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ok i get it

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ok I get it

Most men of all ages want ladies in their twenties but most ladies in the 20s want men closer to their age. Unfortunately, there are not enough men in their twenties to satisfy the needs of all those ladies in their twenties. Some of the men are just not ready for huge responsibilities of marriage at that age anymore unless they have rich families insisting they get serious with their girlfriends. They would rather wait to plan until they accumulate wealth or save enough money.

What drives other ladies to older man other than money? Plenty: elevation of status or security. Most women, more than most men, are very educated consumers when it comes to choosing a partner, even in their twenties. Though as men get older, they become wiser. When it comes to young tote, the older they are the easier they lose their senses. Many have been taken for rides!

While delaying marriage, young men join others in their thirties and sometimes those in their forties. We know that at this point, families would become worried wondering if their offspring are going to get serious about producing grandchildren. In some cases, the ladies these young men would love to get married to may be wishing to hook up with a different young man in his twenties. An irreconcilable mismatch posting some women into their thirties may be regretted.

The same is true of the young men, as they procrastinate into their thirties and forties, they are no more in the favored age group most ladies in their twenties would like to marry. Since ladies in their twenties prefer young men around their age. Remember that men of all age groups prefer women in their twenties. By the time men wait until their thirties and forties, they are not looking for women in their age group anymore. They want younger ladies, in the twenties!

When many of the ladies get to their thirties, they have become highly matured, wiser, many with good careers and knowing what they want from men. Sometimes, it is turn of these ladies to attract men in their twenties. Especially those young men still struggling to find a niche. One pretty lady brought her case to family court against a man in his twenties that ditched her for younger girlfriend. She was ten years older, but still pretty as a rock, better off with older men.

This lady never saw herself as a cougar in her thirties, if anything, she looked as young as the boyfriend. The court and the boyfriend’s mother could see through the young man as a user that lived between her mother and his girlfriend’s house driving her car. She demanded in her claim, most of what she gave him including money as loan contingent on payback as soon as he got a better job. Well, it sounded like a code word for … only if he finally married her.



Women in their thirties are not so frantic to get a man but they harbor a feeling of helplessness if they get squished closer to their forties. They have to make the decisions whether to look for more matured and older man that will cuddle them like a gem. Either keep hope alive for a man around their age or continue their careers and settle down as cougars later on. They may not be so desperate if they have good jobs but they also longed for a satisfying relationship with a man.

Factors career ladies in their thirties preferred in a partner include gentleman that is just as educated, carry himself both in the relationship and in a circle of friends. But there are many single men with good paying blue-collar jobs looking for educated ladies. These ladies would keep them on the side to satisfy their sexual needs but will never go out with them or even get pregnant for him. How can anyone claim she is looking for a man, when one is right in her bed?

Well, if you work hard and paid your dues, there is nothing wrong with desiring someone in the same class. Sex is important but not the overriding quality most women desire in a man. There was a survey that asked married women if they want more sex in their marriage, most women said yes they do. But when asked if they would leave their husbands to get married to someone else for more sex, majority said no; they would rather stay with same man. Which country!

There is a general consensus that by the time ladies gets into their thirties, the age of partners is no longer a big deal. It comes from the notion that nobody should be getting into the sexual preference of a grown woman, no matter the age of the partner. This article stated that men of all ages prefer women in their twenties and ladies in their twenties prefer men around their age. In their thirties, ladies relax age preference to accommodate prevailing market for good men.

By the time women get to their late thirties and forties, single or divorced, they are ready or prepared to play cougars. The same ladies that dress older as teens for older men, would do anything to look younger for men of any age: diet, cosmetic surgery, bleaching, padded butts or boobs, fake hair. Even then, women are more discreet than men, with taste for younger partner. It may have something to do with community norms, double standard or men’s dominance.

