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abouzaid:
i noticed that too,she should even move back to her parents instead of renting a flat to reduce temptation from men.

My dad won't take her in cos he was against the marriage from onset.

abouzaid:
1.5 million is more than enough to start a lot of businesses, does she have a particular business in mind?

1.5 million can't start a proper boutique.it can't even cover her upkeep alone for 6 months.we are from a middle class background.Even I, as a single working class girl right now have way more than that in my account now and it's no money to me.after renting won't she furnish,feed herself and the baby.she already has a high standard of living.we are from middle class family .we live a comfortable life.so to me,1.5m is really nothing.trust me.
besides,she was earning about 150k every month before she resigned her job and lived in a 2 bedroom flat as a single girl.hope you understand now.

blazer234:
Oh. It is unfortunate that a cheating man can't stop cheating, except if God delivers him.

If your sister confronts him with the facts she has, it will only make him stop for a while, only to start again

my mum also said the same thing.

blazer234:
Your sister has no job I guess. She saw a man that is financially OK and married him. Your sister never knew what attracted her to the man will also attract other girls to the man.

Who is paying the bills? Your sister or the husband? How much is your sister contributing to home upkeep? Maybe nothing. So why is she complaining? Is the man collecting money from her to sleep with those girls? Is he not meeting your sister's needs? Oh, your sister wants to have the man and all his money to herself, right?

This is one of the challenges of being a full dependant on your husband. It renders you incapacitated and you will have no say since you can't even feed yourself until your husband gives you money. She should allow the man to enjoy his money.
My sister never married him because of money.
in fact he said he married my sister because she dated him when he dint have a dime and moreover we are not from a poor home just that my dad is upset with her.
My sister never dated or married him because of his money.
in fact he said he married by sister because she started dating him when he had nothing.

A women who depends on husband for virtually everything has lost respect and she should take whatever comes her way. Marrying a financially sound man has got its price.

She wasn't fully dependent on him before marriage.My sister is an Economics and statistics graduate.she was working before they got married.she had to resign and relocate but unfortunately have not been able to get another job.

NotOfThis:
She knew he was a chronic cheater when they were dating yet married him anyway. These type of men don't change. How financially-independent is she on her own?

She never knew he was a chronic cheat.she only have about 1.5m which she saved from her previous job before relocating to meet her husband.

TheABOMINATION:
Well duh, a man that cheats during courtship will surely cheat after marriage. What was your sister thinking when she decided to marry that man after signs of his cheating acts, even though she knows that she won't be ok with a cheating husband.

As for her moving forward, she currently depend on the man for financial support so she can't easily seperate from him. I don't believe the man can be made to change, so just have to decide whether she can put up with a man who cheats.

If she can't put up with a cheat, she should try to become financially independent of the man and separate from him.

She dint have any proof during courtship.

lofty900:
No need to ask for advice. Ur sister is a housewife and would have moved out but because she has no source of income that's why she's stuck.

She has some savings from her previous job just not enough,she said about 1.5m.thats why she needed her husband to open a business for her but he indirectly dosnt want her to work.

lofty900:
No need to ask for advice. Ur sister is a housewife and would have moved out but because she has no source of income that's why she's stuck.

She resigned her work so that she can live together with her husband but hasn't been able to get another job yet.

abouzaid:
most women are always attracted to this type of men, what your mom said is the truth, she need to find her standing financially before going anywhere, it's best if your family sorts that out first, HIV and hepatitis are real.

my dad is the only one that can support her but he is not happy with her cos he warned her not to marry a man from his tribe and finish her masters first but she refused.

Please I need advice for my elder sister whose husband is a chronic cheat.Their marriage is about 2 years now with a son. She have whatsapp chat proof of his affairs with like 10 other girls. He gives her everything and hides these affairs but my sister is extremely smart. He cheated on her during their 9 years courtship with like 3 different girls that she knows of but she dint have enough proof and people including her inlaws begged her not to leave him without proof. Well fastforward to after marriage, he is still seeing those girls including new ones but this time she have enough proof.

The worst of all was her complains to my mum this morning. She said she discovered in a chat between her husband and one of the girls he dated that she dint initially have proof of that he wants to marry her secretly, that the lady initially aborted for him 3 times before and now he is begging her to get pregnant for him again and he will marry her secretly. Meanwhile he is still constantly chatting and sleeping with the remaining 9 or more others.

She also discovered in his chat the curses from another girl he promised marriage before abandoning her to marry my sister. The lady lamented on how he made her commit series of abortions in the name he was not ready yet and his responds was I want to fvck you tonight are you free?.

From the same whatsapp chat she discovered he gave another girl 10,000 naira to abort a pregnancy recently.
He also invited 3 other different girls from outside his state.
Please if I continue, this whole page will not be enough.

