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Richy4:
Wow!!! If she was an Australian, she will be swimming in an Ocean of Money by now.... all she need to do is raise her foot on a couch and watch money coming into her account from the baby daddies left, right and center until they clock 18... unfortunately, she(the baby mama) was born in a wrong country ...

I just have to thank you and your elder sister for making the little girl have a sense of belonging...It's very sweet of you ladies... thanks... as for your brother I have no words for him

Lols unfortunately she is in nigeria no kobo for her , thank you so much we are trying our best and we will never give up on her.

Mariangeles:
What about your parents? Especially your dad?
What's their stance in all these?
I know no responsible father will be alive and allow his son act irresponsibly.

Lol forget about my parents they are afraid of her too , can you imagine on Christmas we were at my sister's place and I snapped a picture of my niece and parents together. My dad has scolded me not to post it on social media cos my sis in law would not be happy. And when I told him she blocked me cos I posted my niece's picture on WhatsApp, he was angry and told me to remove it and I should call my brother to pass the phone to his wife so I can apologise. We children have stand up for our niece but our parents are afraid.

Mariangeles:
Please! She needs all the love she can get. She needs to feel loved.
Make her feel loved and wanted as much as you can. That is what a child truly needs.
Ignore your brother and his wife.

Thanks ,my siblings and I will give her all the love she deserves, even if her father doesn't care it doesn't matter because she will not be the first to be brought up without a father.

Mariangeles:
That is very irresponsible of him.
He's refusing to take responsibility of his wicked acts.
Now, he's forming loyal to his wife, after doing damage.
I also blame the foolish mother of that child for agreeing to date a married man.
Now, they're messing up the life of an innocent child.

You are correct the poor child is here suffering from her parents mistakes but she doesn't deserve to suffer.

Richy4:
wow!!! No nappies, no baby food... no drug or antenatal/ post natal wahala, No cloths for the baby...for 3 to 4 years!!!!!!?

Hmm!!!!That baby mama must be a 'born again' side chick Haba!!!!

Yes nothing from him but I hope she has also learned her lesson because she has already had 2 children before my niece but she didn't learn and choose to date a married man so she is also to blame but as long the child is innocent she doesn't deserve to suffer for his parents mistakes.

bomapelle:
The deed had already been done, the innocent child has not done anything wrong to deserve such hate. You guys should continue to show her love.

We love her and we will never abandon her

Kobojunkie:
So you are essentially here to blame your brother's poor choice on his wife?

Was his wife also the reason your brother cheated and had a baby outside his marriage too? Please wake up! Your brother abandoning the child has nothing to do with the wife, but everything to do with him and him alone. He is the one whose motives you should instead be here questioning.

And as for the baby mama, why hasn't she been to the courts to demand that man pay for the upkeep of the child? Or is her inaction in that area also to be blamed on your brother's wife? This brother's wife could not keep her from invading her marriage but would stop her from visiting the courts to demand your brother pay his share of the upkeep of the child?

No I don't blame her for his cheating because he is old enough, he choose to break the vow he have made to his wife but I blame her for not allowing him to be in his child life. Back in 2018 when the baby was 3 months we had a family meetings and their pastor was also there so they have an agreement he will be sending upkeep money every month which he have never done. Later on he told my sister that his wife doesnt want him to have a relationship with the child but my sister told him he should no matter what. So far for 4 years he hasn't done anything for the child and if it is not for my sister who is sending money whenever she can. So yes he is doing so to protect his marriage and I don't know why she hasn't been to court yet and I can't answer for her
I only answered based on what I know about.

GboyegaD:
He isn't afraid of her. Don't make her the bad person here. If he is afraid of her, he would never have stepped out in the first instance. He's wicked and very selfish. Him not taking any responsibility on the child speaks volume and in case he has doubts about been the father, he should conduct a DNA on the child and act like a real man would.

Dna was done when the child was 7 months he is the father but his wife doesn't want him to be involve with his child but I blame him for listening to her. He is old enough to man up and take care of the child

Foodqueen:
Pray your husband have a child outside, then u will understand her pains.

My dear no women wish for that but if it ever happens I Will not hate the innocent child.

GboyegaD:
So the wife's acting is because your brother gave her the leverage.

Yes he is afraid of her

Kobojunkie:
Your brother does not even pay a kobo for the child's upkeep, not even undercover but na the wife issues you dey query instead?

He has abandon the child to make his wife happy cos she want him to have nothing to do with the child the same way she want all of us to do and what do you want me to do? Is he a child that I have to remind to take care of his child?

Since she knew its expensive, she supposed to use super glue fix it permanently on her ears.

Nonsense

GboyegaD:
Your brother is the major challenge here. He's wicked and callous as the child never demanded to be born. As for his wife, she's not sensible enough to know that the child in question has no fault in all of this.

You are right, he doesn't even pay a kobo for the child upkeep

Truvelisback:
U guys should try and protect that little girl, make hatred and jealousy no go make her poison the girl to death.

You are right even my sister have said the same thing, she has told the baby mama to not allow my brother to take the child to his house cos she might poison or batter her to death.

Hello guys pls help me judge this matter. My elder brother had a child with his side chick , his wife has forgiven but she hate anyone being involved with the child. For like 3 years we haven't been involved with her cos of my sister in law even my parents are afraid to welcome their grand child and they have told us to do the same for peice to reign, but my elder sister who is married said we cannot reject our blood just to make her happy and she see the child every weekend and holidays she spend it at her place and my sister in law doesn't talk to her anymore. Me too I have decided to start seeing her cos we can't neglect our blood just for her and it was my niece 4th birthday this 16th January my other brother and I took her to a restaurant and we snapped a lot of pictures which I have posted on my WhatsApp, boom my sister in law blocked me.
She have three children one is 2 years younger than my niece and she is due for her fourth baby in March, if she has forgiven her husband to the extend of having two more kids I don't understand why she hate the little girl so much. She should be treating her like her own children
Is it right for her to stop us from seeing our niece?

This is madness and not love... Love kiiii you there

Job well done