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Sirmwill:
It's your body hormones

I'm a Lady and not a man who gets carried away easily because Odogwu dey rise.

Sirmwill:
Then you end up becoming a used and dumped Nairaland feminist like the others


Whenever y'all think like this, just remember that the men you are thinking about already have in their mind :better,more sophisticated,richer,more spotless, more beautiful ladies that wouldn't even give them audience

There are billions of women more than men

I repeat myself dear.
No in all case.
There are multiple cases of mutual feelings.
I believe he is a good man and so won't hurt me.

Sirmwill:
It's your body hormones

You mean I can't tell the difference between what my heart is feeling and what my body is requesting for?
How can someone mix up emotional feelings with carnal body?

My dear its so real.
Like I know better now.

sharpwriter:
He could be a connection from past life or not, but love at first sight is real. If anybody likes, let them call it lust or not. 😘

But yhis is also a public forum.
Send me email

TrenchesPreeq:
I hear you Charis... e dey clear say na emotions be your main thing.. you speak emotionally & vibe that way join. Me I no get charisma ooo ... na the blessings of my ancestors I get... see her small mouth like charisma🙄

Sha for the vibing thing... this forum be like say we dey gist for market square... na dm sure pass.. that one be like one chill bar wey get sofa. So drop your WhatsApp number make I buzz you for there

Smiles
I'm not carried away by flesh.
The guy has charisma so if you have charisma then we can vibe.
I'm emotionally to be frank with you and I'm highly jealous that's why I rather go celibate than be with a cheating partner.

TrenchesPreeq:
Charis15

Hormones woman. Na here me and you go dey vibe lowkey... make them no catch us

The way you write and describe emotions don enter my left eye

My sister keep it up.
I do it alot to avoid diseases and heartbreak.
Now my heart yearns for a total stranger.
What an irony

Double0h7:
I’ve lived here my whole life. I just let them (hormones) rage it’s only a few days a month. I don’t wake up with a woody 😂. I’ve gone 4 years during my undergraduate studies, that was my longest stint. The fear of diseases is the beginning of wisdom.

Women who are confused.
My dear I know what I want though a times you can't control fate.

SixSeven:
I agree but I don't think so. What women say, what women say they want and what women actually want are entirely different things. This I have learned 💯

Lol
Ever since I met Mr stranger my hormones are boiling. It's not easy but it will soon calm down.

kiddaz:
Na wah ooh 2 years 👀
Like I said it's not impossible but... Well, it's even more possible for you that resides outside the shores of naija especially if you haven't been there that long to mingle enough to trust someone for that. But two years is long oooh how do you cope when the hormones are raging cos it's natural?

My sister I believe you.
It's not easy but it's neither impossible.
The cold at night, your friends and a whole lot of temptations.
It's worth it dear.

Double0h7:
I’ve been abstaining from sex for 2 years come January. Some people can control their bodies rather than their bodies controlling them.

The man of my dream should definitely have standard.
Should be a real man, an Odogwu.

SixSeven:
I think you are attracted to his undesirability, if there's any word like that. Or more appropriately, his unavailability. The way he ghosted you. He's working a man's charm very well. The unpredictability is what is mysterious to you. Women are used to men flocking after them, the few men who can resist and flip the script have broken the girl code

I post about the Manipulated Man often here. One of the reasons is because while growing up, I was surrounded by women and I saw their cold calculations when they want to choose mates. As a young man, I started taking notes on women's behaviour. They can be ruthless when they want to but with time, they outgrow some petty behaviours. I saw men cry, men told NO, men buying gifts for women who will say something when they close the door after he leaves, women talking about the different options they had and why they chose one or left the other. A powerful man has standards.

Smiles
Wouldn't mind.
Life is short to be grumpy.
I like love abeg.

TrenchesPreeq:
More fascinating ke... Charis you want wetin sweet pass wetin I read so. Omo you greedy o hehehehe... those butterflies be like say no be just your tummy you feel am... see ya mouth like fascinating. Na one sweet about like me you go later marry. And na for mechanic shop we go jam

Thanks dear.
I think this is exactly what I needed.
To me this is the best advice I have gotten here.
Believe me those words calmed me so much.

Exceed15:
I enjoyed your story about encounter with someone you find attractive. I m sure u controlled your feelings so well for the guy not to notice you liked him. However just move on, something more fascinating is ahead.

I tell you.
Assuming is someone close to me that will be my reaction.
Dear matters of the heart is so complicated.

Oju4190:
My sister abeg shift

Which kind yeye love in Tokyo for person when u nor know.

Na so una take dey enter one chance.

I know that such men are rare.
Unfortunately I'm attracted to rare species.

Rizzputin:
Lol. If this kind of experience is what tickles you then you'll have a long time before finding a boyfriend.

The men that bring this experience are rare o

I think you are wrong.
If I wanted to lure or seduce him, I would have asked for his contact.
I kept calm because I have dignity and I'm paying the price.

duduade:
Bro


You got it right 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I was wondering how I was going to type my thoughts

These women of nowadays... Very hungry and looking for better man ... I tell you for a fact that if she sees him today even if he says he is married, she will still lure and seduce him ...

Mikocake:
Una no dey everly get love at first sight or crush on barrow pushers and artisans, na always good looking and well to do men. Infactuation at its peak

Are you sure?
Haven't you witness cases where the lady will be disowned by family for going after a nonentity.

SixSeven:
He could even be married. Men who know their worth know what to avoid.

Seun what's in this reply that needs bot banning me?

I don't see anything in that reply that requires you getting ban
Seun please you can do better.

It might be for real.
You can never tell.
What's the point self?
Still heartbroken didn't get my love.

