I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

bynomzy:
I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

Don't keep yourself, enjoy your own company, do what you love and if it will ever happen then it will.

Just dress up and take a stroll out during the day time, as you are strolling, just keep announcing I want to meet new people, I want to make friends blah blah blah.

Atiku:


Don't keep yourself, enjoy your own company, do what you love and if it will ever happen then it will.

Do you mean it's normal to not enjoy going out? Thanks though.

OCEANMORGAN:

Just dress up and take a stroll out during the day time, as you are strolling, just keep announcing I want to meet new people, I want to make friends blah blah blah.

Lol. Cool. Thanks

bynomzy:


Do it's normal to not enjoy going out? Thanks though.

Don't you enjoy going out alone? Go see a movie, a restaurant?

Atiku:



Don't you enjoy going out alone? Go see a movie, a restaurant?

She go tire quick quick

Atiku:



Don't you enjoy going out alone? Go see a movie, a restaurant?

I've thought of this. I've really never done the solo outing. Will try it. Thanks.

bynomzy:

I've thought of this. I've really never done the solo outing. Will try it. Thanks.

No fear.... U good

Atiku:


No fear.... U good

Thanks.

OCEANMORGAN:





She go tire quick quick

Bynomzy what are the stuff you enjoy doing?

Atiku:


Bynomzy what are the stuff you enjoy doing?

I don't even know no lies. I literally sit at home all day.

bynomzy:


I don't even know no lies. I literally sit at home all day.

How do you get money then?

Atiku:


How do you get money then?

I work online. I blog, freelance and get money from home sometimes.

the kind of things people struggle with will almost make you think you don't have any problem at all..

it's ironic though coz my own problem now is trying to get rid of some of the numerous friends i have

Get cool hang out spots, go to beaches, bars, fast foods, large expanse of natural places like iganmu theatre environment, unilag lagoon frontage, take up new out door hobbies, to meet people more, you gotta go out more. Go on adventures, stuffs like that. If you get any hitch in trying any of the things I've suggested, hit me up on whatsapp. My number is on my signature.
Wish ya a fun-filled life.

internationalman:
the kind of things people struggle with will almost make you think you don't have any problem at all..

it's ironic though coz my own problem now is trying to get rid of some of the numerous friends i have

Lol.

mekus1011:
Get cool hang out spots, go to beaches, bars, fast foods, large expanse of natural places like iganmu theatre environment, unilag lagoon frontage, take up new out door hobbies, to meet people more, you gotta go out more. Go on adventures, stuffs like that. If you get any hitch in trying any of the things I've suggested, hit me up on whatsapp. My number is on my signature.
Wish ya a fun-filled life.

Thanks. I'm not in Lagos though but I'd find cool hangout spots here in Benin

bynomzy:
I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

lol i read through your diary and i enjoyed reading it, i smiled all through, if i were female, i'd be you....not just personality wise, even experience wise
I've only seen what a club looks like in movies and on blogs..
Going out drains my energy, but going out with those i'm close to is quite different, unfortunately the only friends i'm close to are all abroad now, so i basically have no friends close.
I also procrastinate a lot, read blogs and articles a lot and binge watch anime(at least used to until i ventured into software dev, I don't remember the last time i watched a movie, as software dev is time consuming but i read shonen manga occasionally)
I never went to the cinema also even as a unilag student, when ozone is just behind us...I'd just download the movies to watch on my system, buy popcorn and coke behind Jaja hostel, put on my earpiece and Gbam!, I'm in cloud 9.

Let me tell you a hard truth, you'll make friends in camp, even i did (and i didn't partake in any activity, due to an injury, still have the scars ), although 2 or 3 but I did, but the truth is after camp, you'll be very lazy to keep in touch, (you may be different anyways, but if you're like me, that's a high possibility)


Like others have suggested try to go out more, I don't know if it'll work for you but i hope it does, but being in large social circles or groups drain me out easily. I quickly tend to think of my inadequacies in such scenarios, all those social subtleties, like who is the best, who is interested in who, who is snubbing who, play out below the surface and having an overactive mind, i can't help but keep thinking of such irrelevancies.

So most of those i interact with are at work and neighbours. (Basically those around me). The only social gatherings i go for are those i'm exclusively invited, weddings, birthdays and so on and I always try to interact with one or two persons (mostly guys anyways, my women skills are horrible , I need to work on that), keeping in touch remains the problem,again i intend to work on this also.


You're a girl, so if you do the barest minimum in a social gathering (physical appearance: look pretty) guys will approach you, sincerely if there are enough guys there 1 or 2 will surely come your way, probably not an introverted guy like you anyways (that one will sit and observe you from afar) , even if you sit in the corner of some room, chances are a guy will come your way so long as you made effort to get to that hypothetical room.
All you have to do from there is to properly engage him. Smile, Talk, open up a bit just for the sake of the conversation if not anything else. It goes for girls too, when you meet fellow girls, even if their convo doesn't interest you much, just contribute your barest mininum, for the sake of the convo if nothing else..(if you keep giving up an aura that shouts not interested you'd probably not make any friends.

