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[i][/i]I totally agree with you on this. I fully trusted and respected my husband and our vows but to find out three day after I lost our baby boy he was cheating on me was even more devastating to me as if I lost him too. Men don't realize how much of an impact cheating has on a woman that does honor their marriage. It can leave a big empty void that is hard to get over and sometimes fil.

pslm23:
You have lied to yourself and made yourself believe that you truly love your wife! A lot of men who defend their wayward lifestyles are always quick to scream I LOVE MY WIFE, BUT THIS CHEATING IS IN MY GENES, I CAN'T HELP MYSELF! Puleasseeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!! Cheating is a disease, like taking cocaine and other hard drugs. But that habit, like drugs can be kicked if the DETERMINATION is there! If you know your wife is your missing rib and the center of your being, if you know she compliments you as a man, if you know she's the best wife and mother any man can ever ask for, if she still has ALL the qualities you ever wanted in a woman, then dude, you have absolutely no reason to go boinking any other woman! You are a selfish man and honestly, you ought to be ashamed of yourself for even starting this thread by proclaiming undying love for your wife and then add that you are a serial cheat!

I'm sorry if this is a bit harsh, but i truly have zero tolerance for cheating men! Tell me, when you are on top of another woman, do you see your wife's face? when you are kissing another woman, does an image of your beautiful wife cross your mind? when you place your lips on another woman's mammary glands, do you imagine they are your wife's?
Why bother get married in the first place if hopping from aisha to bisi to nkiru to Jezebel was what you truly wanted to do? I don't know if you are Christian or Muslim but i want to believe that when you got married you both SWORE on the HOLY BOOK to remain faithful to each other, hmmmmmmm, are you now mocking God and your vows? you know the Bible says there's a special place in HELL for men that cheat?

Bottom line, go home to your wife, look at her, remember why you love her, tell her your weakness, tell her you've cheated on her for probably the duration of your marriage and ask her to forgive you. Then make the f'ing effort to STOP all that mess! You don't know where the end will meet you, it better not be with a ho0ker.

Yesterday on TV, I watched a shocking news story that happened in Philadelphia. A man had been cheating on his wife and one day, this girlfriend went to her married lovers house and fired 3 shots at his wife and kids as she was bringing groceries out the car. Two bullets struck the woman in the stomach and one hit their infant daughter .....

MEN, CHEATING ON YOUR WIVES PUTS THEM, YOUR KIDS AND HOME IN MORTAL DANGER

Good evening people, I have been reading some of your comments and post. Some was shocking and some reminded me of my own situations that I am experiencing with my own husband. At first he was so loving and we enjoyed each other company. Meet couple of so called friends that seemed to disappear as time went by. I became pregnant and that's when he started talking about marriage. I wasn't ready for a child at the time cause my career had just took a turn for me. Finally got my promotion on my job. I was employed at a mental hospital and worked with behavior adolescent. As time went by he still talked about marriage and he didn't want his child to come and we wasn't married. He pointed out that we had to get married to start the paperwork process for his citizenship so he can be a provider for us. Still hesitant and confused I agreed to marry him. After that a month later I lost my job due to the complications of my pregnancy. We married in June 2014 and he applied for citizenship in July 2014. Lost my baby July 2014. Three days after I lost my child found out he was cheating on me with four different women. During that time I had to plan my baby funeral on my own and the best advise he could give me was " Cheer up God will grant you to have another one." Went through the interview in October 2014 and that ended up a complete disaster. Come to find out all the things he told me about himself was a lie. So yes the interviewer pulled me back in the office and asked me how much was he paying me. Like really, it became so painfully obvious that this man I married and actually vowed to love didn't love me at all. But through the deception and dishonesty I tried to work things out with my marriage. I suggested marriage counseling but he never had the time. His work permit came and that's when things took even more turn for the worst. He found a job that he worked for a month then quiet and the excuse for that is it was not enough money for him and he didn't even tell me. And then three times he did this and told me what he do is his business not mine. As time goes by he became so heartless towards me that he would tell me not to touch the income in our joint account without asking him but I have direct deposit with my job. So I closed the account and open up my own personal account. He became so upset about it. After that I really started paying attention to details and things he would do and say to me. This man has literally broken my trust in marriage and tarnished my thoughts on ever trusting love again.

I try to see the good in everyone as I was thought as a young child and he took that and played on me and my emotions. Cheated on me with numerous women and even found emails of pictures and conversations of him promising Nigerian women to bring them here when he get his citizenship paperwork completed. But yet he walks around our home as if he has not a care in the world and treats me like a dog in the streets. I have done everything this man has asked of me. Done everything that a good wife is supposed to do. So you tell me how am I supposed to feel now? I know not everyone is the same but my heart is feeling something different.