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UnfairLife7:
So you expect her to please you over her biological mother and family?

She told me that I will do the same thing for my mother.

I told her that I will not murder my own child because of my mother.

sw24:
You are correct, I meant the parents of the girl could interprete the pregnancy as rape . Will edit

You guys talk anyhow sometimes. How can pregnancy with an adult be interpreted as rape.

dannykares:
Bro listen to me if yr galfrnd allow herself for abortion kindly tell her to remain with her Mom and end the relationship , bcuz if both can kill unborn child then marrying her won't be save 4 u

Same thing my sister and everybody is saying. That my life is at risk dealing with this kind of family.

The girl just told me that she did it for the sake of her mother. So, if killing me will make her mother happy, she will do it.

Fountainofyouth:
If she's truly rhesus d negative that means she would have still had a miscarriage, she's suppose to take an injection in the first month of the pregnancy that will keep the baby to term.

No. The injection is to be taking at the 6th month and after delivery. We were visiting a standard hospital

HarunaWest:
You didn't get married to her properly before impregnating her, you I.pregnated her and brought shame upon their family and you are here claiming right. If it were your own daughter, will you wish such predicament upon her?
Ask yourself this question.

This is not new. You guys should stop sound politically correct.

The shame of being barren for years is worst than the shame of getting pregnant before marriage.

Oladeleenoch:
Besides some mother do family planning for their daughter especially when they got admission into university hope you know what they're trying to avoid. Just move on brother, you only got one life to live

Doing family planning is different from doing abortion. The girl is in a cross road now. The baby has refused to come out, they only keep giving her injections.

I told her from the beginning the risk of doing abortion. People should understand that everyone does not have the same luck. Some people can do abortion multiple times and still conceive anytime any day. Some will try it once and it will damage their wombs.

Some lose their life committing abortion. It is a very big risk I wasn't ready to take. But since the mother is confident enough to do it, let them live with the consequences

djon78:
Una go just dey throw this Love word around like you understand what it means

That's how one guy did introduction of one of my relatives very responsible girl and then got her pregnant

But was messing up the young girls Life

But her God saved her
She had miscarriage at 6 months

Later we found out he wanted to tie the girl down with the pregnancy
But God saved her

She saw the guy was not straight forward
Returned home and was heart broken

We consoled her
A year later
A US based pharmacist married same girl
She told the guy everything that happened even the pregnancy

The pharmacist no send
Married her and relocated her to the US


That's how the guy would have messed the responsible girls Life up
If not for the miscarriage that saved her from future pains and regrets

The mother was saving that girl

She might not be saving the girl as you think. I am not irresponsible. You nairaland people are just impossible.

Oladeleenoch:
The best thing for you to do brother is to let this slide and walk away peacefully. You don't have any right to fight legally, the woman can accuse you of raping her daughter in the court of law.
Remember you're still doing boyfriend and girlfriend and from the girl chat she never want the baby too although she might be dancing to her mother tone, in order to avoid problems for yourself just walk away, if truly you love the girl genuinely the justice of God will never leave her @ peace.

I have moved on. I will definitely marry someone else and give birth to children legitimately.

That family is not where any sane person would marry. I am more than capable financially to take care of this girl. I have been taking care of her even before she took in.

She's been receiving good medical care all along before the mother decided to call her back. I hope she makes it out of the clinic unscathed.

maasoap:
I just hope that the abortion goes well and it is not done by quack. Otherwise, the consequences she will face years to come won't have remedy. I know many women like that, abortions of unwanted pregnancies carried out by quack doctors turned their wombs into barren land

The girl just called me. They have been injecting drugs on her but the baby isn't coming out.

She keeps having cramps. She said the doctor told the mother that something isn't opening. I don't know what that is.

But this girl runs a risk of having complicated abortion.

Right now, the baby has been damaged with all the injections, so keeping the baby is no longer an option.

The girl is Rhesus 'D' Negative. I am positive, meaning that our blood don't match. I hope the baby's blood don't mix with hers while they are doing all these. I just pity the girl because the mother will destroy her future for her.

securitywatch50:
Personal I don't support what your mother-in-law did, but you cursed it.

Why will you impregnate a girl you have not paid her dowry not to talk of marriage and you happy talking trash online.
If she is your sister you will clap for her.

If she was my sister and she loves the guy and the guy loves her and he is willing and capable of taking care of mother and child, I will let the marriage hold.

Shokoloko:
What kind of nonsense.
Ask your parents right now to call hers and give her parents a date to come for introduction.
There is a wrong stigma attached to single motherhood.
You know exactly what to do to fix it.
Four months was enough time to have gone to see her parents yet you opted to take her to the hospital.

Did you read the entire article? I have gone to see her parents already. The girl just confirmed to me that she never wanted the baby.
So, I guess I don't have anything to fight for again.

Jeon:
Yes, I supported it. However "Men don't benefit anything from Marriage " ,but it's the other way round.


Marriage by mistake more like trapped marriage . And you will always remember her that you did her a favor by marrying her because of pregnancy, when the 5sec love fade away
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Why did you not use your real moniker?. You don't want to disappoint you redpills clan?.

You obviously have a problem with men. Bye.

We were in a relationship already.

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.

If you support this as a woman, then there's a problem.

We can fix date and get married. People have been doing it for ages. I love this girl and she loves me too.

She wanted the baby, reason she has agreed to keep it until this time

I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action