LewsTherin:


Thanks for your calm response.
I wasn't asking questions to make fun or troll you. I am serious about these questions.

3 things can destroy a marriage. Money, sex and power. Mishandling or abusing any of them can irreparably destroy a marriage.

It is wise and important that you both discus these things and reach a fair compromise. You know your woman. You should be able to tell if she is hiding or pretendong during these discussions. You yourself should be frank about it. In this, your relationship will either end, or get stronger.

Either way, it's to your benefit.

bukatyne:


Sha give us updates.

Use LewsTherin's questions as a guide.

And while discussing, look at her face. Just discuss; no discuss and eating, discuss and romance or discuss and outing.

Just discuss.

bukatyne:


What if the girl's parents still working?

Should he deprive his parents of the required N50k to give his in-laws (who has surplus) N25k?

They still need deep conversations to understand their financial goals.

Unnerve:
Be careful though so you don't start something that may become the cause of issues in the future.

You may end up like the man in this story

https://www.nairaland.com/5985003/man-shares-list-father-in-law-burial#91609774

Unnerve:

Why on earth would she say that?

Is she an only child, I mean do her parents not have sons?

RedPhoenix:



Cause you're intimate about yours. Sorry doesn't in law parents amounts to one's one's parents too albeit by marriage? I don't know, I like us to dialogue and rub minds on this

RedPhoenix:



Yes. She's right. Her parents are yours.


Split it 25k each side. The peace you'll achieve will help you along way in your own marriage. If you don't, expect it to affect her habits and antique towards you. It's in your court to weigh in on the long term. Benefits

Harshreality:
Please, try to have a deep conversation about how your home will be financed once you get married. Do not agree to anything that you are not ok with. It's overlooked things like this that cause major issues in marriage.

yanabasee1:
OP..... Don't let your prospective wife to push you into that...You can support from time to time only if they'll be considerate with their dowry and I hope she's also working.......

LewsTherin:
Do you know her view about finances?
Does she know your views about finances?
Are you both getting married without knowing what and how you both handle finances?
Have you both discussed it at any time?

As one half of a married couple, would your resources be capable of taking care of your new family and still afford to send 50k to your parents? What of when the children come?

Do you know what she currenly does for her parents?
Have you both discussed it?
Do you have the interest of her parents in consideration?
Does she have yours?

Chorismate:
Good evening all.

I trust we all looking forward to a restful weekend.
I am abit worried with regards my application.

The gras cord of program I applied to confirmed that decision will be out 28th November. Semester starts 7th January. Do you guys think I'd be able to make this resumption date?

Thanks and looking forward to response

PucciGuru:
Please is there anyone here that applied for spring 2019 in Alabama A&M and has not gotten admission letter and I 20 ? The school has not responded after I sent all the documents

Mmlanrehh:
Good morning pls I need a reliable source where u can pay for GRE exam . And how certain they are.

Rytefish:



Sure, Mid-November isn't too late to get i20 and book an appointment for visa interview (Spring class). It all depends on the courier service used for the i20. And I think first timers don't have issues with getting preferred interview dates. I wish you success.

100kobo , Lagosismyhome ,what do you think?