacement


https://saharareporters.com/2025/10/12/breaking-nigerias-finance-minister-wale-edun-flown-abroad-after-suffering-stroke-tinubu

Daejumong:
“There are many virgins in their forties,fifties and sixties in Deeper Life. I was a virgin up to my forties. Even Mummy Esther Kumuyi was a virgin at 65!” - Sister Joy( Former women’s leader in DLBC)

* Culled from Aunty Adunni reality show*

Food for Thought
-Is this peculiar to Deeper Life? Is there really a pandemic of unmarried women in the church?

- Is this due to the bottlenecks of the marriage committee? Are there things that can be done to make things easier for brethren to get married?

- The fact that Deeper Life women can retain their virginity into old age is one of the reasons I rate the church as one of the best ever. It takes a lot of spiritual strength,commitment and dedication to keep yourself with all the societal pressure to have kids and have a partner!

Matthew 19:29: "And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life".

Dae Jumong 12/10/25

mecuries:
There is a guy in there that's gonna have s*x with at least 5 ladies in this meeting in pretence that he is looking for a wife... To that guy, you are a champ

TouchNfollow:
https://x.com/DejiAdesogan/status/1973856549446590871?t=hpnqwPc0vMghZQVszwTY4w&s=08[/quote]This man and sexual misconduct na 5 and 6. The same man wey go dildooo shop dey slap the owner..and other escapades

boysco:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKXDlhKeQFc?si=mKfWSMjzRWpHGdM8

Africa’s richest man, Aliko Dangote, has disclosed that the most expensive thing he has ever bought with his own money is a private jet worth $50 million. According to him, despite his wealth, he doesn’t spend money recklessly.

Omihanifa:
https://gazettengr.com/nigerians-into-sex-work-runs-to-pay-tax-going-forward-oyedele/

Ofunaofu:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2025/09/jonathan-will-contest-return-to-aso-rock-as-president-in-2027-jerry-gana/

Sirchiboy:
If you’re given ₦2m to turn into ₦10m within one year, what business would you do?

BlackViper:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/dont-see-taxes-as-punishment-firs-boss-tells-nigerians/