Ishilove:
What a family!

Next time, please always go to God in prayer before committing to a person. It will save you a world of pain.

You dodged a bullet there. You said the mum is a member of Deeper Life?

Former Redeem, present Mountain of Fire.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Indeed, Benefit boy.

You don't have to post for likes. Below is my social media management gig on Fiverr.

maasoap:

You have collected your phone, don't stalk her. Find new relationship and move on. They want you in their life, the message is clear enough.

I ain't but I needed that information to know how to guard myself. She's blocked everywhere on all my social media platforms.

XOGBADO:
You dodged a bullet. God saved you my bro.

I can't thank him enough

caesymore:
Boom Dig_It!!!

You Dodged a bullet Man. Imagine having such a scam as your mother in-law. They go gaslight you taya, most of these girls and their family members can't afford the kind of life style they ask us for.

Ordinary phone she no get sef, my fellow Men una dey mad me. Why marry a liability there are many humble, professionals ladies out there with good jobs praying to God for a man like you to come their way.

A man is the price and a caring and considerate Man like you sound is the ultimate price, act and carry yourself that way, next thing you are gonna post here is a testimony.

Where can I meet such professional ladies.

maasoap:

Move on with your life without her in it. She does not worth it. She may look back one day and curse her mother if that decision turned out to be her greatest mistake in life

Stopping her education is already telling on her. What the mother told her is that she's travelling abroad but the truth is, they can't afford her schooling bills.

I hope she doesn't remain idle for the next three years.

UyaiIncomparabl:
What I could deduce from your story is that you are a BENEFIT BOY A.k.a A BOMBING BOY A.ka. A YAHOO BOY. Else, what did you mean by "my clients' accounts and many Instagram accounts? What do you use them for? What do you do as a job? Stop whining and get over yourself, abeg. At least, get a genuine job for starters.

Also please ehn, next time, consider dating women from 25 years and above. Leave the under 24-year-old girls to enjoy their youths and maximize their potentials. But, no. You men are always looking for fresh bodies, tight holes and young girls to colonize and train.

Get a life, abeg. Serves you right.

I'm not a yahoo boy. I am a social media manager. I work on Fiverr. Thank you.

Stevenbright:
God saved you.

Most Nigerians are wicked. Just imagine! They are taking advantage of your resources and yet planning evil against you!

Next time go for a girl who is ready to settle down. This is always the likely outcome when you go for a girl that is still in school or not yet ready to settle down. Infact, at that stage every man that comes into their life is taking advantage of to better their life and get what their parents can't provide for them.

My brother, I just wish I can upload the audio recording of this girl's calls with her mother. It was so despicable and evil. The whole event looked like a nollywood scene to me. I never believed a girl and a family like that exist

Robinmido:
Never you trust or believe a woman that is crying

The same crying that she used to get me into the mess that I found myself.

When I met her, she told me she was a virgin. After stressing my life for nothing, she agreed to have sex with me. After the sex, she was asking me why she didn't bleed. Lol.

Is it the girl that should be asking the guy while she didn't bleed or it should be the other way round. I didn't even bother asking much questions regarding that because I know she's no virgin. A girl that's extremely sexually experienced.

While the relationship was on, messages from guys she had sexual relationship with keep popping up. One day, I called her to tell me the truth about her past or she should forget about relationship or any future with me because if I can't trust her to tell me her past, I definitely can't trust her in anything.

She just cried herself out of my house, ran to my sister's place shedding crocodile tears, that I have deflowered her, now I want to breakup with her.

My sister called me, saying a whole lot of things. Trying to put herself in the girl's shoes.

That's how I continued the relationship even when I have several doubts about the sincerity and genuineness of the person I'm dealing with.

Cc

Ishilove
Luminouz
Seun
Originalsly
Maasoap
samwillyco1
sulakishop
occfx
Foodqueen
almarthins

The breaking news of it all is that the girl has quit her education. She's back to Port Harcourt and never coming back to Lagos. The reason she quit is simply because I withdrew my support. The parents lack what it takes to train that girl in a public school like yabatech, yet they keep talking about sending her abroad to school like it's free.

