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Kobojunkie:
It can also be eclipsed by so many other things in life, such as self-love, acquisition of strong emotional and social intelligence, mental illness, stress, memory loss, etc. There are so many things that can literally erase all of the stewpid sentiments that one first held fast to. 🥱🥱

True.
Life is a journey and we all carry baggage on it 😂

Yes. You forget them all eventually and move on.
First love and first sexual partner can both be eclipsed by love and sexual encounters that you experience later.

tiswell:
Most times the man already had money and assets before getting married.
Do you now suggest they share his assets because a divorce happened in marriage?
In most cases,ladies usually come to the marriage with little or no assets,and eventually seek 50-50 share of the assets they weren't part of,in case of divorce.

I support 50-50 share of the assets acquired during their time(s) together,and not the other way round.

And again, I originally asked you...
"And when it is the woman who brings wealth to the marriage? Should she also keep all and give nothing if a divorce regrettably occurs?"

In Nigeria, the woman may often come to the marriage with little or nothing, but in my country that is not the case.

I am bringing millions to my impending marriage to a Nigerian man. Should I share everything 50/50 with my future husband if we later divorced, even if he is not wealthy when we marry?

In my opinion, from the day we marry what we both have is Ours. Not mine. Not his. And if we go our seperate ways after some years, what is Ours, should be split 50/50, regardless of what we each had when we married.

tiswell:
very very rare cases

Rare maybe... however as a woman takes time out of her career to have children and raise them, women will naturally have less earning potential in their lifetime.

I lost 2 years of earning with my first child. 6 months with my second child, because then I earned more money than my husband and needed to go back to work sooner.

IMO divorce settlement should be a clear 50/50 split of assets, like my own divorce, no matter who earns more or contributed more financially during the marriage.

During marriage there should never be 'his and her' money and assets. It should be 'our' money and assets. Shared equally. Divorce should not change that and assets should also be shared equally. This is also rare.

Is it though?
Even if financially comfortable? I am interested to know.

I have wondered why my fiance wishes to stay in Nigeria.
I have asked myself if our life would be better there or in my country, but unless he changes his mind, Nigeria will be our home.

[quote author=tiswell post=137985109]Try it in naija and and regret it,cos you'll not get penny

And when it is the woman who brings wealth to the marriage? Should she also keep all and give nothing if a divorce regrettably occurs?

PDJT:
- You're no blondie though. Just your fantasy maybe.

Ok... Whatever helps you cope mate 😂😂😂

PDJT:
- Yeah, blondy's body hairs can be mistaken for an old granny's hair. Not many men associate grannies physical characteristics attractive, certainly not for long-term purposes.

😂😂😂😂😂😂 Like I said... tell yourself whatever you need to cope mate, but it's not my fault you made a huge assumption about my age and publicly made yourself look like a fool.

I see you also make assumptions about the colour of my body hair in a poor attempt to cast aspersions on my sex appeal 😂

Me... I'm quite self assured with my attractiveness to men, I don't need any validation from you 😂
Your opinion is insignificant to me... but you do you buddy, if it soothes your bruised ego 😂

PDJT:
- Na so. Blondies that look older than their age after adolescence years.

Ok mate. Whatever helps you cope 😂😂

PDJT:
- Hmm. Interesting. Do you consider yourself clingy?

No. I just like sex in the middle of the night. So sue me 😂

Mariangeles:
And what is wrong with the way she thinks?
That she wants her man to herself?

Ahhh.. some do not understand a woman like me. It's ok. I am not offended 😂
I am a 54 year old woman who looks like she's in her 30s. Blonde, blue eyes and financially independent.
I will take a husband because I want him, not because I need him.... and you know... my man, he is very ok with that 😂

PDJT:
- Hmm. And you think that way? Are you a grandmother yet?

I am indeed.
But I am also a woman. A woman who knows her worth and doesn't settle for less than she wants.

Mariangeles:
I like you. 😀

Well thank you kindly

PDJT:
- It's safe and logical to think this way when you're still single and consider yourself youngish. Most young people around your age think this way until they get married. "His nights are yours"?

- I guess you will do the "chasing" of eligible men and pay your bride price too?

I'm 54 😂😂😂
And having been both married and single, I have a fair idea what I do and don't want in a marriage.
Why should I settle for less?

It's not for me. I would simply not marry a man who wants a separate bedroom. My grandparents and parents shared a bed, so for me, that is the norm.

My husband can have all the space he needs during the day, but his nights are mine. If the intimacy of the marital bed is too hard for my man to endure, he can find another woman to wife.

I expect for yourself, with two wives, it may actually be necessary to avoid jealousy over preferential treatment, however I personally would refuse to marry any man who wants anything but a monogamous marriage.

To each their own though I guess, provided all parties concerned are fine with seperate rooms and beds.

Without seeing the rash, and assuming it disappears when not exposed to the chemicals in your workplace, I would say it is probably contact irritation.

Limit exposed areas of skin when working with chemicals and paints. Cover up as much skin as possible. Remove protective clothing, masks and gloves as soon as possible when not needed.

Use a barrier cream or Vaseline on your skin to protect your skin barrier when working.
Limit touching your face when working.
Wash your skin with a gentle cleanser (not soap) as soon as possible after work and apply a light moisturizer.

If possible, see a doctor to get a diagnosis, however all of the above may help and definitely will do no harm.

All my family say: Love you

And that's fine, until you accidentally say it to a co-worker when ending a call 😂

J984:
Hi I'm also a UK trained RMN. I'm having second thoughts on moving to AUS.

Are u much happier in AUS in terms of your mental health than the UK? Have you notice any any politics/bullying on the wards in AUS like the UK NHS wards? How are you dealing with the housing crisis in AUS? Houses seems expensive in AUS. I hate the cold miserable UK weather but people are saying the AUS hot weather is much harsher than any other country. Is this true? They say the AUS sun burn/sting your skin. Do you have to use sun cream outside during summer in AUS?

I can confirm there is a housing crisis in almost all major cities of Australia. There are hundreds of applicants per rental and rent is high (average $500 - $700 per week). Minimum wage by comparison averages $800 per week after tax.

The weather depends on what part of the country you are in. The southern states are cooler. The further north you go, the hotter it gets.

Summer can be scorching hot in northern states and yes, the sun is intense, so sunscreen is recommended if spending more than 5-10 minutes in the sun.
Summer temperature in Queensland for example, averages 30-40 degrees celsius. Hotter than that is not uncommon, but rarely lasts for more than a day or two.

Nigerians would probably not find the temperature in most places in Australia too hot.

Tobexin:
26th of January was Australia Day but tends to not celebrate it anymore.

This is inaccurate.

Australia Day is still celebrated and is a national holiday. However, some people choose not to celebrate it.