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Should I allow my sponsors to handle it or not from her background?

WHAT TO DO NOW WITH THIS LADY.
I want advice on what to do, no quarrelling and strong words. I have been on nairaland for some time so have to create a new account for this one.
I dated a lady and was about to marry her. We meet in school while I was about leaving school. All through my NYSC we were together and she visited during my service year and I introduced her as my wife.
I came to town to see her people during my service year but the elder brother happened to be somebody I knew before while he was serving. I went to visit my former girlfriend who got married to somebody because of difference in church with me. The elder brother knew my ex was married but said no wahala as long as my girl loves me.
Her father is late, her daddy`s elder brother refuse to see me before I returned even when I will call him and he will ask me to come but leave the house and workshop before I get there.
Only for me to get to my station that her elder brother told everyone that I was still dating the other girl and that I lied to them. He said I was double dating then and did not tell him then I was dating the sister. It took me time to convince them and tell them it was over before I started this one.
We went to registry to get documents, to enable her travel with me when I travelled which to me is not valid.
But when the real marriage was to be done, a traditional and church .The cards came out for the marriage but was called off a week to because the family said they went to find out that if her dowry is paid the mother will die. I spent so much but moved on with my life after they threatened me that they will deal with me if I come near their house or contact there daughter. They said things I don`t want to remember, She later called me to tell me to keep off that I am a cultist and want to use her mother for rituals. She left town then.
Nine months later my friends called that she is back and things are not the same. I still felt for her, so indirectly fixed a Job for her and money for cloths. I wanted her to have comfortable.
I meet a very caring and loving lady and has since married her. I am happy because her family has been very nice and caring. I am enjoying everything in my marriage but I told her everything before we married. I had to give her times two for cloths when she found out what I did.
I got the lady`s number from my friend when I was told she was not looking too sound the last time he saw her. She was blaming me for abandoning her and not wanting to see her. The only time we could have seen she refused because I wanted it on my own terms, when I will stop briefly in her town on my way to Abuja (in between my flight).
Now, I am being considered in my state for a position on the executive to prepare me for 2015 elections as the state Governor. The powers that be have concluded plans which I have told them to give me 2 weeks as I consult my family, people and constituency. I know with God it will work because my party is in power.
Now, she is insisting she is still my wife as a result of the registry and will come out if I don`t cooperate with her. I do not want my sponsors to handle her because it is a personal matter.
I want her to mind her life but I cannot pretend because my opponents can use her against me then. I intend meeting with her secretly and can be arranged by my friends but from my inner report she does not want me to settle her out. She told my friend sometime ago that when I decide rule my state she will be the first lady, it is not possible as she throw that dream away.
Should I allow my sponsors handle her or I should make sure no document exist before then?
PLEASE, ADVICE