Before the pregnancy thing, the mother called her one day and was telling her that the reason she was in that school is because of me and one of her brothers. The mother didn't know that the girl was in my house, and that I was hearing her. The girl can't tell her to stop talking because she doesn't want her mother to know that she's in my house.

The girl had intention of traveling to Port Harcourt with my phone. When I got to her hostel on that 23rd, she told me that the reason she hasn't gotten back to me is because she has been ill. That she does not think that she will even travel again. Whereas, she has already booked her bus ticket to travel on the 25th. I found this out when I logged in to her email.

Fortunately, my media files were not deleted. My pictures, audio and video files are all in tact. I saw pictures and videos she took while in the hospital, killing our baby. She was taking pictures and videos and forwarding them to her friends and roommates. I don't know that a girl will be so foolish to not only make videos and pictures of her committing a crime as evil as abortion of a four months old baby, but also forwarded them to her friends. Maybe, abortion is now something worth celebrating.

But those were not the catch for me. The main catch for me are the audio recordings of the calls she had with her mother after I visited their house. Till now, I don't know why she had to record her calls with her mother, but the recorded calls gave me a clearer picture of what the plan was from them all along.

The mother doesn't like my tribe and the church that I attend. She told her that I have money but doesn't want to send her abroad. The mother wants me to marry her and send her abroad immediately to school. This is a girl that her entire family put together couldn't pay her school fees of less than 100k at once. She had to make part payment first and only completed the payment during her exam time. It was obvious the girl was in the relationship for what she was gaining and plan to gain.

The most shocking of it all was when the mother told her that the marriage is cancelled but she shouldn't tell me that so there wouldn't be any problem at all. That while I'm begging and training her daughter in school, she will be processing her visa underground until she travels out, leaving me hanging after wasting my time and money.

She didn't know that the daughter was pregnant as at the time she was saying all of this. On the day I collected my phone, that the daughter called her crying, she acted surprise that I wonder if they are foolish, do they think that everyone is foolish too?

The woman called my sister, telling her that this is not how we were, that we were family friends, that what changed? My sister told her that that question should be thrown at them instead.

When I got home, I dropped the phone inside my room and went to work. When I came back, immediately I connected the phone to the Internet, the phone starting rebooting and when it restarted, every app on my phone got wiped out.

It happened that when I told her that I want to collect my phone, instead of her and her evil brother to think of how to get her another phone, she instead logged me out of my phone and logged herself in. So, when I collected the phone, she used the 'Find My Device " feature to reset the phone to factory settings, thereby making me lose all my Gmail accounts, my clients Instagram accounts, and every app that I had installed on the phone. The major reason I collected the phone from her... My logins.

At first, I was confused on how possible it was for them to do that, until I opened my laptop and see that I am still logged in to her Gmail on there. That's when I saw the email message they received when they initiated the factory reset process. I just forwarded the email to myself for future reference.

So, I have been meaning to create this thread as a follow up of my earlier thread but have been procrastinating.

The girl returned back to Lagos on 15th of December after successfully terminating the 17th weeks old pregnancy. I brought her to my house after some days so I can collect my items with her.

She told me how the whole abortion thing went and how it was her decision to terminate the baby after the doctors asked her several times if she is sure of going ahead with the abortion and how the survival rate is 50/50.

I think the reason she told me it was her decision is because I kept calling her mother out as an evil woman, so she wants to shift the blame to herself. She said the mother said that she has two options. To either terminate the baby and continue her education or keep the baby and quit her education. She even told me that if she even decides to keep the baby, that I will never set my eyes on the child.

After all the sob stories and crocodile cries, I just collected my house key from her. I wanted to collect my phone but she pleaded with me to give her time to get another phone. That she will talk with her brother and get back to me. That she uses the phone to get information on WhatsApp about her school and all. So, I left the phone for her.

That decision to leave the phone for her was my greatest mistake. This girl left my house and never initiated any form of communication with me ever. On 20th of December, I texted her on WhatsApp that she should never leave Lagos without informing me. Because she told me she was travelling back to Port Harcourt once their school closes to take care of her health. She was stinking drugs the day she came to my house and was taking different types of drugs every minute.