Older men have more to gain from ladies in their thirties and forties than they do in preference for ladies in their twenties. As stated earlier, ladies are very educated consumers in their choice of men from their late teens. The general observation is that ladies in late teens or twenties looking for older men want a lot more than relationship. They want money, as everyone but not necessarily as much security as older ladies: young ladies may have no intention to stay as long.

It is the same relationship cougars crave for, in younger men – older ladies get excited and toy boys get enthralled. Both realizing their relationship is not going to last. Older men are sucked into believing that the relationship with young ladies would last forever; as some plan escape!

What is clear though, older men with young ladies last much longer than young men with older ladies. Reason: if young ladies stay long in the relationship nature holds them with children that are improbable from older ladies with young men. Try a Iara Oshiomhole or a Monica Lewinsky.

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icon8:
Then, fully clothed; now, half unclad. Amazing transition...

I tire oooo....... By d way God bless for having the eye to foresee the truth of today's celebrities

The world is like this..........

Their is no scientific study dat proves dat cutting or trimming facial hair makes it grow faster....check it out bro!

Ministry of health are just looking for a way to make money so they decided to put fear in big men heart.

Note me down any day that federal government & others contribute to fight this sickness (once the millions is paid) they will announce that that lassa fever has been defeated.

Likewise...ebola, cancers etc

May God forgive them and give understanding in Jesus name Amen....

Valentine Breakup. Two days to Val.

You don't even respect me. I'm talking and you are busy breathing? It's over!

You can add yours let's have fun. Let's go.....

I saw this on instagram. Pls kindly say something about this.

cruzita:
op u dey mad dia u hear .But truth be told u are right,some girls can be so dirty to the point that they will leave permanent odour anywhere they go,some cant cook ,the other day my friend cooked beans and the beans stand like boko haram ,oil and water be like say dem dey quarrel.

Lol..wat make me mad then?

CaroLyner:
who cares what they like and dislike.
we do what we want.

And dats ur biggest mistake, u beta take corrections now or u will regret it badly tomorrow

ShakurM:
I hope he does this if he finds out she's cheating too

Yes he should

Most ladies react blindly when they find out their partner is having an affair! They let fear, anger, hurt, or desire for revenge to compel them to do things they will later regret! things which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity advice they may later receive. Regardless of whether you decide to leave your husband or stay with him and try to work things out, doing the wrong thing at the beginning can complicate matters and make a bad situation worse. Let's look at 5 key things you SHOULDN'T do and examine the reasons why.

1. Don't put him out or leave him - yet. Instead of your first move, putting your husband out or leaving him should be your last resort. You may eventually decide to do this, but for now, it's the worst thing you can do. Right now you need to keep a close eye on what's going on. It'll be easier to do that if the two of you are still living g under the same roof. If you put him out or leave, you'll be hard-pressed to know what he's doing, short of hiring an investigator. As long as you're still together, you can keep your finger on the pulse of his affair and gather some much-needed facts.

There's a lot you need to know about the situation before you can make an intelligent decision about whether to go or to stay - and on what terms. Continue monitoring your husband's activities, his attitude, the frequency of his contact with his lover and any other details concerning his affair. Write everything down in a journal for future use. Also bear in mind that as long as he's still there, you have a chance to work things out.

2. Don't tell the whole world about his infidelity. It's natural to want to confide in somebody about your husband's affair, or rally friends and family to your side. But be very cautious about who you tell. The female friend you confide in could turn out to be the "other woman." Make sure you're confiding in someone you know you can trust.

Confiding in a male friend about your husband's affair could complicate the situation. There are men out there who take advantage of women when they're in a vulnerable state. Telling your husband's friends or family may not produce the results you want. They might not take you seriously. Or they may lie, make excuses for him, take his side, or warn him to cover his tracks. Confiding in your own family and friends can eventually come back to haunt you. Elephants aren't the only ones who never forget.

Some people have a tendency to remember unpleasant events long after they've been resolved. If you and your husband decide to reconcile, they could make things difficult by harboring anger and hostility toward him for what he did to you. Or they may show resentment toward you for taking him back. Exercise caution in who you tell about your husband's affair.

