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SHENANIGAN:
Alright oh!! keep on thorough soul searching till your biological clock runs out on you then you'll be back here crying that you can't find a husband **hisses**

easy, ok.
Dont "worry " urself unnecessarily. i wont get married "late".
trying to get a level of comfort for the next important stage of my life that will stretch not less than 50 years is hardly stupid like u are implying.

@ all
i tried recently to let go of my 1st boyfriend but he just latched on and is optimistic things will work out,, what wont i give to feel so too
but right now i certainly dont feel that way.

[quote author=**osisi link=topic=218133.msg3333017#msg3333017 date=1231816385]she's unsure about both of them,what else is she to do
go along like the divorced lover did?
My dear marriage is to be enjoyed not managed[/quote]i totally agree, am going to enjoy my marriage o, hence the thorough soul searching

@ osisi and SHENANIGAN


I will be 27 years old this year.

i cant believe am actually finding some of ur statements funny??

have been thinking too maybe i should just cut off from both of them and well seek someone else??
am just scared and feel i will be gutted

heyyyy
am so cool with the different phases of ur various advices.

i certainly do not love with closed eyes but i must confess am confused.
like Hauwa said am thinking maybe i shuld push on with my 1st boyfriend may be i wud fall in love again,

you guys are also right with the baggages aspect and the future


and thanks NAJA HAJE, i guess for now the only weapon i have is God and time.
no one will live with me and my final choice.

they got to know it may not work but hoped children will bring them closer, but the situation got worse and they parted ways after 6yrs.
thing is for now i only got his side of the story.

[quote author=amebo no.1 link=topic=218133.msg3332897#msg3332897 date=1231811530]what actually made d divorcee leave his wife?

what reasons did ur lover give u for withdrawin d first time?[/quote]well my boyfriend had no cogent reason , just told me he guessed he couldnt cope with the distance thingy. twice i saw funny conversations btw him and a gal in his former location and he brushed it aside as nothiing. phew,

the divorcee said he and his wife had to divorce , immediately they got married, they both knew it was a mistake, said his wife is a nice person but he wasnt ready to spend all his life wondering how love would be with somebody else and they well got a divorce.
i dont know am even scared he can just wake and same too. but for now am really convinced he does love me and is quite mature about it.

Help i got issues.
pls i need only constructive and objective replies to my confused state.

I have a boyfriend(my very 1st) of 5 yrs now and 3/4 of the time our relationship has been across long distances, but we just came together again in the last 7 months. so much in love were we BUT the distance started to take its toil but i held on steadfastly even tho towards the end my boyfriend was no longer showing much commitment.i got distraught but still held on till, like a month before my man came back i eventually liked some one else, i didnt think that could ever happen, it was beautiful too.
suddenly my boyfriend started loving me back with zeal but my heart was was sliping away exponentially for the new guy.
i dont THINK i love my boyfriend again but we look like the perfect match considering all aspects. i have made attempt to work at it , but no results, infact i cant even stand his kisses but all ma folks and his are on us to tie the knots.
am convinced i love the other guy but he is a DIVORCEE, HIS 2 young kids stayed on with his wife and he visits and they come for breaks. they were already seperated b4 i met him o.
he wants me as his wife but am scared , i may get the same treat as his ex-wife?
have not told my parents, but i told an influential aunt , and she said it isnt reasonable to throw away a young promising young man for a divorcee. she said love will come i should just work at it so many what ifs,
i need some SOUND advice pls. thanks.