On 23rd of December, I felt I had given her enough time. She wasn't in any form of communication with me yet she's holding unto my phone, definitely using it to hook up with other guys. And besides, her school has vacated already. I called her up and jokingly asked if she doesn't miss me and all, just to make her suspect nothing.

I pulled over in her hostel and she came out. I asked for my phone, removed her sim card and gave it to her. She was crying and pleading that I should allow her take some of her school files in the phone. I told her to go get her laptop so she can take her files. I was waiting in the car when she came out with her roommate and the brother was on the call with her roommate's phone. She said that the brother wants to talk to me, I told her that I don't have anything to talk with the brother. The next thing, the roommate brought the phone closer to my ear and put it on loud speaker. The brother was shouting on the phone saying that this rubbish is did this morning... Blah blah blah. The rubbish I did was collecting my phone from a girl whose family rejected my marriage proposal to their daughter and aborted my four months plus old foetus. That, is it because he's been keeping quite. These two statements are all I heard when I started my car and drove off. That his brother is way too young to talk to me anyhow simply because I got into a relationship with her sister.

Ishilove:

Fact is they never viewed or accepted you as a potential in-law because if they did, they will not go to such great lengths to erase any long term connection between their daughter and you.

That's exactly what they did. It's good I didn't leave them without a scar. Because no matter what, the scar of this abortion will remain with that girl and her family for life.

I have never seen this type of family before. Some of my siblings were against the union simply because they are from River state. With everything that happened, they seemed justified.

I have learned a great deal of lesson here.

luminouz:

Exactly. But the way he is talking on NL signifies that he might be too weak to tell her off.

Bro, you can tell the way I sounded from the beginning. I can't be too weak to tell such a girl off.

But when someone has a lot of information they can use to hurt you, you have to thread carefully.

I want to catch her unaware.

luminouz:


If you accept her back, then you are the greatest fuul on earth. The fact that you are even being lenient about the whole issue is annoying. You should have broken off ties with a two-faced snake like that. She is not someone who has your back. And the whole family are hypocrites!! Imagine saying the Grace before killing someone. WTF!!!

I won't and I'm not being lenient about it. I just want to break up with her in such a way that I don't have too much bitterness in me so it doesn't affect my relationship with the next girl.

Foodqueen:


It's like u still av the mind to continue the relationship till she breaks up with you finally.

Wow! Just wow!!

Not at all. The girl is still with my old phone. All my important logins are still there. I just want to get my phone from her and leave.

Shokoloko:

You went to see her parents WITH WHO?
Did you go with an ELDER?
Did the Elder (not you) provide a firm date to her parents? Don't know your culture but in mine the man goes with an elder and gives a date for introduction. After introduction the elder then asks for a date for traditional wedding.
Bottom line is that you cannot proceed with marriage alone.

It is good you are asking questions and not making statements.

Because, most people here make comments with limited information and it's difficult clearing their views.

Yes, I went with an elder and a wine, but that visitation didn't end well. It's a long story.

The mother is too toxic and the daughter isn't any different.

Ishilove:

I did mention she is complicit, and there you have proof.

The girl just texted my sister this morning that the abortion has been successful. People are just impossible.

Imagine her telling me that she needs my support now than ever. Jeez.

They even prayed in the church before commencing the abortion. Wow.

Well, it has all ended. Although I don't want to end things with her so abruptly so she doesn't plot evil against me.

You know, some people's thinking can be ridiculous. This girl might at the end of the day, play the victim card, claim that I got her pregnant that led to her doing the abortion and abandoned her.

I need to play safe as much as possible. She was asking me from the hospital bed what is the way forward? Hahaha.

I don't know how I got myself involved with this type of girl and family.

Kwinity:
Op say the truth that u never planned to marry the girl. Anyways, i support the mama cos ur delay is suspicious. Who knows if she's the breadwinner of the family? Its not easy for mothers oh! I have no negative thoughts about the woman, na u Bleep up!