My mum was trying to advice her to save massively since she already have a 6months old baby for him because she cant take care of the baby alone in these hard times. But I think she should just quit.
Meanwhile her husband dosnt know she has all those proofs.

PLEASE I NEED MATURED ADVICE GUYS.
Note* He have refused to open any business for her so that she can be financially independent.

searchng4love:
She should have taken other females into consideration and taken the doctor to the cleaners

Taken the doctor to the cleaners with what proof?.If my boyfriend had harassed him,he can sue us,claim damages and deny everything.
Have you thought about that?

Jammiiee:
I felt smh when she used the word but I jst looked the other way. Many don't seem to understand. Sincerely, I av gone online to search reactions of females on male Gyn. There are cases of creepy Male Gyn fumbling wit their clients and what not. Thanks for the first hand info, sincerely before putting up the thread. Over time av thought of it. Well some are also professional and don't mix feelings with it. But even at that a few percentage from these ones actually feel the heat atimes but jst act professional in the presence of their clients.

You are right not all can be like that just like you and Thorpido argued maturedly earlier without insulting each other unlike the other one that called it a juvenile thread.Majority are really professional though.

salsera:
I find this topic juvenile .
Gynaecologist don't treat breasst matters anyways so what's the issue exactly.

You do realise that even when you have surgery you will be naked regardless of your gender.
Even to take some certain injections doctors not even the specialist will see your bum.
Appendicitis o
Chest exam o
Heart attack o
What about accidents nko?
Doctors will see your body one way or the other.

Typically its standard practice if a medical person of the opp gender.has to do a body exam then a nurse of the same gender has to be present.

How dare you use the word juvenile on a thread you dont even comprehend what the OP is talking about.Did you just come across the word or what?.I think you are suffering from juvenile deliquency if not you wouldnt have typed it atall.You really need to reset your brain and next time if you come across a post that you cant seem to assimilate into your brain, you simply get lost and try reading another post that your juvenile brain can comprehend.NEVER USE THE WORD JUVENILE WHILE REFERING TO ADULTS NEXT TIME. What Nonsense!

kolado:
We all know what the useless Nigerian government is capable of doing. I won't advice 2face to risk his life for Nigerians because they're not worth dying for. I respect his courage for taking the bull by the horn.

I beg to disagree with you.in my opinion,I feel if it's about risking his life for Nigerians,2 face should have because we made him who he is today.from the little 100naira cds we buy and the tickets we buy for his shows,the love we Nigerians show him on the streets and the fact almost all Nigerians and fellow musicians look upto him because he is humble hence the name 2 baba is enough for him to die for nigeria if need be.check one of his throw back photos and see what I am talking about.He is 41 so he is no longer a spring chicken.he has been a star for almost 2 decades now if I remember correctly and this was the only way he would have told Nigerian thank you.we don't need his money,all we needed was his voice.and guess what,if he had gone ahead with the protest,nothing would have gone wrong because they would have been in one place (stadium) so it wouldn't have been easily hijacked as portrayed.it can be hijacked if there were moving from street to street.
He remains the biggest Coward in Nigerian Music History.
He wouldn't have announced a date atall if he was not ready.

Jammiiee:
Chaiiii ii now the truth is revealing itself. Those shouting professionalism upandan. thank God u xperienced dt coz some already feeling like those docs dn't av human blood running in them. Lol, but after the slap he was still on one hahahah dokisss dox guys en

I had to sign up today just to share my experience and let you know it's real.50% of male doctors can't control themselves.so females should visit them in the company of friends if possible.
Even my friend that felt itches down there not long ago was told that they will need a swap to do a test and immediately she opened her legs for the doctor to collect it,his trouser became swollen and he started asking her out instantly.hmmm.i rest my case.

[quote author=Sleekbaby post=53450032][/quote].He would have done that if I dint threaten him and he called me almost everyday after that pleading like a hungry lion and promising me heaven and earth as he was rich but I refused.i kept imagining if it was someone not emotionally strong like me.hmmm.

Funny enough,I have been harassed by one.I went with my boyfriend to see a doc because I was feeling pains in my both breasts.immediately I brought out my breast from my bra,the doctor lost control,It was really visible in him as he was caressing it and before I could say jack,he was already sucking it.i gave him a slap though I must confess he got to me because he instantly put me in the mood because he was so good at it but thank God I could control myself as he started pleading with me still with his hands in one breast and his mouth in another firmly and still caressing it.Meanwhile my boyfriend was still waiting at the reception.well,I insisted he should leave me or I shout which he did and promised to call me with the number I filled in the form.I dint tell my boyfriend because he would have beaten the doctor to a pulp and he dint charge me for the drugs and consultation bill.He later keep calling and I refused to see him privately until he got tired.IT IS REALLY NOT EASY TO BE A WOMAN.what about other female patients,who knows.