Being introverted you liberate the aura of a snob even if you're the complete opposite, i'm sure there's a guy falling for you somewhere, maybe in your street or your class that never approached you because he feels you'll turn him down chances are high. so try not to carry a straight face everywhere.

Being an introvert is cool if you learn to accept yourself, I feel right now you're focusing too much on the socially adept you feel socially inadequate somewhat. You feel they're all out there having the time of their lives and you're caged in your own little world . Your little world is not little in anyway, it's infinite, its where you draw your energy from, its where you draw your sanity from when all goes south, you are either very observant from consistently, well, observing others and your surroundings or very creative from spending time in your head modelling make believe scenarios, events and so on, thinking up problems and solutions, and finding out your own opinions on sensitive issues that affect us today..
Even though i'm an introvert I personally like introverts because i feel i can understand them to an extent, and can speak in their language..

Again try not to keep a straight face, smile a lot, you don't want to scare away potential besties and lovers

Ttrrffyyghuuh:


lol i read through your diary and i enjoyed reading it, i smiled all through, if i were female, i'd be you....not just personality wise, even experience wise
I've only seen what a club looks like in movies and on blogs..
Going out drains my energy, but going out with those i'm close to is quite different, unfortunately the only friends i'm close to are all abroad now, so i basically have no friends close.
I also procrastinate a lot, read blogs and articles a lot and binge watch anime(at least used to until i ventured into software dev, I don't remember the last time i watched a movie, as software dev is time consuming but i read shonen manga occasionally)
I never went to the cinema also even as a unilag student, when ozone is just behind us...I'd just download the movies to watch on my system, buy popcorn and coke behind Jaja hostel, put on my earpiece and Gbam!, I'm in cloud 9.

Let me tell you a hard truth, you'll make friends in camp, even i did (and i didn't partake in any activity, due to an injury, still have the scars ), although 2 or 3 but I did, but the truth is after camp, you'll be very lazy to keep in touch, (you may be different anyways, but if you're like me, that's a high possibility)


Like others have suggested try to go out more, I don't know if it'll work for you but i hope it does, but being in large social circles or groups drain me out easily. I quickly tend to think of my inadequacies in such scenarios, all those social subtleties, like who is the best, who is interested in who, who is snubbing who, play out below the surface and having an overactive mind, i can't help but keep thinking of such irrelevancies.

So most of those i interact with are at work and neighbours. (Basically those around me). The only social gatherings i go for are those i'm exclusively invited, weddings, birthdays and so on and I always try to interact with one or two persons (mostly guys anyways, my women skills are horrible , I need to work on that), keeping in touch remains the problem,again i intend to work on this also.


You're a girl, so if you do the barest minimum in a social gathering (physical appearance: look pretty) guys will approach you, sincerely if there are enough guys there 1 or 2 will surely come your way, probably not an introverted guy like you anyways (that one will sit and observe you from afar) , even if you sit in the corner of some room, chances are a guy will come your way so long as you made effort to get to that hypothetical room.
All you have to do from there is to properly engage him. Smile, Talk, open up a bit just for the sake of the conversation if not anything else. It goes for girls too, when you meet fellow girls, even if their convo doesn't interest you much, just contribute your barest mininum, for the sake of the convo if nothing else..(if you keep giving up an aura that shouts not interested you'd probably not make any friends.

Being introverted you liberate the aura of a snob even if you're the complete opposite, i'm sure there's a guy falling for you somewhere, maybe in your street or your class that never approached you because he feels you'll turn him down chances are high. so try not to carry a straight face everywhere.

Being an introvert is cool if you learn to accept yourself, I feel right now you're focusing too much on the socially adept you feel socially inadequate somewhat. You feel they're all out there having the time of their lives and you're caged in your own little world . Your little world is not little in anyway, it's infinite, its where you draw your energy from, its where you draw your sanity from when all goes south, you are either very observant from consistently, well, observing others and your surroundings or very creative from spending time in your head modelling make believe scenarios, events and so on, thinking up problems and solutions, and finding out your own opinions on sensitive issues that affect us today..
Even though i'm an introvert I personally like introverts because i feel i can understand them to an extent, and can speak in their language..

Again try not to keep a straight face, smile a lot, you don't want to scare away potential besties and lovers

OMG!
You took out time to write this for me. I'm so happy rn. I felt like I was reading another version of me. Lol. If you schooled in Lago where all the fun is and stay introverted, then I'm not sure I should keep complaining. Lol

I'd try to go out more often and leave my comfort zone at home obviously. Hopefully I get to meet good people on camp and yeah, keep in touch with them. Lol

Thanks, thanks and thanks again.

bynomzy:


OMG!
You took out time to write this for me. I'm so happy rn. I felt like I was reading another version of me. Lol. If you schooled in Lago where all the fun is and stay introverted, then I'm not sure I should keep complaining. Lol

I'd try to go out more often and leave my comfort zone at home obviously. Hopefully I get to meet good people on camp and yeah, keep in touch with them. Lol

Thanks, thanks and thanks again.

anytime... nomzy, (or onome, if i'm correct)

Ttrrffyyghuuh:


anytime... nomzy, (or onome, if i'm correct)

lol. I bet you're.

