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cococandy:
I don't believe you. You sound stingy.

Well there's no way I can prove that to you, so its left to you to blv or not. Or you wan use style take throw me bill to prove it?

cococandy:
Donatus go and be your wife's ATM too. Maybe she will stop talking to her ex

I dey pay scatter and steady, my wife know sey am weak in that aspect of super-glueing my hands. Na part fof the reason wey d matter dey pain me sey na 1 yeye ex she think sey she go dey use try keep my toes on the ground. Fire! hell naw!!

cococandy:
You think I liked that post? I haven't even been online. You're obsessed with me the way you're obsessed with your wife's ex

Now I've to go like the post just to pepper you.
Even though I've nothing against your mother.
See the way the post will get two likes now cos of me.

Ngozi, na so u dey always bill ur husband like sey hin be ATM machine. see ur mouth like " See the way the post will get two likes now cos of me" nor let me change am for u ooo.

baby124:
You are a big fool. Your own mother is a mad woman for birthing a mistake like you. Your mother will die in shame, disgrace and disease for making such a stupid mistake not to use you as menstratipn. Your mother must be a bastard. You think you get mouth? Which sane woman married you? You sef will now be cali g yourself a married man. O ba furo iya e, won ni jere omo. Ofo ni won ma de titi lai. Olosi, oloriburuku. Oko werey! Mad idiot. The fool that married you is who I pity, she will do better with her ex. You were obviously a mistake and a one night stand that trapped her. I now see why she regrets. You are not a man and you can never be. Your mother must be a curse for giving birth to an slowpoke like you.

He pain am, I can feel and see that. I am glad it did. And its quite obvious its that yeye ashawo omo ibo stupidcandy that is liking your pathway to ruins and self destruction. Oloriburuku omo

baby124:
Don't mind him. See his mouth like razor. Husband that keeps grudges, fights, has low self esteem because of one hulk of an ex. Lol. Is that one a husband?

OP, I thought you were forming that you are too bad. They said you should divorce Na, now you are fighting? It's obvious you trapped your wife with pregnancy after all you are the holder of the sperm. Only to hold that against her and use it to make her feel guilty to stay with you. From what we see here, you no be husband material. You better wake up and grow up before your worst nightmare comes true. Oko elenu razor, is that one a husband? See big fight because they say you should do your worst and divorce your wife! Are you not the one here talking as if you don't love her and your marriage was a mistake? Yeye de smell. You can't fool us here. Wife trapper.

Oloriburuku ni iya to bi e. I never complained about the fact that she got pregnant for me. The basic topic here is her bringing up her ex when its not needed. I did not lie unlike others looking for sympathy, i said whenever I seldom bring up the ex issue is to correct her notion that she has never done wrong, I always hate to repeat the past, but she always feel am the devil while shes the saint. Whereas, in this marriage, she has done far more worse than a sane woman should do, and yet I still keep her? Una dey mad, u and that yeye stupicandy.

cococandy:
Everyone can't be in your shoes Oga
Back to sender to you 100 times.
No need to even say it. It's already it at your doorstep.
Failed maga that can't even own responsibility for his own actions.

Your husband dont spoil u cos he loves u, cos ur a typical useless Igbo girl that loves Adultery. He is only trying to tie u down with the spoiling so u nor go go Bleep outside. Useless lady.

cococandy:
Then get a divorce let's hear word

Birds of the same feather. You can never get married, and if u are, ur marriage will crash.

Does any responsible male or female here realise that there are ladies that lack the integrity of a real woman? I am sure none of these cretins are married or would have a successful marriage. My woman knows I cant do nada even if her ex came saying hi, like I said my maturity don pass that level. My wife lies too much and it ha been destroying the relationship gradually, only grace of hope that things will turn around is what I am still continuing with. The last lie she told about her whereabout caused me so much heart-ache, that I had to beg her to let me go, I could not muster the pain of having married to a dishonest woman, only married people here can feel me. I blv my expression that she should let me go was what got her emotionally troubled that led to her childish act. I repeat, I am 87% sure the ex was never there.

poshestmina:
Is the ex looking for you to beat you up or what or are you in anyway indebted to him? Why would you leave a place because your ex is there?

Such childishness! and who still remembers an ex boyfriend after 6 years of being married? It's either she still has feelings for him or she is ashamed of showing you off!

Lol, show me off? who them wan show me off to? Plus I am very good looking, no prouding, and shes always wanting to show me off to her friends. so the ex is not am exemption.

lelvin:
Here is my advice.
Kill her ex. Kill him in your mind, to you he doesn't exist. End of story. Never acknowledge an ex. Never! If you can do that, everything else will fall into place. And it seems you don't really have a life outside your family, you can work on that too. Going to a bar just for an hour or two is not a bad idea. You could buy malt if you don't take alcohol. Spend some time away from your family, get to meet new people. And finally, warn your wife never to involve a third party. God bless your family

In all Honesty, her ex means nothing to me and my marriage, I just have a problem with the way she carries her ex like she classifies him as still being an important person in her life. You can imagine being out with ur wife and she comes rushing down to you that u guys should leave cos er ex was around to avoid him coming to say hi? Haba! Me don pass this level nah. I get ex's wey my wife don go dig for my fb when we got married, she knows they are top competion for the wife position, I vhose her, even though it was fast process, I nevr for once try to make her feel jealous over my ex's. I stated an example in my former post.

ifyalways:
Ol'boy. This na proper house of Ex's

See marriage now.

