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Are you single and waiting to be found? Then this is for you. Stop wishing it could be you boogeying with your prince charming next Saturday or envying your friends when they tell you their wedding has been fixed and start doing something about getting yourself hooked too.

Here’s how to make yourself irresistible for the right man to come calling!

Build yourself up. Please whoever told you that most men prefer a pretty woman with no brains was definitely lying to you. Most men like women that have something to offer intellectually not one who can’t carry on an intelligent conversation when you go out with his friends. So start getting interested in news, current affairs, politics, history, world affairs, etc. you don’t have to know everything, just enough to flow during discussions and your man will find you irresistible.

Work on your confidence: Confidence is a very attractive garment and one sure ingredient in every irresistible woman. Build your confidence by dressing well, taking good care of your skin and hair, looking beautiful and doing things that make you feel confident.

Polish your social skills and etiquette: If you don’t know how to use your cutlery now is the time to learn. Please look it up on google and polish your skills. We don’t want him to take you out and be embarrassed by you holding a fork on your right hand and knife on your left. Learn how to speak in public, how to be respectful to elders, how to make your opinions without being too controversial or assertive, how to sit in public and how to relate with people.

Get in tune with fashion: You need to step up your game! Get more fashionable but please do it within the confines of modesty and morality. We don’t want you wearing indecent stuff just to get noticed. Just make sure your look is trendy, fashionable and catchy! It will make you more likely to be noticed and urmm…irresistible!

Find a passion or learn a skill: Your man must find you while you are busy doing something worthwhile just like Jacob found Rachael while she was out watering her father’s flocks. That’s what will make you irresistible. So if you don’t have one yet this is the best way to find your passion or develop a skill like designing clothes, blogging, professional makeup, bead or hat making, volunteering for charity works, advocacy, etc.

Become committed to a cause in church: It’s not enough to be a church goer step it up by joining a department or forming a group in church. Find a group that suits your interest and become committed. If you’re a doctor you could form a group to provide free medical services once in a month or as a lawyer you could have a group for Human rights activities like assisting children suffering domestic violence, etc. If you’re neither of the above have you ever considered starting a soup kitchen? Thank me later…***winks.

Start reading up books on marriage: This can never be overemphasized. You need to be prepared and how else but through books and tapes on marriage. You should even attend relevant seminars and get all available information that will help you in marriage. You can also use this time to start learning parenting skills by babysitting for a sibling or friend. When your time comes you will be more than ready.

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You are not ready for marriage

A single lady who was down and out on her luck went to a fortune teller, hoping to find a reason to continue living. The fortune teller found something positive in her future and told the single lady, ‘You will be proposed to 3 times in the next 6 months.’ She said, ‘No, it will only happen once.’ When asked why, she said ‘Cos I’ll accept the very first proposal and there’d be no need for the other two!’

I found this an interesting story because many people have gotten to a point when they have had to say this especially due to pressure from family and society.

I attended a couple of weddings lately. As in eh, ladies, we really know how to have fun with ourselves. Underneath the facade of just looking good in their bridesmaid dresses and asoebis was the age-long scheme of all womankind. I noticed the coy looks under the smoky eyelashes. Was it the flirtatious giggles or the fake British accents in singsong voices? Everybody had something planned to catch new suitors. Yes, it was all about the new catches. It was all about being the next in line.

One of the new acquaintances I made asked me a question. He may have been at loss on how to make meaningful conversation but I found his question quite interesting. He asked me what age I feel a lady should be ready to get married. My first response was a long grin which I’m sure made him feel embarrassed. Then I laughed out loud and asked him, ‘ready or ripe?’ He was just as perplexed as you are now. I went ahead to remind him that his question applied to both sexes. That inspired this post. The question is, are you ripe or ready for marriage?

Think about it this way…

Do you have a life-sized chip on your shoulders, always thinking that your opinion is the best and your decision ought to be final. Are u more likely to throw a tantrum once someone disagrees with you? Then you are ripe, not ready for marriage.

Do you always need someone to make decisions for you and somehow you have come to believe that your future depends on someone else? Then you are ripe, not ready for marriage.

