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I can only speak of my personal experience as an American black woman married to an Ibo man who isn't very hard to please at all, and he's not demanding but he has a REALanger problem. He is easily angered and it takes him sometimes WEEKS to come down from his anger, I've never seen anyone like this before. We've been married for 8-1/2 years and he doesn't work and doesn't want to, even the mention of work brings on an argument, he just wants to sit on his ass all day playing on Facebook and Twitter displaying pictures of how well he's living in the U.S. I've read that Ibo men believe in taking care of their families, well-not in my case. I take very good care of him (he's not complaining) because I married him and he is my husband despite the fact that he doesn't want to work. He's not a citizen, just a permanent resident but his personality changed just at becoming a resident! His family never calls us to see how we are fairing but I've been supporting his mother financially for 8 years. Sex the lack of sex has been an ongoing issue, but I'm now used to it and no longer complain because that wont keep a marriage together anyway and besides, I've lost interest because he's always in a bad, negative mood, and he calls himself a "man of God". There's not much laughter in our marriage, we don't go anywhere together and we don't do anything together and he loves to threaten to divorce me because he's bored, well.... he should get a job so that we can have money to go places and do things because I'm spent out!!! This man has awaken the devil in me. Anyway, it is what it is I guess, my advice to any woman thinking of marrying a Nigerian (esp. if he claims to be a man of God) RUN! I got a bad apple indeed, and the funny thing about it is he claims to hate Nigerian women, he calls them money hungry

I think they marry these woman for GREENCARDS ONLY! American Moo -Moo's, just because the color of the womans skin is white or fair doesn't make her more of a woman than a dark skin woman, besides, there are many fair skin Nigerian woman in Nigeria. IMO many are just fascinated by the white skin color because it's a rarity in Nigeria and when all of the "newness" wares off, and they have just enough American experience to "upgrade" themselves, they dump the American Moo-Moo, run back to Africa to flash their American particular's to some poor willing village girl and marry there. I know many won't like my post, but I've seen this time and time again.