3. Don't ignore his affair or pretend it's not happening. Going into denial will only make matters worse. As traumatic as it is to find out that your husband has been cheating, you need to face the reality of the situation. Ignoring his infidelity gives him the go-ahead to continue his affair. Pretending it's not happening will make him think he's getting away with his cheating, or give him the impression that he has your silent approval.

At some point you should inform your husband that you know about his affair and make it clear that you want it to stop. The sooner you confront him about his cheating, the better. The longer you wait to bring it up and express your disapproval, the more attached he will become to the other woman. And the harder it will be to get your marriage back on track. Remember too, that affairs thrive in secrecy. Sometimes, just telling your husband you know about it, will be enough to put a stop to his affair.

4. Don't confront him without the 3 P's - Proof, a Plan, and a Purpose. Most experts agree that you should confront your husband about his cheating. But you need to have a plan. Choose the time and place carefully so you can discuss the affair at length without interruption. Do not ask your husband if he's cheating. Cheaters lie.

Present the evidence you've gathered that proves he's having an affair - names, dates, places, times, absences, phone calls, physical evidence, etc. Then ask him some pointed questions about his affair: why he did it, how it started, how long it's been going on, how he feels about the other woman, what he intends to do now that you know. Listen carefully to his answers so you can accurately assess the situation. Then you can make a wise decision about what course of action to take. Do not confront your husband without proof of his infidelity. It will only be a waste of time.

Unless you can prove he's been cheating, the information-gathering phase will never get off the ground. If you need proof, there's a way for you to get it without hiring a detective or buying software or surveillance equipment. "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs" will help you find all the proof you need using only your eyes and ears, your personal knowledge of your husband, and the information in this book. Or request the FREE Special Report on the 21 Categories of Telltale Signs.

5. Don't waste your time and energy on the other woman. One of the worst things you can do is become obsessed with the other woman. It's natural for you to be curious about her, but she's not worth your time and energy. Repeatedly questioning your husband about her, referring to her or dragging her name into the conversation puts the spotlight on her instead of on the real issues where it belongs. Don't obsess over the details of what happened between the two of them. Concentrate on working things out between the two of you.

Do not humiliate or frustrate yourself by calling or confronting the other woman and demanding that she leave your husband alone. She's not obligated to take orders from you. Harassing her or threatening her will put you on the wrong side of the law. Name-calling, criticizing or belittling her will only make your husband come to her defence.

You'll be driving them closer together instead of forcing them apart Forget about the other woman and focus your energy and efforts on getting your marriage back on track. Will you end up sabotaging your marriage or saving it? The final outcome depends on the way you handle things when you first discover your husband's affair. In the initial stages, you may be unsure exactly what you're going to do.

But at least you know what NOT to do. Whether you stay with your husband or leave him, avoiding these mistakes, leaves the way clear for whatever decision you eventually make.

1. Quarrelsome attitude some ladies can be so quarrelsome that they are always exchanging words with neighbours, market women, even siblings. This is so bad that sometimes whenever they go out with their guys, there is always a high probability of them picking quarrels over frivolities with the cabman or gateman.

Some of the ladies don't hesitate to dish out a generous dose of verbal abuse to their guys even in the open. You can imagine winking at your girl to calm down and eventually dragging her away with her struggling and shouting on top of her voice.

2. Stinginess Some ladies have never given a gift to their guys for once. You can use this coming valentine as case study. All the ladies are expecting gifts and some would frown, nag and complain if the gifts are not expensive enough and some go as far as ending the relationship if they get nothing.

But when you examine them closely, you will discover some of them are planning to buy handkerchief and singlet. Ladies get a good gift for your man often, it won't kill you.

3. Chronic borrowers some ladies virtually owe almost everybody they come across, from the hair dresser to the food vendor to the cloth seller. They borrow from friends, colleagues and neighbours with no intention of paying back.