Do you need someone who will meet all your financial needs? Then you are ripe not ready for marriage

Are you more excited about the wedding than the marriage? Sure the beautiful ring, white gown and cake are alluring but when the dress comes off and all the well wishers are gone then starts the real thing. If you’ve not spent time thinking about that part then you’re ripe, not ready for marriage.

If you’re doing it just because all your friends are getting married too then I guess I don’t need to tell you that you’re ripe, not ready for marriage.

If you’re not ready to put someone’s needs first before yours then you’re definitely ripe, not ready for marriage.

Suddenly it doesn’t matter anymore what he does for a living, whether you love him or whether he really loves you…lady, you’re ripe, not ready for marriage.

Are you thinking about your family and what they are likely to benefit from your marriage? Then you’re ripe, not ready for marriage.

Are you more concerned about appending the ‘Mrs’ to your name than the character of the ‘Mr’? Then you are ripe, not ready for marriage.

Have you started overlooking that character flaw that causes you to have a nagging feeling in your mind? You may just be ripe, not ready for marriage.

Marriage requires mental maturity and not just physical maturity (I’m not encouraging #child marriage by the way). Mental maturity requires the ability to make decisions after considering important factors and to stand by your decisions. Think about it!

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Every woman knows the importance of healthy looking skin. The vision of a lady with smooth, silky, gleaming, radiating skin devoid of pimples, blemishes and warts is one that can linger in your memory for a long time but one look at a lady with rough skin, acne and spots can really put anybody off. The question is how can you get your skin to look beautiful without using over-rated chemical treatments or breaking the bank?

Here are four simple tips.

Drink Water:

Drinking six to eight glasses of water everyday enables the toxins from your body to get flushed out, causing the skin to look fresh and is important for overall good health because water aids in digestion, circulation, absorption and even excretion. Also, the skin is made up of cells. Skin cells, like all other cells in the body are made up of water. Without water, the body organs will not function properly and certainly not at their optimum, therefore you need to keep your skin hydrated.

If your skin is not getting the sufficient amount of water, the lack of hydration will make your skin dry, tight and flaky. Dry skin has less resilience and is prone to wrinkling. Water moisturizes your skin, keeps it fresh, soft, glowing and smooth. It gets rid of wrinkles and is the best anti-aging treatment yet known!

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Watch what you eat:

Ladies, what you put in your mouth is as if not more important than the products you apply on your skin! Oily foods and junk foods will soon make your skin look old and drawn. Proteins, fruits and vegetables are great for your skin and will leave you looking fresh and beautiful always.

Get enough sleep:

Do ensure you get at least eight hours of sleep every day. Stress caused by sleep deprivation causes the release of a hormone called cortisol which is one of the reasons for oily skin and acne.

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Exfoliate your skin:

Exfoliating is an important part of your skin care regime. It’s simply a way of scrubbing out dead skin matter to let the new shiny part show. If done properly at least it would help to remove impurities and dead skin cells from the face and other parts of your body. The scrub, after being applied to the face has to be gently rubbed into the skin in small circular movements with your finger tips for at least five minutes.

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Side business ideas to help survive the current economic CHANGE in Nigeria

The desire to earn more money has become more common as people struggle to make ends meet with their current salary in this current CHANGE being experienced in Nigeria.

Put simply, starting a side hustle can be a relatively easy and quick way to bring in extra income particularly when it seems likely that despite the current economic situation, your Landlord may still effect that rent rise.

Start a Business

Starting a business as a side hustle first of all means that you can start up without risking your regular income. This gives you the opportunity to test out aspects of the business. It also means that – as you won’t be relying on it to bring in income from day one – you are more likely to make the right decisions when it comes to growing your business.

You might be less likely to say ‘Yes’ to that client you just know is going to be difficult, or who doesn’t ‘fit’ with your ideal customer profile, than you would be if you had to be bringing in money from your new venture from day one. Conversely, you may be willing to take a chance on a new client or idea that you’re fired up about, but aren’t sure of it’s earning potential yet.

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Full post on side business in Nigeria: http://www.businesstimes.com.ng/side-business-ideas-to-help-survive-the-current-economic-change-in-nigeria-part-1/