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Dis ur story is fake ooo. I Ave stopped blvng it when I read d abortion parts. If u truly u ave been married for many years without children u desperately needed children and boom ur aide chick become pregnant u will neva allow her 2 abort in d first place. U would have beg her 2 keep d pregnancy and u just said she had three abortions u r a big liar . come on we are not kids oo stop lying

That I change men like am changing my G-strings

A lesson to others

At their age they can’t contribute to society as much as I can so it would be a waste to do so

I will use koboko and reset her brain first before throwing her out of the house.

Stay clear of what is not your primary duty.

Whoever has put this small girl through such terrible mental and emotional pains shall never know peace here and after

Too painful. Rip.

Thank you for appreciating your wife and acknowledging her worth
You are a man. Congrats once more

Go and contest for delta state governor first and win

Awesome

alpontif:
A Man, a Real Man should understand that his responsibility is primarily to his Children, his blood, as such, that your brother is the Wicked Person.

I will not even blame the wife, women are expected to react that way, only the very few among them that has the holy spirit living in them will be able to show live to anything other than their own offspring.

By not providing for the Child, by listening to his wife, your brother has committed grievous errors,and basically he is still a Simp.

He made a terrible mistake by impregnating another woman, he is now compounding that mistake by refusing to recognise or care for his biological child that he has a spiritual responsibility to, all in the name of trying to please the wife.

If he is not careful, that Child will be the only glorious child in his family, and will surpass all the others, if you try to be unfair in how you deal with innocent souls, Powerful entities have a way of balancing the equation in a manner that will not please you at the end of the day. He is sinning against the innocent child, against himself, against his God by continuing to ignore the Chid because of the wife.

It is not too late, he should man up, recognise the child, build a relationship with the child, provide for the child and make sure that the world sees that he took ownership and responsibility for the sake of natural justice to the Child..

Continuing on this path will cause issues for his wife's children in future, I have seen this play out in many cases.

Your brother should be a man. Men, Real Men fear no one, they are only accountable to God and their Conscience.. He should do the right thing, even if it will make his wife unhappy. Better that the wife is unhappy, than an innocent child's spirit be angry with him.

Thank you so much. You have spoken well , I agree with everything you have said

You are covered with the blood of Jesus

So so terrible.

No this is not Jaruma that I know.

He has right to choose and do what please him.

Great news.

It’s absolutely wrong.

She was under the annoiting leave her alone.

Looking good

That is good

Suffering and smiling

So disheartening

God bless the giver

Acidosis:
It's clear you're a good person but your sister-in-law might misconstrue the intentions of your family. She probably feels that you guys didn't do enough to caution your brother. With all this, one might assume that y'all condoned his behaviour

3-4 years doesn't seem like a long time. That's just a year before Covid19. You all should give her time to process everything.

About popping more babies, you can't blame her. She didn't get herself pregnant. Trying to sound like she's all at fault is why I assumed you guys are either making excuses for your brother or condoling certain behaviour.

Ideally, your elder sister cannot assume the role of the girl's father. The best she can do is talk to your brother to take up his responsibility.

Don't misunderstand me about popping babies I have no problem with that cos children are blessing but all I was trynna say is if she has forgiven the cheater to the extend of adding Two more kids in less than two years with c section and why is she finding hard to acknowledge the child and allow us to have a relationship with her without her blocking us. Don't you think she should transfer her aggression to her husband who broke the vow he made to her and not us. Anyway I think I should do the same thing as my sister did is to ignore and focus on other things. My brother and sis are not in good terms cos of this same issue

Acidosis:
Don't you all think that you're doing too much? "Your blood" "our blood", etc. yet the owner of the blood doesn't care. From all indications, the girl isn't suffering. She's in the care of her mom and her mom's family.

If your brother goes on to get more side chicks' pregnant, what are you going to do?

No we are not doing too much we are doing the right thing for her we are showing her love and care so she will not feel left out. Being with her mother doesn't mean she have everything or her mother is doing well , she is not working and she has three children. We don't want our blood to suffer for her parents mistakes and my sister is buoyant to support her. If he get another side chick pregnant then he will be on his own.

Twenty8:
In a case their roles were reversed and ur brother's wife cheated on him and had a child outside their marriage, would your brother have still kept the marriage going? The woman is having hard to coming to terms with ur brother's actions, so don't blame her she's still just finding it hard.

She had the choice to leave or remain even the bible allow divorce if adultery is committed and she choose to remain with him. Hard to come to term after 4 yeats but she still popping more kids it doesn't even make sense.

Mariangeles:
If she doesn't want anything to do with the child, it is understandable.
But cutting you and your sister off because you simply care for the child, now that is wickedness. She wants the child to suffer.
You and your sister are better off without her.

Or did you and your sister make friends with your niece's mother?

No we are not friend ooo I have never spoke with her on phone before but my sister does speak with her only when it's necessary like if she want to speak to the child or when she send them money or when she want the child to come over to her place. It is her half brother who brings her anytime she visit my sister.

Foodqueen:
Then, let her do whatever she wants with her phone. And u too upload whoever u want to upload with your phone.

She isn't violating anybody's right.
Let her be...

OK as long as she is not the giver of my life or my niece's life , I will let her be then

Kobojunkie:
She didn't stop you from having a relationship with the child though. All she can do is block you . So why do interprete that to mean she doesn't want you to have a relationship with the child?

Yes she does because she did the same thing to my elder sister before they were 5 and 6 and she has stopped talking to her after she started having a relationship with niece. She went to make her hair at my sister place and when she saw my niece was there her mood has changed after she left she started ignoring her calls and text messages until she blocked her. She is bee
ignoring her on the school run too. Now she blocked me and my brother will be next if he dare to post her pics too. It is not about her it's about the innocent child here ,we will never abandon our blood whether she like or not.

Acidosis:
Your sister-in-law may have forgiven her husband but not the side chick and the family that raised, nurtured, and allowed him to be irresponsible.

You have no right to condemn her. Forgiveness is not forgetfulness. Moreover, she needs everything to forget the incidence, and that includes taking the child faraway from her until she's ready and willing to accommodate her.

Nobody want her to accommodate the child that but my point is why doesn't she want us to have a relationship with our niece . We were in good terms no problem at all but after I posted her pics she blocked me , it is not fair na

1F30M4:
The truth is that your sister in-law cannot and maybe would never get over the fact that her husband(your brother) didn't just lay with another but impregnated her as well. She may have forgiven her husband but she really doesn't want to have anything to do with his child(the product of his infidelity), it's what she wants and her husband has no issue abiding by it, lemme guess he's trying to make peace after cheating on her, unfortunately he'll have to do that for the rest of his life.

However, it's not in her place to say your family shouldn't be in the child's life. She's just really scared, that I know for sure. As the legally married wife, she doesn't want her children to be seen/treated as anything other than the legitimate offsprings of her husband. She wants y'all(her in-laws) to be on her side by refusing to relate with the other woman's child, that self-satisfaction that her in-laws only recognizes her & her children as theirs.

I wish to commend the courage of your elder sister, she's right after all. To you and your brother, bless your souls for giving the little girl a birthday treat. Just like everyone, she deserves to be happy, she didn't ask to be caught up in this web. I really don't want to believe your sister in-law will cut all her in-laws off like that, that's like going overboard but if she does, then so be it, just leave her be. As for your brother, y'all don't be surprised when he starts giving off odd vibes. It will be tough ngl.

However, it's not in her place to say your family shouldn't be in the child's life.

Thank you have answered my question it is not her place .