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andromida: When you say there was no courtship before marriage what do you mean? Nevertheless stop bugging him with questions like what is the matter? what have i done? whenever you notice he wants to be alone find interesting things to do for yourself. Don't act like a slave always trying to please him because you think this will win him over be yourself and try to enjoy your life. Your emotional well being is very Important so get out of the haze of always thinking about him and by this i mean change yourself instead of trying to change him. by change yourself instead of trying to blame him i mean to say take care of your own feelings whatever does not feel good avoid it, if you have family around you who make you happy visit more often you need not tell them the dynamics of your marriage. I know how important it is to have a confidant especially with what you are facing at home so prayers and faith help.

I appreciate ur response cos its as if ure living wt us, u pointed out my actions trying 2please him and at last I end up worsening d whole thing, d thing is dt my job is not giving me tym 2travel, I try very hard 2stay happy wt my lil boy, I even take pills just 2sleep off but how long wl ds continue? Thanks anyway.......

I have always known him to be a shy guy, although we didn't court before marriage but its more dan one year now, still expecting 2c him change but I find it difficult 2believe wt am seeing, he has ended up turning me into a nagging woman, when I kneel 2pray abt it, d thought of it throws me off balance, in d office where I work, I lack concentration cos of it, I wonder why a man wl neva be romantic, please d men in d house, Is ds normal, do I hv any hope of change, pls I need ur advice cos am seeing divorce as d next option, am only considering my son.

Missmossy: Are you trying to say he never expressed his love to you and you both walked down the aisle.It all lies in your hands,the ball is your court!

I have always known him to be a shy guy, although we didn't court before marriage but its more dan one year now, still expecting 2c him change but I find it difficult 2believe wt am seeing, he has ended up turning me into a nagging woman, when I kneel 2pray abt it, d thought of it throws me off balance, in d office where I work, I lack concentration cos of it, I wonder why a man wl neva be romantic, please d men in d house, Is ds normal, do I hv any hope of change, pls I need ur advice cos am seeing divorce as d next option, am only considering my son.

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Please I need ur advice on this, as its getting me mad and scared of loosing my marriage, my husband says I should understand he is reserved and can't express Luv and Care for his family!!! For how long will I remain ds way,it makes me suspect him cos I refuse 2believe sm1 can be ds way.