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Merrymen1:
Dear All,

I have been a member of NL for sometime now, though I have to create this new account for this purpose.

Am happily married with 3 kids (2boys ,1 girl) for 9 years now, equally work as an Engineer in one of the Oil and Gas companies.

I met this Young lady, 2 months ago (Oct 2019), she is 19 yrs (except she tells you, you will doubt it with the last drop of your blood that she is 19 because she looks bigger than her age), though she works with one of our contractors as a causal staff in same company. We started getting along .I was Frank to open up to her that I am married because I don't want issues on the long run in my marriage, she said no issues. Actually ,reason for knowing her, was not for anything trust me, I just wanted someone I would always chat with it or something. I love my wife / kids so dearly that I wouldn't wish anything to cause issues in my home. I have been faithful to my wife ever since we got married.

To fast forward. So at a point, the girl stated telling me that she is having issues with her BF, she sent me screenshot of argument she had with him , how the guy insulted her, calling her names, that she always cheat on him. So I called her and she explained , of a truth, she cheated on him because he wasn't taking care of her. She said the guy stays in other State, while she is in other state. Feeling remorse, she did everything to see the guy each time he comes to town, but he wouldn't want to see her.So I advised her to pls make up with him, it could be he doesn't have the money or something. For the fact he doesn't take care of you, does not mean you should sleep around. I told her the implication of premarital sex, that God frowns at it, and that if she needs anything , she should talk to me than sleeping around, she accepted, and promised not to do it again, and ever since then, I have been there for her financially, but haven't slept with her. I told her she's more of a sister to me than a friend, I do want I do not because of sex but to see her grow as responsible girl with Bright future because she just got admission into higher institution. We've had the opportunity of being all alone in a room, I didn't sleep with her, even though we had a slight romance, I was so conscious. I always tell her I wish to see her grow as a responsible girl with Bright future.

My pains, recently , something happened, I was questioning her, her told me she slept with a guy just last month, I was pissed off, I told her is this how you wish to appreciate what I've been doing for you? you promised me provided I will be there for you financially, you won't sleep around again. Am not pained that I didn't sleep with her, never, afterall, it's not my intention to have it with her , mind you , I love my wife,;rather am pained that she seems not to listen to all I have been telling her about living a good life, sticking to her Bf if at all and quitting such life style.
Though she appolized for her actions, but then I am yet to respond to her. Though she is getting on with her Bf.

Please I need your candid advice on what to do. No abusive language pls.

Guy be sincere to urself then turn the table around....if ur lovely wife do same with. 19yr old boy , including the slight romance, will u like it?