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Windflower:

Read your dairy, interesting

Windflower:

Read your dairy, interesting

pryme:
As a matter of fact am helping you. If I should help you find a girlfriend you will continue being a guy with a very very low self esteem.

You must learn to handle rejection, that way you will stop being afraid of trying.


This you must do on your own.

Thanks, I was only just joking

pryme:
No Sir, this you must do on your own.

but you mentioned you could help with anything

pryme:
I was not here in the beginning, but from what I gather here, it's like Ppl don't have a problem with how they are.

But if a person needs help I will be willing to help in any way I can.

Good can you help me get a girlfriend

Olarewajub:
The web address (following.com) is currently down and not reachable. Try accessing sharingmyexperience.org

lol

Olarewajub:
Fooling around ke? Remember you're requesting for experience and not advice. Be serious o.

Okay I am serious

Olarewajub:
charley94 modify your post so that Melsan can share her experience.

Okay its open to everyone both make and female

DonOms:
Like, serious, seriously...?

just fooling around

Random question How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend. And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

Olarewajub:
Mail sent.

received thank you very much

Olarewajub:
Send me a pm and i'll send you the soft copy.

I tried sending a pm, was not successful. you can send it to this mail address charlesosegi@Gmail.com

Olarewajub:
By understanding the way your brain works, you can reduce shame and guilt. You can create the optimal environment for yourself. You can enhance your appreciation of your own unique introverted advantages.


"Introvert Advantage"

how do I get this book

Olarewajub:

My Introvert Dream

seconded

sayoberry:
U don't wanna know
Loads of things. And some are very painful.
The day my mum died, she called me 8times from her deathbed. I din't pick cos I wasn't in the mood to talk. I was just waiting for the phone to stop ringing for a while and I'll call back
I called back 10mins later. She was gone.


Same with my dad. 5times I dint pick the phone!
3 hours later, siblings sent text. My papa don go.

Now this is freaky

Olarewajub:
What is the furthest you've done to avoid people?

wait for them to walk away, before I step out

locust:
Lol. Getting the woman hasn't been so easy, thanks to this nonsense dem call introversion. But I no dey para for dat one, God go chyke my woman for me. I'm in my 20's sha

Had to laugh at the "God go chyke my woman for me",
it seems not having a girlfriend easily comes with the introverted package.

locust:
brother, my introversion has no rivalry.

and what makes you think so

locust:
I'm laughing at you people. If you think you're an introvert, then you haven't met me. I'm like the king of introverts. Man, is it annoying!

interesting, why do you think you are the king of introverts??

preciousuweh:
Hi fellow introverts. I have a problem and I need your advice ad help.
As an introverted guy, being shy used to be part of me but not anymore cos I've worked on that and I can say that I'm bold even in public and in a crowd.
I can start and keep a conversation flowing really well but that is with males and my close friends.
Starting off a conversation and maintaining it with a guy is as easy as stealing candy from a baby but when it comes to a Lady I become tongue tied and nervous. The most i can say is "HI" and nothing more. it seems like when i'm in the presence of a lady or group of girls my entire system automaticaly activates dummy mode. I know it's sounds funny and weird but seriously it's not. it's ruining my romance life. It's really bothering me and I need help.
Please I need your help and advice on how to overcome this problem.

You just said same thing I am going through right now. I can be very chatty with my fellow guys, but whenever I find myself in the midst of ladies, even if it's just one, I will just off and find it difficult to keep conversation. it's a bother also, though I am still young , but I tell myself if I continue like this , I no go marry o

Neyoor:
Good Day fellow introverts

I have this question please. Which is personality is better for an introvert to get along with, as far as dating and relationship is concerned?

If extrovert, won't their be clash of interest or whatsoever?

If introvert, won't the relationship looks too boring?

just find someone that gets you. And you guys would be good together

EzekielMab:
I'm 25 and in similar shoes as you.
I hardly go out too.

I have never had a gf before even in university days.

I have seen girls like me and shown it but Im always shy to ask them out or get closer

I have missed out on up to 6 girls in this similar issues from secondary school to university.

1 even tried in high school then ... From Jss2-ss3 , but was shy to start a convo with her and get closer

The part when you know that a girl likes you and has shown you green light, but still shy to ask her out. I understand very well, cos I have been in similar situation

veekid:
The tailor is jobless

creativity at its peak is what you call jobless

bluetrails7:
Hmm, Intelligence attracts me any day anytime, goof character, modesty, spirituality, give me these, and i'm content....

preach brother

please guys I need your advice, any suggestions on how to overcome shyness towards approaching ladies. Am 23 done with school and currently working but I have never had a girlfriend.As much as I tell myself that having one is not my priority now. It's just doesn't feel right that i have never been able to ask any lady out

Evaberry:
....

infertility has always been a big problem.


so the man knew he was impotent yet went ahead to marry and conceal the truth, I'm sure the man's family must-have put her through hell because of her childlessness.


This is why I always advise men to test their sperm before marriage. if you are a guy and you are more than 25 and no girl has ever gotten pregnant for you 'mistakenly' you need to check yourself, there's something wrong with you.

like seriously,what kind of advise is this

QuietHammer:
Stop masturbating.

please how does masturbation leads to shyness

Krasid:
How do y'all deal with those that naturally dislike you? I once had someone who told me he doesn't want to hate me, but my non-verbal/taciturn attitude was making him loathe me. Well, I tried to explain that I didn't have any ill feelings towards him and was just the typical introvert. I once caught him looking at me with malice another day( it was so obvious as he was gnashing his teeth, with the look lasting for about a minute); I just smiled and looked away.

I also don't understand why someone will dislike another, because the person does not talk to them.
The question I ask is, why not try understand why the person is not talking rather than beefing

spoke to a lady in church today, and I was just stammering, me that is not a stammarer

Olarewajub:
It seems most Introverts on Nairaland do not have their sex attached to their monikers

most also don't have their pictures on their profile page

Ginaz:
That is why God said you should marry instead when overcome with lust. But actually, the world is at its end, lust is the centre of the world.

Man is sinful by nature cos of sin, it takes more than the Holy Spirit to tame it. We pray for God's wisdom and grace to overcome.

i would not say it takes more than the Holy spirit. Actually he his all you need

Thank God for his love and grace over my life and the testimony he his going to put in my mouth this week