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Emmanuel30a:
Did you think we on naira land are more knowledgeable and wiser than you, that's why you are asking for our advice...?

No one is an island of knowledge. I want advice from people who have more experience than me.

SpencerForbes:
I get the feeling he didn’t really satisfy you from day one. What was the plan back then—were you just looking to get married and hope for the best?

Did he just start acting this way, or did you notice the red flags early and choose to look the other way? Maybe you even had an exit strategy that didn't go as planned?

You are right
I married him as a virgin. After giving birth, I wasn’t satisfied anymore, my sex drive increased.
I loved his personality and was ready to build a life with him. Even though my family was completely against the relationship, I chose to believe in him and hope for the best. Over the years, I realized he became too comfortable with his situation and stopped pushing himself to grow. Whenever I tried to advise him, he dismissed me he sees me like a small girl instead of a partner

ZaddyJ:
Omg! Did you discuss this with any older person in his family if he can be called to order?

I did but he is still adamant, especially the gambling aspect

That's so sad

IceLip:
3 khe

Hello everyone, sorry for the long post
I got married at 22, my husband was 40 at the time. We have been married for 5 years and we have a child together.

My concern is that my husband is not able to satisfy me sexually at all, which is frustrating, I have talked to him about it nothing seems to change. Financially, he is struggling, partly because he gambles a lot. He also drinks alcohol heavily.

I work too but he doesn't want me to have my own money he is always collecting money from me.
He doesn’t have clear goals, ambition, or a vision for the future, and this makes me feel stagnant in the marriage.

He is a good man in terms of character. He doesn’t cheat, he doesn’t abuse me at all, and he treats me well overall.

I’m confused because while he is good to me, I feel stuck and unfulfilled. I would really appreciate advice from y'all who have been in similar situations or who can offer honest guidance.
Thank you.

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