@OP, I think you and your wife should invite your Ex's so you guys can thrash this out once and for all then have a big happy reunion

Bro i am quite matured in handling ex's issues but depends on the occurrence. For example, if its coming across her ex unexpectedly, I could say whats up and thats all, no time for even allowing him or her exchange further convo, we move straight. But in a situation whereby we invitee each other to thrash wetin? hell naw. person wey don tell my wife b4 sey if him come visit her, he might kiss her. And the dude is married with two kids. You can imagine.

baby124:
You really know how to jump to conclusions and hold grudges don't you? What if her ex was really there and she wanted to avoid a confrontation? Let's not forget that you have taunted her jealously about this ex for many years. Yet you claim not to be intimidated by him. I think you are jealous of the ex and intimidated by him. You are blaimibg everyone but yourself for your flaws. You met a girl and within the month had unprotected sex with her which led to your own child. Yet you use that scenario as a case for caution online to faceless people. So you wash your child and wife online. Your wife is really trying putting up with you. You are paranoid, bitter, unforgiving, troublemaker and attention seeker. Grow up. Not saying your wife does not have her flaws in the beginning, but you took it to another level entirely.

I cant blame you, you are still a baby judging from your handle. Do you know me or how i run my home? So how come you come at me like that without knowing the roots of how I have been handing the woman i hv been living with for 6years. Plz mind ur statement, you dont sound matured at all.

thorpido:
Well you rushed yourselves into marriage and you both didn't have the time to sort things out between yourselves.
She still has a connection with her ex and you need to keep talking to her to let go,have the patience to wait and be more affirmative.

Sorry I cant do that, the more she would hear of her ex from me, the more she plans to use the ex against me. I dont even sound like his ex exist at all.

eezeribe:
This is a story of Ex's...There is really nothing much to make out of this Narrative essay.
First of all,you married your wife because of pregnancy pressure,maybe you didn't really know her past... maybe she never or doesn't really love you and vice versa.
I think she may have been having some flings with the Ex even while still married,or maybe she uses the real or imaginary Ex to constantly put you under a subtle chase or jealousy for her own selfish interest.
Just continue to caution or reproach her about the issue and I don't see it causing any major disagreement because the Matter is just too Trivial to cause a divorce.

To correct your assertion as to if she loves me or not. Yes she does, but she feels I dont love her as much as she expects which in turn she uses her ex as a weapon to get me jealous when the need arises. But it has never worked, so am surprise why she kept using the same logic.

Its been 6 years already into my marriage, thanks to the grace of God marrying a woman you only knew for a month got pregnant and due to family pressure I had to marry her. But 6 years into it, you guys can imagine a lot one has to go through to still keep the marriage together. There are many and plenty issues, but I want to put one through to you guys that till date, its still an issue that arises once in a while, I would say its my fault from the beginning, but at a point, I ordered a nullification to the issue, but my wife still come up with it attimes. The issue is her EX.

When we started dating, she made so many mentions about her ex, in which I obliged to listen to her, then some few years into our marriage, she started calling her ex when we have issues, she;ll tell it to my face that she called her ex n bla bla bla, I put my foot on the ground that she is not allowed to do such as long as shes married to me. In which later, I found out that she saved her ex's name as something else on her phone. Anyways 4-5 years into it, his name didnt come up. Actually if I did bring up the issue of her ex, its only because when she denies any wrong doing in the past, I always remind her of the things I uncovered with her ex, that if I were to be another man, she would have been out of the marriage,I understand the past is the past, but you need to remind some women of some things, because shes the type that does not admit to wrong doings. We had issues some days ago, and she was trying to claim being trustworthy while repeatedly lieing over and over again, so I said if with the things I have uncovered with you and ur ex in the past, and in the present, when u tell me ur in surulere, and ur infact in Igando, it shows that ur not trustworthy. That was the example that I made oo, that the ex surfaced, two days after, we went to the pub at night, enjoying our karaoke, I then walked to the fron where the dj is @ to speak with him, next thing my wife came to meet me that baby lets go, my ex is here, she actually mentioned his name, i dnt want to mention here reason why i said ex is here, I was like why, she said she does not want him to come say hi to her, i was like, was he the one that brought us here, she then said again lets go, i just stylishly hush her up by turning to the dj and continuing my talk, then later I walked her down to our seat, she said plz lets go, I was like, ok let him come and say hi, its no big deal, next thing she would say is, well he has gone. Which I very much doubt the dude was even around. Funny thing is, I really dnt care about this her ex, but to me she feels the ex seems to be a reckoning force that will move me off my feet which is not, but her using her ex with style is really annoying and makes my love for her diminish. Nlanders, from that night until now, there was no mention of her ex, though i wanted to caution her about her actions that it was unacceptable, but I didnt so she wont be thinking her plan that night worked.I think couples need to respect each other regardless, the other day, we were @ d mall, walking down to the atm, I saw my ex, immediately I turned right acting like we were suppose to check something at the other side, she knew something was wrong, we got home and she asked me, and I told her it was my ex that i saw, but i didnt want to take the risk of going further there cos she told me b4 that she never wanted to meet any of my ex's, to me I have reciprocated the respect that I expected from her when involving ex's in our marital life. Should I still address this issue with her? Or the best way I handled the issue at the pub was the best and should leave it at that? Thanks yall!!