Who do you think is the greatest loser in all of this?

Day 3 and the girl is still in the hospital receiving injection upon injection.

Klounge:
You're mad I'm. Sorry.. But whose mother would be happy that her child got pregnant out of wedlock? If u love her why didn't you marry her? U got her pregnant cos u want the baby u wanted to marry her which by the way Is a wrong way of marrying someone... Marrying cos of a child might something u will later regret..

This is not the first case and will not be the last. Some marriages contracted like this still stand.

maasoap:


The mother could be ruining her while she believes that she's saving her.
And about your responsible relative girl, the guy even did introduction before pregnancy. That's a failed marriage and it has nothing similar to this case at all.
Let me tell you that of my niece. She was impregnated by a man, she was with us until she delivered the baby. We didn't abort it but we didn't let her pack into the man's house. And the girl wasn't even 22 like this one, she was in SS2 (like 17 years old) at the time. In about three years after that, we gave in to their demand to be living together as husband and wife. They're still together today. And that first pregnancy has finished his secondary school education.
In a situation like this, wisdom and patience is needed. The girl is 22, not underage. Why taking a rash decision of destruction? The guy is ready to take full responsibility, so why being negative about the outcome? What is the mother's plan for her daughter after the abortion? I'm sure she has none

The school that this girl attends, I foot most of the bills. There's no plan other than for the girl to come back to continue her education and of course, without me in the picture anymore.

occfx:


Dump the girl, dump the family and move. If you marry from that kind family, you go suffer

I have already. I'm just afraid right now if the girl will make it out of the hospital alive. I really do wish she does.

GAZZUZZ:


You are broke, and becoming a father in 2023.

Make money , have money, now one will terminate your pregnancy if you are comfortable.

Make money.

Lol.

I am not broke bro, I am not.

I am way better financially than the family that I'm dealing with. The girl is just unfortunate to have an evil mother.

Gazzuz, you even know me personally as I do buy Mobil 1 from you. You cannot use me and being broke in the same sentence.

Kingson28:
Granted, aborting the foetus is wrong and sinful.
But having sex with a lady whose parents have not married off to you is senseless and sinful too.
You are a thief to have slept with someone’s daughter, without her parents’ consent and approval via marriage.
You people should use your senses and conscience more.
STOP FORNICATING!
Give your life to Jesus Christ.

He who calls his brother "A FOOL" shall be liable to HELLFIRE

luminouz:


It hasn't been removed, you pûnk!! The girl's in the hospital fighting for her life as we speak. They are pumping her full of injections that do nothing. It's the third day!!

I just pray she doesn't lose her life.

And the hospital they took her looks like a cheap one. The injections are already getting her weak... I'm scared

almarthins:


Her mother is in charge of the ladys life. She is may be smart but not smart enough to understand that she just murdered a human being.

Murdered a child and put her daughter at risk.

Tomorrow will make it the third day that the girl will be in the clinic and nothing has been done. Just injections...

UnfairLife7:
you have all these attributes as you claim, and the best you could do is to impregnate someone's daughter?

Are you just trying to be smart by half? Pregnancy happened unplanned. Stop acting dull

Foodqueen:


No matter what happens, don't take her back

Her mother plans to marry her off to a rich man.

I pray she do. But the truth is, this girl is no match to me in all ramifications. I'm not doing bad financially, I am well educated and physically attracted.

So, there's no justification for rejecting me if that's the case.

sw24:


A lady is supposed to be married as a maiden . Impregnating her without marriage, is like kidnapping the girl from her parents or plucking a flower from someone's garden without their permission. You are supposed to fulfill all traditional rites and children will come as a blessing. Every parent wants the honour of being properly informed and courted before marriage.
In some cultures, the elders won't accept dowry once a lady is pregnant.
You were wrong.

When you have a girl, you will understand.

Two wrongs will make it right I suppose?

UnfairLife7:
So you expect her to please you over her biological mother and family?

She told me that I will do the same thing for my mother.

I told her that I will not murder my own child because of my mother.