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 lol i read through your diary and i enjoyed reading it, i smiled all through, if i were female, i'd be you....not just personality wise, even experience wise
I've only seen what a club looks like in movies and on blogs..
Going out drains my energy, but going out with those i'm close to is quite different, unfortunately the only friends i'm close to are all abroad now, so i basically have no friends close.
I also procrastinate a lot, read blogs and articles a lot and binge watch anime(at least used to until i ventured into software dev, I don't remember the last time i watched a movie, as software dev is time consuming but i read shonen manga occasionally)
I never went to the cinema also even as a unilag student, when ozone is just behind us...I'd just download the movies to watch on my system, buy popcorn and coke behind Jaja hostel, put on my earpiece and Gbam!, I'm in cloud 9.
Let me tell you a hard truth, you'll make friends in camp, even i did (and i didn't partake in any activity, due to an injury, still have the scars  ), although 2 or 3 but I did, but the truth is after camp, you'll be very lazy to keep in touch, (you may be different anyways, but if you're like me, that's a high possibility)
Like others have suggested try to go out more, I don't know if it'll work for you but i hope it does, but being in large social circles or groups drain me out easily. I quickly tend to think of my inadequacies in such scenarios, all those social subtleties, like who is the best, who is interested in who, who is snubbing who, play out below the surface and having an overactive mind, i can't help but keep thinking of such irrelevancies.
So most of those i interact with are at work and neighbours. (Basically those around me). The only social gatherings i go for are those i'm exclusively invited, weddings, birthdays and so on and I always try to interact with one or two persons (mostly guys anyways, my women skills are horrible  , I need to work on that), keeping in touch remains the problem,again i intend to work on this also.
You're a girl, so if you do the barest minimum in a social gathering (physical appearance: look pretty) guys will approach you, sincerely if there are enough guys there 1 or 2 will surely come your way, probably not an introverted guy like you anyways (that one will sit and observe you from afar) , even if you sit in the corner of some room, chances are a guy will come your way so long as you made effort to get to that hypothetical room.
All you have to do from there is to properly engage him. Smile, Talk, open up a bit just for the sake of the conversation if not anything else. It goes for girls too, when you meet fellow girls, even if their convo doesn't interest you much, just contribute your barest mininum, for the sake of the convo if nothing else..(if you keep giving up an aura that shouts not interested you'd probably not make any friends.
Being introverted you liberate the aura of a snob even if you're the complete opposite, i'm sure there's a guy falling for you somewhere, maybe in your street or your class that never approached you because he feels you'll turn him down chances are high. so try not to carry a straight face everywhere.
Being an introvert is cool if you learn to accept yourself, I feel right now you're focusing too much on the socially adept you feel socially inadequate somewhat. You feel they're all out there having the time of their lives and you're caged in your own little world . Your little world is not little in anyway, it's infinite, its where you draw your energy from, its where you draw your sanity from when all goes south, you are either very observant from consistently, well, observing others and your surroundings or very creative from spending time in your head modelling make believe scenarios, events and so on, thinking up problems and solutions, and finding out your own opinions on sensitive issues that affect us today..
Even though i'm an introvert I personally like introverts because i feel i can understand them to an extent, and can speak in their language..
Again try not to keep a straight face, smile a lot, you don't want to scare away potential besties and lovers OMG! You took out time to write this for me. I'm so happy rn. I felt like I was reading another version of me. Lol. If you schooled in Lago where all the fun is and stay introverted, then I'm not sure I should keep complaining. Lol I'd try to go out more often and leave my comfort zone at home obviously. Hopefully I get to meet good people on camp and yeah, keep in touch with them. Lol Thanks, thanks and thanks again. |
Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Introversion Is Eating Me Up by bynomzy(op): 11:02am On Apr 09, 2019