I like introverts.... let's be friends 08101352266

you can step out to visit your relatives, you can make frnds anywhere by joining groups in church, attending fuctions/events

tracy23:
you can step out to visit your relatives, you can make frnds anywhere by joining groups in church, attending fuctions/events

Thank you ma'am

bynomzy:
I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

Honrnyman to the rescue call me 09012598423

hornyman:



Honrnyman to the rescue call me 09012598423

Lol. �

bynomzy:
I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

Having read some of your writings, you appear to me as someone who is self-aware.

You are an introvert and you know you are an introvert. Don't resist your being an introvert. Accept it. Accepting it does not mean judging it to be good or bad. It means accepting it - as simple as that - because that is what is.

I have contacted you. If it is OK with you, we can be friends.

Growing:


Having read some of your writings, you appear to me as someone who is self-aware.

You are an introvert and you know you are an introvert. Don't resist your being an introvert. Accept it. Accepting it does not mean judging it to be good or bad. It means accepting it - as simple as that - because that is what is.

I have contacted you. If it is OK with you, we can be friends.

Thanks, I replied.

bynomzy:
I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

What school did you graduate from?

Ttrrffyyghuuh:


lol i read through your diary and i enjoyed reading it, i smiled all through, if i were female, i'd be you....not just personality wise, even experience wise
I've only seen what a club looks like in movies and on blogs..
Going out drains my energy, but going out with those i'm close to is quite different, unfortunately the only friends i'm close to are all abroad now, so i basically have no friends close.
I also procrastinate a lot, read blogs and articles a lot and binge watch anime(at least used to until i ventured into software dev, I don't remember the last time i watched a movie, as software dev is time consuming but i read shonen manga occasionally)
I never went to the cinema also even as a unilag student, when ozone is just behind us...I'd just download the movies to watch on my system, buy popcorn and coke behind Jaja hostel, put on my earpiece and Gbam!, I'm in cloud 9.

Let me tell you a hard truth, you'll make friends in camp, even i did (and i didn't partake in any activity, due to an injury, still have the scars ), although 2 or 3 but I did, but the truth is after camp, you'll be very lazy to keep in touch, (you may be different anyways, but if you're like me, that's a high possibility)


Like others have suggested try to go out more, I don't know if it'll work for you but i hope it does, but being in large social circles or groups drain me out easily. I quickly tend to think of my inadequacies in such scenarios, all those social subtleties, like who is the best, who is interested in who, who is snubbing who, play out below the surface and having an overactive mind, i can't help but keep thinking of such irrelevancies.

So most of those i interact with are at work and neighbours. (Basically those around me). The only social gatherings i go for are those i'm exclusively invited, weddings, birthdays and so on and I always try to interact with one or two persons (mostly guys anyways, my women skills are horrible , I need to work on that), keeping in touch remains the problem,again i intend to work on this also.


You're a girl, so if you do the barest minimum in a social gathering (physical appearance: look pretty) guys will approach you, sincerely if there are enough guys there 1 or 2 will surely come your way, probably not an introverted guy like you anyways (that one will sit and observe you from afar) , even if you sit in the corner of some room, chances are a guy will come your way so long as you made effort to get to that hypothetical room.
All you have to do from there is to properly engage him. Smile, Talk, open up a bit just for the sake of the conversation if not anything else. It goes for girls too, when you meet fellow girls, even if their convo doesn't interest you much, just contribute your barest mininum, for the sake of the convo if nothing else..(if you keep giving up an aura that shouts not interested you'd probably not make any friends.

Being introverted you liberate the aura of a snob even if you're the complete opposite, i'm sure there's a guy falling for you somewhere, maybe in your street or your class that never approached you because he feels you'll turn him down chances are high. so try not to carry a straight face everywhere.

Being an introvert is cool if you learn to accept yourself, I feel right now you're focusing too much on the socially adept you feel socially inadequate somewhat. You feel they're all out there having the time of their lives and you're caged in your own little world . Your little world is not little in anyway, it's infinite, its where you draw your energy from, its where you draw your sanity from when all goes south, you are either very observant from consistently, well, observing others and your surroundings or very creative from spending time in your head modelling make believe scenarios, events and so on, thinking up problems and solutions, and finding out your own opinions on sensitive issues that affect us today..
Even though i'm an introvert I personally like introverts because i feel i can understand them to an extent, and can speak in their language..

Again try not to keep a straight face, smile a lot, you don't want to scare away potential besties and lovers

An introverted unilag graduate? Whoa! I'm a fresher in unilag and I was told I'll become social in no time as the school is not known to breed introverts. I was told I'll not be able to cope here as an introvert and from my experience here so far, I think it's kinda true. I was told people who keep to themselves in school end up being suicidal.How did you survive unilag as an introvert?

raptex:
What school did you graduate from?

UNIBEN. why?