Tenrack:
leave am she dey try convince herself.

kiddaz:
So you're not a virgin but you have been celibate for over twelve months right

Yes dear.
E shock you?

Hmmm
Not in all cases dear.
If we cross paths again na forever.

Sirmwill:
These kind of situations lead to broken homes and broken hearts,eternal frustration and unending regrets

I tell people
There is really nothing like "Love at first sight"
You can NEVER like a person:girl or guy,at first sight
You only liked her curves or height or complexion or face freshness or hair or his height or complexion or his car or his expensive clothes or his manner of speaking
And NOT THE PERSON
Loving someone takes days,
It takes weeks
Months,
Years
Decades
Ask people who lasted till their old age in marriage.
When the money, curves, skin, everything goes away, where would the love be?

Btw
You have hormones that want you to procreate to maintain the human population and further develop Ecological systems
This makes people think they are in love

Amen
I pray so.

ManknowThyself:
When it's destiny, you guys will cross paths again.

Yes.
I thought as much.
Maybe he is married.
That's the only thing consoling me.

Nazgul:
He might be married, engaged, or only staying in town briefly. That could be why he didn’t push further to collect your contact.

My sister I don't know why people judge others base on their own lifestyle.
I have never slept with a guy for money once.
I have never had a one night stand
Omo I'm in Love and I don't know how to reconnect with him.

SisterAnn:
Oga speak for yourself. The lady says she's in love and I believe her.

Okay
So is it Lust or attraction?

Sirmwill:
It's not Love
It can only sometimes lead to love after a long time

My dear what will be my gain if I tell lies on a faceless forum.
Why will I have sex with someone I don't love?
Not everyone is cheap dear.
I purposely didn't mention it earlier because I know people will say ooh you are sex starved that's why.

kiddaz:
Hush it there... You don't have a boyfriend maybe but that celibacy na lie.

Tenrack:
lmao. You're not in love. Quit deceiving yourself. Na Dubai and Amsterdam wey you hear dey make you even more interested. I'm pretty sure you have a bf currently. I fear who no fear Una. I can imagine how many things have ran through your mind, how you're gonna have babies for him and elope with him to Europe. Lol wake up abeg.

Well currently I don't have a boyfriend.
I have been celibate for over a year and I'm okay. I have every good thing of life you can think of believe me.
I have a guy in UAE pleading for me to join him but I declined because I'm not attracted to him.
I give more when I'm in a relationship.
I'm not those 2k abi 20k girls

Laughs
I see cute guys everyday.
He isn't so handsome, I'm just attracted to him.
Are you trying to say he is the most handsome guy I have met?
But it's my first experience of falling for a guy like that.

Tenrack:
if he wasn't looking presentable and appeared like a struggling guy, you won't even flinch. Make Una take am easy abeg.

Lol
I also belonged to that school of thought that believes that there is nothing like love at first sight.
Wait till it happens to you.
Life is deep and unpredictable.

Sirmwill:
These kind of situations lead to broken homes and broken hearts,eternal frustration and unending regrets

I tell people
There is really nothing like "Love at first sight"
You can NEVER like a person:girl or guy,at first sight
You only liked her curves or height or complexion or face freshness or hair or his height or complexion or his car or his expensive clothes or his manner of speaking
And NOT THE PERSON
Loving someone takes days,
It takes weeks
Months,
Years
Decades
Ask people who lasted till their old age in marriage.
When the money, curves, skin, everything goes away, where would the love be?

Btw
You have hormones that want you to procreate to maintain the human population and further develop Ecological systems
This makes people think they are in love

Thanks
It's crazy how you loose something that you never had.
I never believed you can have feelings for a total stranger

dawnomike:
I understand how you feel... You will get over it.

On Sunday the 21st day of December 2025 I left my home that faithful day and embarked on a trip to my village. That was our family thanksgiving day, so missing out was not an option. I arrived at the park around 12noon and I was so in a hurry to meet up because they will start 12 till around 3pm. When I got to the park at koka in Asaba heading towards Kwale, though I will stop before Kwale but there is no straight Car to my village that's why I have to board with them, but they needed 5 more persons to complete the vehicle and that's not an option for me, so I went to the vehicle going to Warri/Ughelli because they just needed two more persons. When I got to that sienna I saw something that captivated me and change my whole sense of reasoning, A handsome, tall, fair and spotless man. OMG am I lusting? I lost my gaze for a few seconds. I think it's called love at first sight. I regain my cool and I told driver please shout louder so we can move and this man/guy said to me why don't you pay for the extra 🪑? I was just 🤔 what to answer. He said " them no dey chop woman money", I chuckled and then he said, " I will pay for the extra sit for you because you are in a hurry", chai see caring man. And I jumped and gave him hi five. But fortunately for him, a guy came and completed the sit so we kicked off. We had some talks about the situation of the country and the west. He told me what happened when he went for training in Amsterdam, Dubai etc.
Now I believe a guy should show interest first no matter what. He didn't ask for my contact and I said good, I'm a woman and I have dignity. So neither will I ask.
When I got to my junction, I highlighted and waved him., Immediately that car drove off, I was full of regrets and until now my heart isn't settled. I know I'm in Love. But how can I love a total stranger like this?
Now the pain I feel is like a broken heart for love that never bloomed.
I have never felt like this about anyone before.
I don't know his name , no contact, I don't even know if he likes me or maybe he is married, yet I feel so much pain for not being able to communicate him thereafter.
Now I feel at ease discussing it here.

Raenae:
I don't think anything will happen o because they didn't attend to us according to LGA. As far as you have your filled verification form, last promotion letter and ID, you'd be attended to. They didn't ask of the LGA you belong. Talking about my experience today. Just go early

Thanks so much .