They keep giving excuses and dodging till the debtors lose hope. When you go through text messages of this ladies, you will see all manner of threats from different people. Some of the lenders trace their office or house and disgrace them or forcefully carry their properties while others approach their man and demand fro their money and often embarrass the man in the process.

4. Untidiness some ladies are so unkempt that their rooms are unkempt. Come into their rooms and you will see their bra and panties of different colours scattered all over the house, strands of hair from their weavon littered everywhere, make-up and Nigerian films on the floor.

Some of their hair nets smell so much that you can imagine how the hair itself smells. Imagine a scenario where a lady pulls her panties and a foul odour oozes out and keeps smelling hours after the lady had left.

5. Non-independent ladies some ladies rarely do anything or buy anything for themselves unless a guy does that. It's nice to get attention and receive gifts or help but ladies should not make it a habit to depend on guys to do everything for them. You can imagine where a lady will never call her guy....always flashing.

They manage to call only when they want to demand for something. You will see a lady that has never subscribed for data by herself ( I can remember those days a lady will update, "BIS about to expire" on her pm). I can understand the situation of someone being broke but I know most of these ladies have plenty money cooling in their account. Ladies surprise your guys by cooking with your own money for once. Don't wait for him to come back and give you N500 when you have thousands in your purse.

6. Incessant Lying some ladies lie so often that you don't know when they are serious anymore. Some exaggerate their background and wealth of their parents, prices of their personal belongings just to feel among.

Imagine a lady boasting she doesn't eat anyhow only for you to jam her in a local buka or she brags that she only shops in boutiques and wears just designers and you sight her at a popular bend down select. Some lie that they are virgins and some even lie that they are pregnant just to extort money from their guys. Ladies try and be real and natural and the guys will appreciate you for that.

7. Terrible cooks I once heard a story of a newly married wife that would collect money from the husband in the pretext of cooking food only for her to buy a full pot of soup or stew from a restaurant and present to the husband when he returns from work. This went on for a while till her husband found out. This goes out to all this fastfood ladies that can barely prepare a decent jellof rice or even indomie noodles.

Men will respect you more when you know your onions in the kitchen. Imagine when your guy refusing food on occasions or when he hangs out with friends because he knows you always prepare something special.

8. Poor dressers To the ladies, you have to have at least an average dress sense. Some of you wonder why your guys don't take you out at all or take you out only at nights. A guy might love you for other qualities but detest the way you dress. Some ladies look like a masquerade after applying heavy and make-up. Some wear dirty clothes and cover up with heavy perfume.

Some always wear one outfit or footwear because it looks fine on them while others don't mix colours well. When you have a good dress sense, your guys will always show you off, go everywhere with you and introduce you to everybody. Even casual and female friends will be proud to be associated with you because you are always representing.

May God help d youths of nowadays, its not easy for us at all

hungryboy:
My guy,
Girlfriend too cost to maintain,
Olosho na fvck and pay,
But vaseline na only 50naira dem dey sell am,
Tell me which one a broke guy like me will go for?

Guy you too make sense

I love your colleague's pant

sickstars:
Why do guys too pack their d*ck with their hands while walking or standing we need an explanation too

Go and make it a topic, I guess

Diddyydiva:
Nairaland don turn hospital ba ?




well those are the symptoms of HIV, Malaria and Jaundice join together



I'd advise you ask your lecturer for drugs you will take

Lol take it easy on her.
Experience is the best teacher
Tho its only the best teacher wen u are alive to tell the story

QueenValerie:
No!! I winked ta let you know I was playin'.
I go the way of Love,I'd like ta be inlove.

But u are not inlove yet, right?

xender:
u yarn ur own....as 4 me Iyam a VIGINITY..

Lol viginity Ke, abeg come let me lend u my English textbook
Dia is love in sharing

There are still faithful young men just like me.

Herald47:
I repeat,anybody that is not jealous of anambra state is an enemy of progress.

Sorry jealousy is a sin, we're ought to return all d glory to the almighty cuz he is d only one who deserve it.... Upgrade ur mentality pls.